Ever feel like your brain won’t stick to one task, your to-do list breeds at night, and every decision carries the weight of a parenting manual? Same. Jess sits down to unpack the first year of motherhood with candor and humor: why trusting your intuition beats crowdsourced panic, how a “second baby mindset” lowers stress on the very first kid, and the simple truth that rest isn’t a reward—it’s strategy.

We walk through seven real-life lessons that actually change the day-to-day: combo feeding to relieve pressure, splitting night shifts to protect sanity, and asking for help without apology. Jess gets honest about identity too—the part no one can do for you. There’s no going back to who you were before, and that can feel like loss until you realize it’s an opening. With therapy, deconditioning old beliefs about time and worth, and a tighter circle, the new version starts to feel like home. That shift touches everything from how you work to how you show up for joy, like stopping to feel snow on your face instead of racing to the car.

Community is the throughline. The village probably won’t arrive fully formed; you’ll build it from neighbors, online groups, library programs, and one friend who answers at 2 a.m. That’s why we’re reopening the Selfish Sisterhood—connection first, less calendar clutter, deeper support. And when sleep wobbles or routines fall apart, we lean on a grounding mantra: it’s just a phase. It will pass. Meanwhile, choose presence where you can and laugh at the yogurt on the floor before you wipe it up.

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The world feels loud, the energy is weird, and anxiety is riding shotgun. We open the mic anyway and get real about what self-belief looks like when life is messy, opinions are everywhere, and you’re still figuring out who you are after big changes. A spark from a bold halftime performance kicks things off, but the heart of this conversation lives in the ordinary: showing up when no one’s clapping, protecting your power, and choosing your voice over the chorus of “play it safe.”

I share a simple, sturdy framework for building confidence that lasts. First, curate the right circle—the people who mirror your strength and hype you when your inner voice goes quiet. Second, stack small, measurable wins that prove you do what you say: buy the shoes, run the first kilometer, post the idea, make the ask. Third, visualize the you you’re becoming and reverse-engineer her daily habits, boundaries, and support system. We dig into identity shifts, people-pleasing traps, and how to stop outsourcing validation to likes, gatekeepers, or casual critics.

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The world feels heavy, the snow won’t quit, and emotions sit closer to the surface than usual—so we decided to name it, feel it, and turn it into momentum. We trace a powerful arc from the year of the snake to the year of the horse, unpacking why this transition can stir grief, restlessness, and a craving for renewal. Instead of forcing positivity, we get honest about the last six years, the hope that keeps returning, and the very human need to lay down what no longer fits before we pick up speed.

I share the story behind my favorite Barbados mug and the retreat energy we’re bringing into May: confidence, sisterhood, and the courage to show up as the truest version of ourselves. From there, we dig into the work of shedding. You’ll get simple, grounded rituals to release looping fears and rigid opinions—write it down, burn or bury it, breathe it out—and embodied practices that help emotions move through your body rather than getting stuck in your throat and shoulders. We talk candidly about motherhood and identity, how old judgments can become cages, and why cracking the door on a once impossible desire can change your entire trajectory.

Then comes initiation. The horse year is about action, not endless wishing. We lay out what messy action looks like in real life and why rest is strategic fuel, not a setback. Think fewer screens, more sleep, tiny creative moments, and the confidence that grows when you keep small promises to yourself. By the end, you’ll have prompts to decide what you’re leaving behind, language to speak your next step out loud, and a renewed sense that your energy matters in a world that needs your voice.

If this resonates, send me a DM to share what you’re releasing, grab one of the final retreat spots, or ask about a Human Design reading. And if you’re loving Selfish Confidence, subscribe, share this episode with a friend, and leave a quick review—it helps more women find the courage to act.

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