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Why Your Body Hurts When Nothing Looks Wrong | Tami Stackelhouse

What happens when your body is in pain, but every medical test says you're fine?

In this eye-opening episode of The Self Help Show, Gina-Margaret Tiger sits down with Tami Stackelhouse, founder of the International Fibromyalgia Coaching Institute and Master Certified Fibromyalgia Coach®, to uncover the reality of living with invisible chronic pain.

Drawing from her personal journey with fibromyalgia, Tami explains why pain can exist without visible symptoms, how it affects emotional well-being, and what it takes to reclaim your quality of life.

In This Episode

• 02:00 — Understanding fibromyalgia and its four major symptoms
• 04:06 — Tami's personal journey to diagnosis
• 07:11 — Recognizing when pain is limiting your life
• 11:04 — The emotional impact of chronic pain
• 13:10 — Cultural stigma, gender bias, and invisible suffering
• 15:48 — The Fibromyalgia Framework and Take Back Your Life
• 17:32 — Managing flare-ups and finding relief
• 19:35 — The three pillars of recovery: treatment, lifestyle, and mindset
• 25:27 — Exercising without making symptoms worse

The Takeaway

Managing pain isn't the purpose of life. We manage it so we can get back to living.

Your pain deserves to be understood, your experiences deserve to be heard, and your life deserves to be lived fully.

Connect With Tami

• Free book, Take Back Your Life: https://takebackyourlifebook.com
• Fibromyalgia Podcast: https://fibromyalgiapodcast.com
• Social media: @FibroCoach

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Have you ever had a perfect day, only for an old memory or past heartbreak to ruin it completely? In this solo episode of the Self-Help Show, Gina-Margaret Tiger breaks down the hidden cognitive loop keeping you stuck and reveals how to use the "two can play that game" mindset to build powerful future memories instead.

We’ve all been there: your physical body is sitting in the present moment, but your mind is mentally time-traveling back to an embarrassing moment, a rejection, or an old argument from years ago.

In this episode, we explore why your brain treats old memories like they are happening right now—and why your past seems to have exclusive access to your imagination. But what if you could flip the script? If your brain has the power to make an old, dead memory feel vividly real, you have the exact same neurological capability to build and experience future memories.

Key Takeaways from This Episode

• The Mental Time-Travel Trap: Why replaying past conversations and old pain hijacks your good days.
• The Memory Illusion: How your brain embellishes and adds "spice" to old incidents, making them feel more important than they are.
• Two Can Play That Game: Shifting your imagination away from worrying or regretting, and directing it toward the exact reality you want to experience.
• The Meditation Hack: How to observe old mental loops without fighting them so they naturally dissolve.
• The 1-Year Exercise: A step-by-step visualization prompt to design what you want to remember one year from today down to the room, the clothes, and the feeling.

Episode Timestamps & Chapter Markers

• 00:00 – The Universal Experience: How an Old Memory Ruins a Perfect Day
• 04:30 – Why Your Brain Doesn't Know the Difference Between Past and Present
• 08:00 – The Core Concept: "Two Can Play That Game"
• 11:45 – Mental Time-Travel: Stopping the Cycle of Replaying Past Arguments
• 16:20 – How to Stop Fighting Unwanted Memories During Meditation
• 19:30 – The Future Memory Exercise: What Do You Want to Remember Next Year?
• 24:10 – Final Thoughts: Trading Worry for Intentional Imagination

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When Communication Gets Misunderstood

What happens when you are genuinely trying to communicate, connect and understand someone but your openness is interpreted as being needy, controlling, intense or simply “too much”?

In this episode of The Self Help Show, Gina-Margaret Tiger sits down with Devin Short for a deeply honest conversation about communication, emotional expression, relationships, self-awareness and what happens when good intentions are misunderstood.

Devin shares his experience of being a naturally expressive communicator and wanting to talk things through in order to create clarity and connection. For him, asking questions, expressing what he needs and trying to understand another person are not signs of conflict — they are signs that he cares.

As Devin puts it, when you genuinely invest in someone, you want to understand where they are coming from while also allowing them to understand you.

But emotional communication is not always easy.

Communicating what you need is not automatically asking for too much.

Sometimes it is simply knowing yourself well enough to say:

This is how I feel loved. This is how I feel seen. This is how I feel heard. This is what I need in order to connect with you.

Gina and Devin also explore why emotional communication requires vulnerability. Unlike conversations about work or everyday logistics, relationships often require us to put down the mask, move beyond ego and allow another person to see what is actually happening inside us.

And great communication is not only about expressing yourself.

It is also about empathy and perspective.

Devin shares how some of his greatest emotional growth has come through difficult conversations, a strong support system and learning to consider not only how a situation affects him, but how his own actions may affect another person.

The conversation then moves into something even deeper: never having to dim your light to make a relationship work.

Devin reflects on recognizing moments when he was no longer fully showing up as the energetic, goofy, expressive person he naturally is — and why the right relationships should bring more of your light out of you, not require you to become less of yourself.

He also speaks candidly about being his own harshest critic, overanalyzing himself and learning to extend more compassion toward his own growth.

Because none of us have communication completely figured out.

We are all works in progress.

Devin also shares what life looks like for him today as he continues discovering who he is beyond professional rugby.

From building an academy that brings principles from rugby into football, to modeling, DJing, entrepreneurship and learning how to use AI without losing his own creativity, Devin is entering a chapter centered on growth, experimentation and becoming more fully himself.

And when asked what being truly understood feels like, his answer was beautifully simple:

Blissful.

A Question to Take With You

Before your next important conversation, ask yourself:

Am I listening only to respond — or am I genuinely trying to understand this person?

Because communication is more than talking.

It is curiosity.

It is vulnerability.

It is perspective.

It is allowing another person to tell you what they need without immediately judging the need.

And sometimes, simply being willing to have the conversation is one of the clearest ways of saying:

I care about you.