Today, I'm talking about how boundaries are a loving skill that prevents resentment and creates safety, respect, and passion. Clear, simple steps show how to set limits without threats, using everyday examples and a weekly challenge to practice.

• emotional regulation steps that precede boundary setting
• common end-of-life regrets linked to people pleasing
• redefining boundaries as self-care rather than control
• how resentment replaces intimacy without clear limits
• the mesh analogy: connected and protected
• the sock example as a practical boundary script
• structure: if or when X, I will Y
• choosing action over explanation to reduce conflict
• setting boundaries for tone, volume, and time protection
• weekly challenge to pick one recurring frustration

If this episode was helpful for you, I would love if you would share it with a friend or a coworker or a loved one, somebody that you feel like could benefit from these relational skills.

Let me know what healthy boundaries you are setting this week. If you have questions about healthy boundaries, email me at: moni@monicatanner.com.

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This episode speaks directly to one of the most exhausting parts of being in a relationship: realizing you can’t control your partner and wondering what that means for you.

For a lot of people, that realization feels defeating. Like your hands are tied. Like you’re stuck waiting or reacting or hoping things improve.

This week I talk about why not being able to control your partner does not mean you are powerless. In fact, your real influence in a relationship has very little to do with managing or controlling other people and how you manage yourself, which is the real flex. I also mention:

• the regret of managing others instead of living authentically
• what you can control versus what you can only influence
• common control tactics that backfire in relationships
• regulation over reactivity to build safety and trust
• the three-step power move: pause, name, choose
• my real-life gym moment from this morning
• aligning responses with values and intentions

Go to https://monicatanner.com/call and let's see if you're a good fit for one of my remaining time slots.

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I'm setting a bold focus for this new season: choose who we will be in hard moments and build relationships with no regrets. I share five common end-of-life regrets, turn them into learnable skills, and give you a clear assignment to craft one specific intention for the year.

• the five most common relationship regrets are: silence, absence, guarded love, inauthenticity, unrepaired ruptures
• skills for honest expression with loving power
• rituals for presence and attention
• vulnerability as a trainable skill
• authenticity with empathy over people-pleasing
• relationship cycles: harmony, disharmony, repair
• spotting losing strategies like withdrawal, defensiveness, perfectionism
• writing one specific, behavioral intention for hard moments
• commit to practice and celebrate reps, not perfection

So if you feel like this is your year to really start working on your relationships, then I would encourage you to go to https://monicatanner.com/call and book a complimentary, no obligation, 30-minute relationship breakthrough to see if this would be a good time to start working together.

Send me an email, drop me a line on social, let me know what is your intention for this year.

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