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Ever felt that urge to prove your value by picking up the bill, floating a loan, or offering a place to stay—especially early in dating? We go straight at the pattern many women carry from childhood: the belief that love must be earned. As a trauma-informed somatic coach, I break down how the fawn response, people pleasing, and fear of abandonment can turn your bank account into a bargaining chip for connection, and why that never produces real safety or lasting commitment.

We draw a firm distinction between generous partnership inside a stable commitment and the dangerous slope of giving money to men you’re just dating. You’ll hear how love bombing creates emotional urgency, how repeated “emergencies” become leverage, and why a healthy man won’t ask for your money in the first place. I share the most common red flags—early sob stories, fast intimacy, guilt when you set limits, promises of payback that never appear—and a simple gut-check to reveal whether you’re building love or funding access.

Most importantly, we map a path out. You’ll get practical scripts to say no without apology, somatic tools to calm the nervous system before you act, and mindset shifts to rebuild self-worth that isn’t transactional. We focus on reciprocity, respect, and the quiet confidence that comes from protecting your resources—money, time, energy, and heart. If you’ve ever confused giving with being kept, or generosity with belonging, this conversation will help you reset your boundaries and attract partners who bring stability, care, and commitment.

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