The Debrief with Staci & Ruthie

Ever had one of those mornings where everyone’s cold, cranky, overdressed or underdressed… and you can feel your nervous system climbing the walls?

In this episode of The Debrief with Staci & Ruthie, we’re talking about listening to your body—not in a perfect, aesthetic, “wellness influencer” way… but in real life. Like:

1. your kid insisting on the fancy velvet dress on the coldest day of the year
2. teenagers making “poor clothing choices” and living with the consequences
3. the moment you realize pushing through isn’t making you stronger… it’s making you fried

We dive into:

1. Listening to your body as a mom (and letting your kids do it too)
2. What a “mental health day” can look like without guilt
3. Cycle syncing 101: why women don’t have the same 24-hour hormone rhythm as men
4. How each cycle phase can change your energy, mood, cravings, and social capacity
5. Practical “micro-rest” ideas (even if you can’t take a full day off)
6. Why hoarding PTO can be a burnout badge we need to retire
7. Nervous system regulation in the moment: reading the temperature of the room and choosing a reset (hello, belt-it-out car karaoke)

Your challenge for the week: Listen to your body in one small tangible way—and respond accordingly. Then tell us what you did so we can all borrow the idea.

As mentioned in this episode:

Syncing Beauty (podcast) — Brandi Roe https://open.spotify.com/episode/39t76lSJD70UzFiuvZmwGQ?si=pG7rRNy1RHWdYDmR_2Qxiw

Attitude changing version of Elvira — Home Free & Oakridge Boys

https://open.spotify.com/track/6UbcthjdWBvqsOqW1n85VJ?si=da6bb75e86b641b1

Thanks for hanging out with us on The Debrief with Staci & Ruthie. 🤍

If today’s episode brought up something heavy, please don’t carry it alone:

Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7). If you are in immediate danger, call 911 or go to your nearest ER.

Want to support first responders and their mental health? Check out Beyond the Sirens https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582416343581

And if you’re in a season of burnout recovery, healing, or rebuilding your life from the inside out, Staci offers 1:1 coaching for women who want practical tools and compassionate support. https://www.stacikilecoaching.com/

Trigger note: This episode includes honest discussion bringing up COVID, mental health care, healthcare burnout, and systemic gaps. Please take care of yourself as you listen.

In today’s episode, we’re having one of those conversations that healthcare workers often have quietly—if at all.

After more than 20 years working across EMS, emergency medicine, and inpatient care, we’re unpacking what it feels like to work inside a system that often prioritizes algorithms, throughput, and crisis management over root-cause healing.

We talk candidly about:

1. What happens when patients cycle through the system without real change
2. The heartbreaking gaps in mental health care and crisis response
3. “Treat ’em and street ’em” culture—and how it impacts patients and providers
4. Why prevention and education so often get sidelined
5. The tension between protocol, liability, and human-centered care
6. How burnout grows when you know there has to be a better way

This is not medical advice. This is lived experience—from the back of an ambulance, the ER hallway, and the quiet moments where providers wrestle with what they wish healthcare looked like.

If you’ve ever felt disillusioned, conflicted, or burned out by the system—this conversation is for you. This isn’t about blaming providers or patients—it’s about naming the cracks in a system that leaves too many people unheard, untreated, and exhausted.

Thanks for hanging out with us on The Debrief with Staci & Ruthie. 🤍

If today’s episode brought up something heavy, please don’t carry it alone:

Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7). If you are in immediate danger, call 911 or go to your nearest ER.

Want to support first responders and their mental health? Check out Beyond the Sirens https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582416343581

And if you’re in a season of burnout recovery, healing, or rebuilding your life from the inside out, Staci offers 1:1 coaching for women who want practical tools and compassionate support. https://www.stacikilecoaching.com/

1. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call or text 988 (U.S.)
2. NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – Education & advocacy
3. https://www.nami.org

1. American College of Lifestyle Medicine
2. https://lifestylemedicine.org

Marriage.

For a lot of us, the word alone brings up fairy-tale expectations—thanks to movies like The Princess Bride and the idea that love should be effortless once you find “the one.”

But real marriage?

It’s built over time. In conversations. In hard seasons. In choosing each other again and again.

In this episode, Staci and Ruthie talk honestly about what long-term marriage really looks like—from growing up together, learning (the hard way) that your spouse cannot read your mind, and navigating careers, deployments, kids, burnout, and changing seasons of life.

They share why marrying your best friend matters, how expectations can quietly sabotage connection, and why it’s okay—and necessary—to say no to good things so you can say yes to your spouse.

This conversation is for anyone who:

1. Loves their spouse but feels stretched thin
2. Is navigating a demanding season of work, parenting, or service
3. Wonders if marriage can still feel safe, connected, and worth it
4. Is single and questioning what actually matters in choosing a partner

Marriage isn’t about perfection.

It’s about choosing each other... especially when it’s messy.

Thanks for hanging out with us on The Debrief with Staci & Ruthie. 🤍

1. The Princess Bride – Because “mawwiage” shaped a generation https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B0FKT4YT9W/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r
2. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands – A mindset-shifting read on expectations in marriage https://a.co/d/hnDOiWa
3. Love & Respect – Referenced concept of the “crazy cycle” https://a.co/d/h1sSdma

If today’s episode brought up something heavy, please don’t carry it alone:

Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7). If you are in immediate danger, call 911 or go to your nearest ER.

Want to support first responders and their mental health? Check out Beyond the Sirens 👉https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582416343581

And if you’re in a season of burnout recovery, healing, or rebuilding your life from the inside out, Staci offers 1:1 coaching for women navigating burnout, identity shifts, and nervous system regulation who want practical tools and compassionate support.

👉https://www.stacikilecoaching.com