We are continuing our theme of living in the Messy Middle by looking at what it means to hold on to the things that matter while also letting go. Sometimes, we must let go of the things that don't matter (distractions), but often this lifestyle asks us to let go of things or people that do. In this episode, I bring author and friend Lindsay Swoboda on the podcast to share what she learned from writing her new memoir "Holding on and Letting Go: A Life in Motion". Not only is her storytelling amazing and lyrical (I don't know how else to describe it), but her experiences are ones you will definitely relate to. Now that she and her husband Ryan are transitioning into retirement, she shares what it means to let go of this life she has known for decades. Don't miss this episode I describe as the big hug you didn't know you needed.

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The USO is launching a new virtual series with Corie and Matt Weathers on how military families can stay strong while apart. Corie and Matt Weathers will share how they are keeping their military marriage strong through a season apart - as well as tips for how you can do the same.

Tools and concepts discussed during the series apply to all types of military-initiated separations; from deployments and trainings, to geo-bachelor tours, unaccompanied tours, and even third shift schedules.

This episode talks about the feelings that come with having to say goodbye. Everyone knows it is hard, but what if you feel a little bit of relief? Is that wrong? How do you set your sights forward and get on mission? Plus a special guest joins in the discussion...

To access the Series dashboard, including the videos and handouts: https://www.uso.org/campaign/mvp-youre-leaving-again

If you are looking for professional help, be sure to check out the LIfegiver Directory- full of clinicians that understand your lifestyle. Many of them are military spouses and veterans. find it here: www.lifegiverdirectory.com

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On the Season 8 opener, we are talking all about how to recognize if we are managing our relationships to our own personal detriment. You may think you are helping, but what if you are only hurting yourself by walking on eggshells and not being fully honest or congruent with yourself? We’re diving in quickly on this season opener!

Mentioned in this episode:

Squared Away We exist to make work better by letting you focus solely on what matters. We are your trusted assistants. This entire journey started because Michelle, our CEO & Co-founder couldn’t get a job due to her being a military spouse. Constantly changing bases meant being in a different city at a moment’s notice. Everywhere she went, she met others with the same story. Highly educated, ready to work, struggling to find a job. Military spouses.

Jennifer Hamrick: Once You See Racism: A Christian, White, Southern Woman’s Journey from Being Oblivious to Racism to Seeing it Clearly

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Song Credits: "You and Me" Tamas Kolozsvari

Matt and I did a webinar and Q&A on the Insanity Cycle that happens too often in marriage conflict. It was a two hour event, the first hour public and the second a private Q&A over Zoom with registered participants.

This is the first hour where Matt and I walk you through why couples find themselves looping sometimes on the same argument- for years. It is common for couples to get into an unhealthy pattern of triggering each other. Getting out of that pattern is the hard part. Once you start triggering each other, it is hard to get out of that downward spiral we call the Insanity Cycle. Are you ready to change the way you and your spouse fight? Are you ready to end the unhealthy patterns and get back to respecting each other?

Here is some of what we cover in this episode:

• A walk through the Insanity Cycle and how couples stay stuck in it
• How a couple tends to include a Pursuer and a Withdrawer
• How you are both feeling and saying the same thing but not hearing each other
• How the Pursuer and Withdrawer trigger each other to continue the Insanity Cycle
• Ways you can stop the Cycle of hurt and destruction in your marriage
• How you can play the "Maturity Game" speak lifegiving truth to your spouse

If you would like to hear Part 2, where we take your questions and dive deeper, you can find it on the LG Shop! This digital download includes Part 1 & 2 Videos as well as a listening guide to help you apply it to your life and marriage. While you're there, take a look at some of the other digital downloads as well!

Peter Docker served for 25 years as a Royal Air Force senior officer and has seen service across the globe as a Force Commander during combat flying operations. His career has spanned from professional pilot, teaching postgraduates at the UK’s Defence College, to flying the British prime minister around the world. He has also led multibillion-dollar international procurement projects and served as a crisis manager and former international negotiator for the UK government. As a trained leadership consultant and executive coach, Peter has worked across 92 countries with clients like Google, Four Seasons Hotels, Accenture, American Express, ASOS, EY, NBC Universal and over 100 more.

Peter Docker, co-author of Find Your Why and formerly a founding Igniter at Simon Sinek Inc., is passionate about enabling people to unlock their natural talents and teaches leadership that is focused on commitment and human connection.

His latest book, Leading from the Jumpseat, delivers the message that leadership is about lifting people up and giving them the space they need so that, when the time is right, they can take the lead.

Learn more about Peter by visiting his website, https://www.leadingfromthejumpseat.com/

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Song Credits: "You and Me" Tamas Kolozsvari

How do you decide when to hold steadfast and persevere? When to walk away? When to run away? Life is a gamble, a risk. We do everything we can to make good, right decisions with what we have in the moment. Yet the hardest thing to do is walking away and saying "no". It feels like too big of a risk. Yet, this year has gotten too big for all of us- asking us to make a choice. You can't do it all and neither can I. Listen in for updates on how 2020 affected me and what I am doing with the cards I have in hand.

Interested in Joining Fight Club- A Virtual Support Group for Military & First Responder Spouses? Starts Jan 11, 2021 Apply here: https://forms.gle/RCf8jYnq5bdkEZiHA

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Music by Rudy Vaughn

Episode 2, Season 4

What happens when a veteran, a military spouse, and a first responder spouse sit down and talk about life together?

I often get asked, do we really have that much in common? Why would I have a podcast where I address the needs of both military and first responders? Because we have a whole lot more in common than you think.

In this episode, I bring Ashley and Sarah on the podcast to talk about our different worlds and we would love for you to join us.

Sarah is a first responder spouse, whose husband is now on the local SWAT team. She brings authenticity and humor that will brighten anyone's day.

Ashley, calling in from Italy, is a veteran herself by has retired and is now a military spouse. For those who don't know, we call that a dual service family. She brings a perspective that all of use should pay attention to.

Grab a cup of coffee or tea and pretend you are sitting at the table with us. You will definitely be changed by this conversation.

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In this episode, Corie sits down with Special Ops couple Mark and Caroline as they share their journey through the hardships and pain unique to a service marriage. Listen in as they recount how they were able to hold each other's experiences while also working through their own personal struggles. Be inspired as they tell of the deep joy and intimacy that only suffering can produce and find encouragement in knowing that your marriage can flourish as a result of this lifestyle.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast https://adamyoungcounseling.com/podcast/

Leading on Empty by Wayne Cordeiro

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Song Credits: “By Your Side” written by Justin Prin