Dating a Melancholic | Catholic Temperaments

In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, we continue our Temperaments in Dating series with the Melancholic temperament.

If you’re a Catholic single dating someone who’s melancholic (or you are melancholic), this one will help you sidestep common pitfalls—like dismissing emotions, rushing decisions, or taking silence personally—and replace them with practical “do’s” that build trust, clarity, and real connection.

We talk about:
• The biggest don’ts when dating a melancholic
• How to validate emotions without validating the story
• Why melancholics need time to process decisions
• How to handle perfectionism and high ideals in a healthy way
• What actually helps them feel safe, seen, and understood

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Dating a Sanguine can be amazing… and also confusing if you don’t understand what they need.

In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin continue their Temperaments & Dating series with the Sanguine temperament—sharing practical do’s and don’ts to help Catholic singles build connection, avoid common triggers, and date with clarity.

You’ll learn:
• Why criticism and judgment can shut a Sanguine down
• Why Sanguines react strongly to feeling controlled or “boxed in”
• How to avoid unnecessary conflict by respecting their need for freedom
• Why their playfulness isn’t shallowness
• How to connect through joy, creativity, and emotional expression
• Simple ways to be more engaging on dates (even if you’re introverted)

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Dating can feel intense—especially when strong personalities, clear goals, and big expectations enter the picture.

In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin kick off a new Temperaments & Dating series by focusing on the Choleric temperament and what Catholic singles need to know when dating one (or discovering they are one).

You’ll learn:
•How Cholerics approach dating, goals, and commitment
•The biggest do’s and don’ts that either build connection or create
tension
•Why directness, ambition, and intensity can be gifts—or triggers
•How to communicate clearly without overthinking or people-
pleasing
•How to discern a relationship without rushing or forcing outcomes

This episode is designed to help Catholic singles:
•Understand what’s happening under the hood
•Stop taking things personally that aren’t personal
•Date with curiosity, confidence, and virtue

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In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt sits down with Catholic therapist Dr. Gerry Crete to talk about a growing challenge in today’s mental health conversations: the overuse and misunderstanding of psychological language.

Words like trauma, narcissism, abuse, and mental health are being used more than ever—but are we always using them correctly?

Together, they explore:
• When therapy language helps—and when it harms
• The difference between real trauma and ordinary human struggle
• Why labeling too quickly can actually block healing
• How to recognize when someone truly needs professional support
• The difference between coaching, therapy, and spiritual direction
• How compassion, discernment, and humility restore clarity

Dr. Crete also shares insights from his work as a therapist, author of Litanies of the Heart, and founder of Souls & Hearts, helping listeners understand how healing, faith, and psychology work together—not against each other.

If you’ve ever wondered whether something is “trauma,” struggled with self-diagnosis, or felt confused about where coaching ends and therapy begins, this episode will bring clarity and peace.

🎧 Listen in and learn how to approach healing with wisdom, humility, and hope.

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In this Christmas episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin unpack the hidden Christian message woven into these beloved classics. Through a mindset-coaching lens, they explore how these stories reveal conversion, repentance, gratitude, and redemption—even though they’re not explicitly religious films.

Using the idea of metanoia (a deep interior shift of heart and mind), they break down:
• George Bailey’s journey from bitterness and sacrifice to gratitude
and joy
• Ebenezer Scrooge’s conversion through memory, compassion, and
foresight
• How entitlement, resentment, and scarcity blind us to what’s
already good
• Why gratitude is the gateway to freedom and renewal
• How these stories model Ignatian reflection and discernment

Matt and Erin also show how every great story echoes the Greatest Story Ever Told—the story of redemption written on every human heart.

This episode will help you:
• Understand why these movies resonate so deeply
• Learn how to “watch with spiritual eyes”
• Apply the same reflective tools to your own life through journaling
and prayer

Whether you’re watching on Christmas Eve, during the Octave of Christmas, or any time of year, this conversation invites you to rediscover the hope, joy, and conversion that Christmas offers—right now.

🎄 Merry Christmas from the Catholic Coaching Podcast.

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Dating as a Catholic—especially in college—can feel overwhelming, confusing, and high-pressure. Between time constraints, expectations, fear of temptation, and the desire to “do it right,” many people end up stuck or avoiding dating altogether.

In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin coach through real survey responses from Catholic college students who shared their biggest struggles with dating. Using a mindset-coaching lens, they unpack the thoughts and beliefs that quietly block freedom, clarity, and authentic connection.

Topics include:
• Time management and the belief that relationships are “too much work”
• Unrealistic expectations of holiness and “being on fire for God”
• Disappointment, rejection, and hearing “I’m not ready for a relationship”
• Fear of temptation, lust, and avoiding dating altogether
• How unspoken rules and internal manuals create pressure and anxiety

Matt and Erin explore how to approach dating not as a problem to solve or a finish line to reach—but as an opportunity for formation and encounter. They also discuss how processing emotions, clarifying expectations, and surrendering control can lead to healthier, more virtuous relationships.

This episode is especially helpful for Catholic college students, young adults, and anyone preparing for SEEK or navigating dating with faith and intention.

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Dating in Catholic college can feel weirdly intense: pressure to get married, gossip on small campuses, fear of “leading someone on,” and a ton of unspoken rules about how it’s supposed to go.

In Episode 274 of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin put on their Catholic dating coach hats and walk through real survey responses from students at a Catholic college. They do “hypothetical coaching” on:

🔹 “Modern dating has a high bar of entry and exit.”
🔹 “Everyone’s pressuring me to get married.”
🔹 “I’m not ready to settle down… so should I even date?”
🔹 “On a small campus, reputations and rumors follow you around.”

You’ll learn:
• How to spot the mindset traps that create fear and overthinking in
dating
• What’s actually in your locus of control (and what isn’t)
• Why unspoken “dating rules” and manuals make everything heavier than
it has to be
• A healthier, more Catholic way to see dating: as a place of authentic
encounter & formation, not just a spouse-hunt

Matt and Erin also share practical examples from their own stories and explain why skills like emotional maturity, honesty, and freedom are best learned now—before marriage.

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🧠 Want live Catholic dating coaching at SEEK?
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• Free temperament assessments
• Quick “dating mindset” classes
• 1:1 coaching slots with certified Catholic mindset coaches

Come get coached, then go get your reps in at the Candid Catholic speed dating events. 😉

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What if Catholic dating wasn’t just swiping, overthinking, and feeling like “there’s no one out there”… but real conversations, real formation, and real freedom?

In this episode of The Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt & Erin sit down with Taylor O’Brien, founder of Candid Dating — a Catholic speed dating app and events apostolate that’s exploding in popularity (including huge events at SEEK).

Taylor shares the story of her broken engagement, the season of deep healing with Jesus in adoration, and how the Lord led her into creating Candid: a space where Catholic singles can actually talk, get “reps” with the opposite sex, and grow in human formation, not just chase a ring.

Together we talk about:
• Why Catholic speed dating is often less pressure than apps or
traditional dates
• The lies Catholic singles believe ( “God will just drop my spouse in front
of me,” “I can’t say yes to a first date unless I know I’d say yes to a
second,” “I’m responsible for their feelings if I say no” )
• How locus of control & mindset coaching help you stop carrying what
isn’t yours
• Why dating is about authentic encounter, not shopping for a spouse
• How God uses the “waiting” and even heartbreak as powerful formation

We also share what we’re doing together at SEEK in Columbus:
• A shared Candid + Metanoia Catholic booth
• Free temperament assessments (with buttons 👀) so you can better
understand your wiring in dating
• On-site Catholic mindset coaches to help you prep for the Candid speed
dating event
• Practical help to show up free, peaceful, and yourself—instead of
desperate, shut down, or overthinking

Whether you’re:
• A Catholic single coming to SEEK
• Discernment-tired and wondering if your “picker is broken”
• Or just curious what healthy Catholic dating can look like…

…this conversation will give you hope, language, and tools to step into dating with more freedom, courage, and trust in God.

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