Rebuilding yourself after divorce and abuse, and what it really takes to feel fulfilled, with founder and advisor Amy Kauffman.

From the outside, Amy's life looked ideal: a close, loving family, a long marriage, and a tech company she founded and ran. Then it fell apart. Twice.

Amy shares what rebuilding actually required: the moments of reckoning, the victim mentality she had to catch in herself, the tools that helped, and how she knows she is truly fulfilled today. We also talk about the quiet shame high achievers carry, why successful men can be the loneliest at the top, and a simple way to find your core values.

If you are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. In the US, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788 (thehotline.org). Outside the US, find free, confidential support in your country at findahelpline.com.

CONNECT WITH AMY

Amy is a founder and advisor to CEOs, founders and investors, and a mother of two daughters.

https://www.amykauffman.co

https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-kauffman-a2691417/

https://www.udemy.com/course/divorce-ready/

ABOUT THIS SHOW

Conversations on a Fulfilled Life is where I talk with people about what it actually takes to build a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks from the outside.

I'm Viv PhD: medical scientist, life strategist, and creator of the Fulfilled Life Method™. A doctorate in medical science, over a decade of clinical practice as an EMDR therapist, and years of work in positive and implementation psychology are why these conversations go deeper, into the psychology underneath fulfillment and achievement rather than just the tactics on top.

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The Fulfilled Life Practice is where you put each episode into practice. Go deeper on the lessons from these conversations, plus tools from my Fulfilled Life Method™, so what you hear actually changes how you live. (Mentioned in this episode as the Fulfilled Life Community.)

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WORK WITH ME

Work with me one-on-one to get clear on what you truly want, build a strategy that fits your real life and follow through on it, until living that way feels effortless and you genuinely enjoy your life.

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STUCK ON SOMETHING YOU CAN'T MOVE PAST?

Self-EMDR is the self-guided tool I built for exactly that.

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CONNECT WITH VIV

Website: https://getclearwithviv.com

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LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/viviankulaga

What helped you most when you had to rebuild? Tell me in the comments, I read all of them. And if you want more conversations like this, please click subscribe.

CHAPTERS

0:00 When your perfect life falls apart

1:53 Meet Amy Kauffman, founder and advisor

6:39 Why no one gets out of childhood unscathed

8:24 Should you stay and try to save your marriage?

13:11 How to leave a marriage without regret

17:07 Why divorce rips through every area of your life

20:06 What rebuilding your life after divorce really takes

25:39 Life happens for you, not to you

31:15 How to recognize a victim mentality

34:30 Viktor Frankl: finding meaning in suffering

38:49 Lonely after divorce and falling in love too fast

41:33 Why people stay in abusive relationships

46:43 The moment she knew she had to leave

51:53 Who am I now? Identity after big life changes

55:38 Self-awareness: the first tool for rebuilding

1:00:36 The vagus nerve exercise that calmed her anxiety

1:07:44 The hidden shame high achievers carry

1:12:13 Why successful men are lonelier at the top

1:16:00 What a fulfilled life really means

1:18:40 What legacy do you want to leave behind?

1:23:54 How do you know you're truly fulfilled?

1:29:50 A simple exercise to find your core values

1:36:14 How to become more self-aware (5 minutes a day)

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