Every January, couples feel the pressure to do better… communicate better… fight less… have more sex… be more intentional.
But most New Year resolutions don’t fail because couples don’t care — they fail because they’re built on pressure instead of capacity.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we unpack why real relationship change doesn’t come from trying harder and what actually creates a lasting reset.

This conversation invites couples to move beneath behaviour, habits, and willpower… and into nervous system awareness, embodied truth, and sustainable connection.

• Why most New Year resolutions are rooted in shame, judgment, and pressure, and why they collapse so quickly
• How ignoring the nervous system sabotages behaviour change, even when intentions are sincere
• Why real transformation begins below the surface, not at the level of habits or communication scripts
• The difference between trying harder and building capacity, and why capacity is what relationships actually need
• How tantra supports embodied presence instead of self-improvement and why this creates lasting intimacy
• Why does one person choosing to go deeper often create safety for the other to follow

You don’t need a new version of yourself this year.
You need more capacity to stay present, regulated, and connected when life gets real.

That’s the reset relationships actually need.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February and April Group Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

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ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

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Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

When life hits hard, most couples disconnect - not because they don’t love each other, but because they don’t know how to stay present in the face of shock, stress, or rupture.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we share a raw, real-life moment where everything felt destabilized and how tantra became the bridge that brought them back together instead of pulling them apart.

This conversation isn’t theoretical.
It’s lived.
It’s embodied.
And it reveals why this work actually creates lasting change, not by preventing hard moments, but by teaching couples how to return to connection when those moments arrive.

• Why tantra isn’t about staying calm or spiritual… but about learning how to come back when you’re activated or overwhelmed
• How shock and stress land differently in each partner’s nervous system, and why understanding this prevents blame and disconnection
• What most couples do when life falls apart… and how presence, breath, and containment change the outcome completely
• Why repair doesn’t have to be polite or pretty, and how honesty without harm creates real safety
• How delayed trauma shows up days or weeks later, and what allows it to complete instead of getting stuck in the body
• Why tantra builds capacity for real life, not control over it, and how this deepens trust, intimacy, and erotic connection
• What it actually means to choose each other again and again… even when everything feels uncertain

Tantra works not because life gets easier… But because you learn how to stay connected when it doesn’t. And that’s the bridge back to each other.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

So many couples quietly fear that desire is gone for good… that stress, aging, or hormones have somehow ruined intimacy.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we offer a powerful reframe: desire doesn’t die. It goes offline when the body is overwhelmed.

They explore how chronic stress, survival mode, and hormonal shifts shut down pleasure… and how safety, slowing down, and emotional repair bring intimacy back online in ways that feel nourishing instead of forced.

This episode is for anyone who wants to stop blaming themselves or their partner and start understanding what their body is actually asking for.

• Why stress is one of the biggest desire killers and how survival mode overrides pleasure, connection, and libido
• How chronic nervous system activation makes intimacy feel like effort instead of rest
• Why does desire not disappear
• How hormonal shifts in midlife alter the rules of intimacy, inviting presence over performance
• Why touch without agenda and connection without pressure are often what reignite desire
• How unspoken resentment and lack of repair quietly shut down erotic aliveness

Desire isn’t broken.
Your body is protecting you. And when safety returns, pleasure remembers how to rise again.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

If it feels like you and your partner are stuck in the same argument on repeat… you’re not failing at communication.
You’re touching something deeper.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we unpack why certain fights keep resurfacing in long-term relationships even when the topic changes and what’s actually required to interrupt the cycle.

They explore how nervous system activation, unmet needs, and missed repair keep couples looping… and how grounding, curiosity, and conscious repair can finally create safety, understanding, and real intimacy.

This episode is for couples who are tired of circling the same conflict and ready for a different way forward.

• Why repeating the same fight isn’t about the issue at hand… but about an unmet emotional need underneath it
• What happens in your nervous system when you’re triggered, and why logic disappears the moment conflict escalates
• How avoidance, shutdown, and makeup sex delay repair instead of resolving what’s actually happening
• What is the emotional and relational cost of unresolved conflict, and why does resentment build when repair is skipped
• Why grounding must come before communication, and what helps you return to your adult self during conflict
• How curiosity dissolves blame and opens the door to understanding, safety, and reconnection
• Why repair may be the most important love language couples were never taught

You don’t keep having the same fight because you’re broken.
You keep having it because something inside you is asking to be seen, met, and healed, and when that happens, intimacy can finally deepen.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

As the year comes to a close, most couples rush straight into what’s next… without ever pausing to honour what they’ve lived through together.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back for Couples), we invite you into a simple, powerful end-of-year ritual designed to help you slow down, feel, and consciously close one chapter before opening another.

This isn’t about resolutions or fixing anything.
It’s about reflection, compassion, emotional honesty, and intentionally choosing how you want to move forward, individually and as a couple.

This episode is a gentle invitation to reconnect, soften, and reignite your bond as you step into the new year together.

• Why rushing into the new year without reflection keeps couples stuck carrying unprocessed emotions forward.
• How conscious reflection helps you honour who you’ve become without judgment, blame, or self-criticism.
• What is the importance of celebration, and why does acknowledging what you've survived and grown through fuel intimacy and aliveness
• How to release old patterns, resentments, and beliefs with compassion rather than force.
• Why focusing on how you want to feel creates a deeper connection than setting rigid goals or resolutions.
• How turning reflection into a ritual strengthens devotion, safety, and emotional intimacy in long-term relationships.

This end-of-year ritual isn’t about doing more…
It’s about being more present with what already is — and choosing each other with intention as you step into what’s next.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

We’re taught that real love should feel effortless… but the truth is that long-term love isn’t something you fall into and stay in automatically. It’s something you choose, nurture, and return to — again and again.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back for Couples) , Kim & Roberto break down the fairytale myth of effortless love and reveal what actually makes relationships thrive: repair, truth, emotional presence, and the willingness to grow together.

They share how old stories, early conditioning, and unconscious patterns shape adult relationships… and how choosing each other through the uncomfortable moments creates deeper safety, connection, and desire.

This episode is a powerful reminder that the couples who thrive aren’t the ones who avoid rupture — they’re the ones who repair with intention and love.

• Why the belief that love should be effortless sets couples up for disappointment and disconnection
• How childhood stories, family patterns, and early relationships quietly shape what we expect from love as adults
• Why growth triggers old wounds and how those unconscious patterns show up inside long-term relationships.
• How repair is an erotic superpower and why it strengthens connection far more than avoiding conflict ever could
• How choosing each other again and again creates long-term love that feels grounded, safe, intimate, and wildly fulfilling

Love isn’t effortless… It’s chosen. And when you choose each other with intention, your relationship becomes the most powerful place for healing and awakening.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

So many people carry the quiet fear that their trauma makes them flawed… broken… or unlovable.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back for Couples), we bring a grounded, compassionate truth: trauma doesn’t mean you’re damaged. It means you’re human. It means your nervous system adapted to survive.

They share vulnerable stories, body-based insights, and the patterns they see inside couples' work. From the shutdowns, the reactions, the fears, and why these aren’t personality flaws but protective strategies that were never witnessed or supported.

This episode is an invitation into self-compassion, emotional truth, and the kind of partnership that makes healing possible.

• Why most people misunderstand trauma and assume it only applies to the “big stuff,” missing the emotional paper cuts that shape adult intimacy
• How your nervous system creates protective patterns and why shutdown, defensiveness, or reactivity are intelligent survival responses
• How trauma shows up most clearly in relationships through conflict, avoidance, disconnection, and fear of vulnerability
• Why integration and not erasing the past, create emotional safety, embodiment, and deeper intimacy
• What happens when you finally feel safe enough for your trauma patterns to reveal themselves in partnership
• How conscious couples support each other’s healing through presence, curiosity, grounding, and truth

Trauma doesn’t make you damaged… it makes you human — and when held with love, it becomes the pathway to deeper connection.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

There’s a cultural myth that desire fades with age… but the truth is far more powerful than that.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples), we explore what really happens to erotic energy after 40… and why this stage of life can become your most sensual, confident, and pleasure-filled chapter yet.

We share vulnerable stories, body-based wisdom, and the exact practices that help women and men release shame, reconnect to their bodies, and rebuild erotic confidence that feels grounded, empowered, and deeply alive.

This episode is for anyone who wants their pleasure back… and is ready for a more soulful, embodied sexual connection.

• Why desire doesn’t fade with age… it deepens when shame and conditioning begin to fall away
• How early sexual messaging shapes your adult sexual confidence and why reclaiming it requires truth, safety, and nervous system repair
• For women: How slowing down, softening, embodiment, and inner permission awaken your erotic fire
• For men: How performance pressure, shame, and fear of failure block pleasure… and how presence reconnects them to their masculine erotic energy
• Why erotic energy after 40 is more powerful, intuitive, and grounded than anything you experienced in your twenties
• How to rebuild erotic confidence inside long-term relationships through truth, touch, safety, and conscious intimacy practices

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com