In this episode of 'Swearing is Allowed', host Haley Veronyak delves into the often unconscious yet powerful concept of attachment wounds. She explains how these wounds can stem from subtle emotional experiences rather than overt trauma, and how they manifest in adult relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding and managing these wounds rather than attempting to fix them, encouraging listeners to explore their own experiences and practice safe dependence in relationships.

In this episode, Haley Veronyak explores the concept of hyper independence, distinguishing it from healthy independence. She discusses the origins of hyper independence, its costs, and the emotional toll it takes on individuals. The conversation delves into the feelings of resentment and isolation that often accompany hyper independence, as well as practical steps to challenge this belief system. Haley shares personal reflections on vulnerability and offers reflection prompts for listeners to consider their own experiences with independence and support.

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Most of us crave connection but instinctively pull away when vulnerability hits. Why does intimacy sometimes feel like a threat — and how can understanding your nervous system help you finally bridge the gap?

In this episode of Swearing is Allowed, Haley Veronyak, a psychotherapist with personal and professional experience, reveals how your brain's patterns of avoiding closeness are often protective, not flawed. You’ll discover how conflicting feelings—wanting support but fearing rejection—are normal, and how your body memorizes risks based on past experiences. Haley breaks down the subtle ways this subconscious safety mechanism manifests, from pulling away in healthy relationships to feeling annoyed when someone checks in. She shares powerful insights on how your nervous system learns these patterns and how, as an adult, you can gently rewire them without shame or pressure.

Key topics covered include:

• The duality of craving and avoiding connection, and why your feelings can be contradictory at once
• The role of neurobiological patterns in perceived threats of closeness
• Why logical knowing that connection is essential isn’t enough to change emotional responses
• Practical strategies for fostering internal safety: starting with yourself before trusting others
• How to practice gradual vulnerability—sharing in layers and setting boundaries without guilt or shame

If you've ever felt stuck in self-protection mode, this episode offers a fresh perspective: your avoidance isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival strategy that can be reworked. Haley shares relatable stories and simple journal prompts to help you identify what your nervous system is really telling you. Whether you're battling shame over your fears or trying to build authentic connections, understanding your body's wisdom is the first step toward change.

Perfect for anyone navigating intimacy anxiety, emotional avoidance, or simply longing for genuine closeness, this episode empowers you to honor your nervous system and start rewiring your relationship with vulnerability. Remember: discomfort doesn’t mean danger. It just means you’re growing.

If you’re ready to break free from old patterns and create safer, more authentic relationships, tune in now. Your journey to trust begins here.