Community Care Note

This episode contains frank discussions of grief, the death of a spouse/partner, and suicidal ideation in the context of widowhood and profound loss. Please take care of yourself while listening and engage with this episode in whatever way feels safest for you.

In Episode 1: Welcome to the F*ckery

For our first episode, we start at the beginning: who we are, how our lives have been intertwined since childhood, and how we somehow found ourselves becoming widows just 11 months apart.

We talk about why we wanted to create this show, the pressure to be strong and resilient when your entire life has been cracked open, and how difficult it can be to find language that actually describes widowhood. We unpack why phrases like “moving on” and “letting go” do not work for us, what happens when people you love become uncomfortable with your grief, and why sometimes you need permission to be angry, messy, sad, funny, and completely honest about what this experience actually feels like.

We also get into some of the things nobody warned us about, including the very physical ways grief can show up in your body, and why we hope these conversations can help create language for other Black and Brown widows navigating lives they never expected to be living.

This is the beginning of two lifelong friends figuring out how to remain, rebuild, and hopefully leave a ladder behind for the people coming through the fire after us.

Disclaimer:

Sharmane and LaVonna are widows speaking from their own lived experiences. They are not therapists, medical professionals, life coaches, or grief experts. Nothing discussed on the show should be taken as universal advice or a substitute for professional support.

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