Thom’s Nutshell:

Serious condition: I’ll be okay as soon as that thing that happened to me didn’t happen to me.

There’s a difference between blame and responsibility. Blame comes from “low differentiation,” or a low level of emotional maturity. It’s a sign of where we’re stuck in our development-fused with our environments. Taking responsibility, conversely, empowers us. It gives us more possibilities, brings in enthusiasm and zeal. We’re working towards self-support, where we act for ourselves without being selfish, and acting for others without losing ourselves.

Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com

Visit our website:

www.emotionalsobriety.info

Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here:

https://rebelliondogspublishing.com

Follow us on social media:

Instagram: thomrutledge2

Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs

Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events

Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/

Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):

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Password: 375986

For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g

Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link:

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We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.

We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments.

• (00:00:07) - Introduction and Recovery 2.0 Retreat with Tommy Rosen
• (00:02:46) - Yoga, Travel, and Recovery Speaking Life
• (00:03:58) - Blame vs Responsibility: Defining Emotional Immaturity
• (00:08:50) - How Blame Turns Us Into Victims
• (00:10:20) - Walking Through a Disappointment Scenario
• (00:12:27) - Empowerment Through Responsibility
• (00:13:49) - Joining Joe: Milestones in Long-Term Sobriety
• (00:14:33) - Childlike Curiosity vs Duty and Obligation
• (00:16:58) - Addiction as a Solution That Almost Worked
• (00:18:00) - Self-Regulation and Mindfulness
• (00:20:16) - Expressing Feelings Through Music
• (00:21:10) - New Parenthood and Emotional Sobriety
• (00:23:04) - Uncharted Territory: Supporting a Struggling Friend
• (00:26:24) - Living With Human Range, Not Transcending It
• (00:27:41) - Agency, Responsibility, and Passing Time
• (00:29:04) - Perpetrator, Victim, Rescuer Triads
• (00:30:23) - Programming, Privilege, and the Limits of Emotional Work
• (00:31:54) - Responsibility as Meaning, Not Burden