The hosts interview Bev Middleman, a relationship and attachment trauma practitioner and founder of Securely Loved, about how attachment styles shape self-esteem, self-trust, emotional regulation, and relationships with family, friends, coworkers, and romantic partners.

Bev explains attachment as learned behavior formed in childhood patterns of giving and receiving love, and emphasizes it can be unlearned and relearned. She outlines two broad categories—secure vs. insecure attachment—then details the three insecure subtypes: anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and disorganized (fearful-avoidant).

Secure attachment develops from predictable emotional attunement, helping children identify emotions, regulate the nervous system, and communicate needs with boundaries. Insecure attachment exists on a spectrum and is not gendered. Bev describes anxious-preoccupied attachment as driven by an abandonment wound, people-pleasing (fawn) then fighting in conflict, low self-worth, and difficulty with boundaries. Dismissive-avoidant attachment is linked to emotional neglect or stoic/high-demand environments, detachment from emotions, retreating to isolation to self-regulate, and fear of engulfment. Disorganized/fearful-avoidant attachment combines anxious and avoidant traits, is associated with chaotic or abusive upbringings, centers on betrayal wounds, and often shows hot-and-cold intimacy, anger, rage, and hypervigilance.

The conversation connects attachment to stress physiology (fight/flight/fawn/freeze), cortisol, and health. Be sure to take her free quiz at securelyloved.com that provides primary and secondary attachment styles.

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Harnessing Intimacy and Energy for Creativity and Healing with Hani Chang In this episode, we delve into the world of intimacy, healing, and creativity with expert Hani Chang. Known for her bestselling book, 'You Only Live Once: Life and Business and Innovation Style,' Hani shares her transformative journey from business and health coaching to intimacy coaching, drawing from her deep roots in Taoism and Tantra.

We discuss the concept of sex magic, not just as a sexual experience but as an energetic practice for creativity and healing. Hani elaborates on her Sensual Liberation Program, a comprehensive system designed to remove blockages to our inner sensuality, enabling full-bodied energetic orgasms and deep personal healing.

We explore the importance of intention, breathwork, and embracing emotions like grief and anger during intimate moments as a means of achieving alignment and congruence. Hani also emphasizes the significance of safety, communication, and ritual in fostering deep, intimate connections, offering practical tips inspired by Taoist and Tantric practices.

Whether working alone or with a partner, this episode is a guide to harnessing inner energies for a more fulfilling and balanced life.

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The hosts, kick off with an idea spurred by todays episode about dating and introspection. The girls discuss the possibility of setting Melissa up on blind dates but decide to postpone until she's more financially and emotionally ready. They also explore the balance between personal growth and opening up to new relationships.

They introduce Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach for smart, successful women, who emphasizes that understanding human behavior is key to successful dating. Katz stresses the importance of marketing oneself honestly, establishing high standards, and navigating the complexities of online dating with an effective screening process. (Which may or may not include dating multiple men at once).

The conversation dives into the importance of confidence, setting healthy boundaries, and the balance between emotional and logical decisions in dating. Katz shares insights from his Love U program designed to help women find fulfilling relationships. The episode ends with Katz offering a special quiz for the Skirts Up Squad on his website for those curious about if they've been wasting time on the wrong men.

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