How do you trust yourself again when part of the reason you don’t trust yourself is because of your own track record?

It’s easy to say, “trust yourself,” until you start thinking about the decisions you regret, the promises you didn’t keep, the times you knew better, or how often somebody else’s certainty started feeling safer than your own judgment.

In this episode of The Confident Woman, Rachel Brooks opens up a deeper conversation about self-trust, confidence, faith, and what happens when your past starts becoming evidence against who you are now.

Because after enough mistakes, disappointments, broken promises, and second-guessing, it’s easy to start wondering if your “picker is off,” if somebody else probably knows better, or if you can really trust yourself to make the next decision.

But for a woman of faith, there’s another layer to this: if our ultimate trust belongs to God, what does healthy self-trust actually look like?

Rachel explores the tension between seeking wisdom and outsourcing your authority, the difference between learning from a mistake and turning it into an identity, and why confidence doesn’t have to mean knowing you’ll always get it right. Sometimes the deeper work is learning how to make the best decision you can with what you know today while trusting God with what you cannot see.

In this episode:

• How broken promises and second-guessing slowly erode self-trust
• Why somebody else’s certainty can start feeling safer than your own judgment
• The difference between receiving wisdom and surrendering your authority
• What Proverbs 3:5–6 changes about trust, discernment, and confidence
• How guilt and shame can turn “I got that wrong” into “I can’t trust myself”
• Why your track record isn’t finished

One question sits underneath the entire conversation:

Do I become what I’ve done, or do I become who He says I am because of what He did?

Because maybe the answer isn’t proving that you’ll never make another wrong decision. Maybe it’s learning how to stop using your past as a permanent verdict on the woman you are becoming.

If this episode helps you recognize where you’ve stopped trusting yourself, Becoming The Confident Woman gives you somewhere to keep going with the work instead of having another realization that disappears tomorrow.

It’s an eight-week private audio mentorship with Rachel in your ear and a companion workbook to help you see what’s been shaping you, question what no longer fits, and begin making different choices from here.

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Scripture referenced: Proverbs 3:5–6

What happens when you lose your patience, regret the way you responded, and immediately make yourself the entire problem?

It’s easy to replay the worst few seconds, criticize yourself, apologize, and decide you simply need to do better next time without ever asking what had been building long before the words came out.

In this episode of The Confident Woman Podcast, Rachel opens an honest conversation about what frustration can reveal when you’ve become the capable, dependable woman everyone expects to handle it. She explores the difference between taking responsibility for your response and turning against yourself, especially when your time, energy, attention, and emotional capacity have been treated as though they’re always available.

This isn’t about excusing the reaction or blaming everyone around you. It’s about being willing to look at the whole picture so you can understand what got you there, what you haven’t communicated, and whether the role you’ve been playing still fits the woman you’re becoming.

This conversation will help you see:

• Why one response doesn’t erase the growth God has already done in you
• How being capable can slowly become an expectation that you’ll always be available
• What happens when people mistake your presence for access to your time and energy
• Why resentment often builds when you say yes before checking whether you actually have the capacity or desire
• How fear of disappointing people can keep you repeating patterns that are wearing you down
• Why being needed isn’t always the same as being valued
• What your body may be telling you before you’ve admitted that something isn’t working
• How becoming more patient may also require becoming more honest

Taking responsibility for how you responded doesn’t mean you have to ignore what the response may be revealing. You can care about someone else’s needs, own your part, and still recognize when clearer communication, stronger boundaries, or a different way of handling something is necessary.

Ready to Go Deeper?

The Becoming Identity Planner & Journal gives you space to step back and look honestly at what’s happening across your responsibilities, relationships, body, joy, worth, boundaries, and decisions.

This isn’t about adding more tasks to an already overloaded life. It’s about seeing the patterns beneath the pressure, understanding what your reactions may be connected to, and deciding what the woman you’re becoming needs to do differently, one honest page and one real decision at a time.

Begin with The Becoming Identity Planner & Journal

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Scripture referenced: James 1:19

What do you reach for when you do not know what to do?

When life feels uncertain, something is no longer working, and you cannot see what comes next, it is natural to start searching for an answer. A plan. A process. A person who has already crossed the bridge and can hand you the exact map she followed.

But what happens when someone else’s blueprint was never created for you?

In this episode of The Confident Woman, Rachel Brooks opens an honest conversation about the ways uncertainty can make us vulnerable to outside promises, world-created identities, and systems that appear to offer certainty. She shares the shadow side of always being the woman who makes things happen, why self-reliance can look like confidence and responsibility, and what begins to happen when we trust someone else’s strategy more than our own discernment and God’s direction.

Because when the process does not work, we rarely question the process first.

We question ourselves.

This conversation explores:

• Why uncertainty sends us searching for external answers
• The shadow side of being an active doer and “making things happen”
• How the backwards do, have, be script keeps women performing
• The difference between receiving support and surrendering your discernment
• Why tools, plans, and strategies can help us but cannot become our source
• How following the wrong blueprint slowly erodes identity, confidence, and self-trust
• What it means to return to who you are and whose you are

The world will continue packaging a more polished, productive, successful, and acceptable version of you and telling you that she is waiting on the other side of one more thing.

But God is not asking you to purchase another identity.

He is calling you back into relationship with Him so you can become more of who He already created you to be.

Ready to Go Deeper?

Becoming The Confident Woman is a private eight-week audio journey with a companion workbook created to help you examine the identities, beliefs, expectations, and patterns that have been directing your life.

This is not another blueprint asking you to perform a different version of yourself. It is a guided space to get quiet, tell yourself the truth, reconnect with who you are and whose you are, and begin making your next decisions from identity rather than pressure.

Begin Becoming The Confident Woman

Continue the Conversation:

Follow Rachel at @iamrachelbrooks and join Create Your Own Story on Substack for deeper personal essays, honest conversations, and the stories behind the work.

Listen, subscribe, and share this episode with the woman who may be questioning herself because someone else’s blueprint did not fit her life.

Scripture referenced: Matthew 14:22–33 and Philippians 4:13