Secure attachment isn’t built by getting it right all the time.
It’s built by coming back when you don’t.

In this episode of Enneagram with JB, I'll explore why repair—not perfection—is the foundation of secure attachment, and how repair needs to change as your child’s nervous system develops.

Using the Enneagram as a compassionate map (not a label or excuse), this episode walks through what repair looks like with toddlers, elementary-aged kids, teenagers, and adult children, while naming common missteps that unintentionally widen disconnection.

You’ll learn:

• Why rupture doesn’t break attachment—but unrepaired rupture does
• How repair supports felt safety in the nervous system
• What’s developmentally realistic to expect at each age
• What not to do when emotions are high
• One simple repair mantra you can practice at every stage
• How each Enneagram type tends to repair under stress

This episode is for parents who care deeply, feel overwhelmed at times, and want language for coming back into connection—without shame.

In this episode, we cover:

• What repair actually is (and what it’s not)
• Repair with toddlers: co-regulation over explanation
• Repair with elementary-aged kids: reassurance and meaning
• Repair with teens: dignity, timing, and respect
• Repair with adult children: mutuality and accountability
• Type-by-type repair phrases for all 9 Enneagram types

Key takeaway:
Your child doesn’t need you perfect.
They need you emotionally reachable.

Note: This episode is educational and not a substitute for therapy or professional care.

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