What if the fear of making the wrong choice is actually worse than making it? Natalie is back after a long hiatus with a raw, personal letter to the woman on the fence — the one stuck in endless "what if," comparing good enough to an illusion of perfection.

She shares her own story of years wasted in limbo, the perfectionism inherited from her parents' divorce, and the moment she finally saw her partner clearly.

You're not looking for a completed empire. You're looking for a plot of land to build on. Plus, details on an upcoming 8-week series: Rewriting Your History: Eight Weeks to Loving Like You've Never Been Hurt.

Link:

https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/rewrite-your-history

If you've ever experienced dread around making love due to the "ick," pain, anxiety, shame, or being too tired, this episode is for you!

I'm excited to introduce a dear friend and mentor of mine, Shayna Hiller, who is a trained Tao Tantric Priestess, Integrative Nutrition Coach, and Yoga Teacher. In this episode, we discuss the causes of dread around sex, as well as what you can do to start looking forward to sex—especially if things have gotten stale in the bedroom.

You're not alone. No, you're not broken, and no, you're not necessarily with the wrong partner if you're not feeling turned on by their mere presence!

This is a replay of an older episode. We're revisiting this conversation because the topic of sex anxiety is still so relevant. Please disregard any dates or events mentioned in the original recording.

The Sex Anxiety Clinic is happening LIVE on Saturday, August 29 at 2 PM PST. You can register here:
https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/sex-anxiety-clinic

As of 7/11/26: The new community, Both Feet In, is where you find my community. Access my core relationship anxiety relief curriculum, with PDFs, videos, audios, calls with me 2-3x/month, and a community feed to make connections with others on the same journey as you. Access that here:

Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy [@Anxiouslovecoach]
Shayna Hiller [@Shaynahiller]

Time Stamps:

6:52 Shayna's long-term celibacy in her twenties
12:43 Clearing sexual trauma through the tantric arts
19:51 Inspiring your partner to be their best selves
26:34 Deciding that you don't like sex, when the reality is that you dislike the sex you are having
30:21 How stress leads to anxiety in the bedroom
37:10 Normalizing the ebbs and flows in your relationship and your sex life
38:30 Scheduling sex
46:15 What to do when you dread having sex with your healthy, loving partner
1:05:00 Sex Anxiety Masterclass on March 14th 2pm PST
1:11:12 You are wired for pleasure
1:14:43 Shayna's Embodied Wisdom Retreat

Do you feel like there's a lot of mental gymnastics to relationship anxiety work? Does this feel overly complicated?

Let's take a step back from the details and acknowledge the bigger picture. The work here is to develop faith and trust in yourself.

You can't think your way out of a feeling problem. I'm not here to talk you off a ledge. I'm here to give you the tools either walk away, or take the leap of faith, all on your own.

Tension of Opposites - early bird until July 1st: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/tension-of-opposites

Both Feet In membership: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-2024