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Surviving summer with an ADHD kid? Here are five small, real-life things saving my sanity right now, plus a pep talk for when nothing feels like it's helping.

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It's week five of summer and you're holding on for dear life. Same. Here are the small, ordinary things keeping me afloat this ADHD summer, and why noticing what's working can shift a hard season.

This one's a little different. Instead of a behavior or a strategy, I'm sharing the five things quietly saving my life this summer: independent outdoor play, my beloved air fryer, a hands-on project that gets me out of the house, nighttime reading, and a grab-and-go protein breakfast. Some are big, some are tiny, all of them are real. Underneath the list is a practice I want you to steal for any hard season with an ADHD kid: pausing long enough to notice what's actually holding you up, not just what's going wrong. I close with a pep talk for the parent who feels like nothing is saving their life right now.

Inside this episode

• The practice of asking "what's saving my life right now," and why we rarely stop to notice what's working.
• Why independent outdoor play is a win for your kid's confidence and your own mental break.
• The air fryer (and paper plates) that make fast, low-cleanup summer meals possible when you work from home.
• Why a hands-on project of my own in a different space gives me a reset without needing a full day off.
• Reading at night as a no-guilt escape, no deep literary credit required.
• The grab-and-go high-protein breakfast that takes the morning off my plate.
• A mini pep talk and the one-small-thing practice for when it feels like nothing is helping.

Timestamps

00:00 Week five of summer and holding on for dear life
01:02 Why noticing what works matters, and the practice behind this episode
02:51 Independent outdoor play
07:10 Fast, low-cleanup meals with the air fryer
09:59 A hands-on project of your own for a reset
12:20 Reading as a nightly escape
13:59 A high-protein breakfast shortcut
15:59 A pep talk for when nothing feels like it's saving your life
18:26 The one small thing to notice today

Read the full transcript

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2531405/19372851-adhd-summer-survival-5-things-saving-my-life-right-now/transcript

Mentioned in this episode

The Lazy Genius Podcast with Kendra Adachi, the inspiration for this format

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Resources and related episodes

Ep10: ADHD and Friendships, Why Your Child Struggles to Fit In
Ep34: The Best Daily Routine for a Child With ADHD (Summer Edition)
Ep9: The ADHD Bedtime Battle
Find me on Instagram: @raisingadhd_org

Hosts

I'm Apryl Bradford, a former classroom teacher with a master's in education and mom raising a child with ADHD, alongside my husband Dr. Brian Bradford, a child and adolescent psychiatrist.

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Why your ADHD child kicks, hums, and can't sit still, and what to do instead of yelling. A simple reframe for sensory and dopamine-seeking behavior.

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You're three minutes into the drive home, and your kiddo is already kicking the back of your seat, humming the same three notes on a loop, and poking their sibling until everyone's yelling. You're white-knuckling the wheel, wondering if they're doing it on purpose. They're not.

In this episode, we're breaking down the ADHD behaviors that drive parents up the wall: kicking the car seat, rocking in the chair, fidgeting, tapping, stimming, and playing the same song on repeat. She explains why a child with ADHD often can't sit still, what the dopamine reward system and the sensory system are actually chasing in those moments, and why "just stop it" rarely works. You'll learn the difference between dopamine-seeking and sensory-seeking behavior, three quick questions to tell them apart, and a simple weekly experiment that channels the need instead of fighting it. Same kid, same energy, a lot less yelling.

What you'll learn

• Why kicking, rocking, humming, and poking are usually a regulation attempt, not defiance or misbehavior.
• How the ADHD brain's understimulation drives both dopamine-seeking (chasing interest) and sensory-seeking (chasing movement, pressure, and sound), and why the two usually show up together.
• Three quick questions to tell whether a behavior is dopamine-driven, sensory-driven, or both.
• Why the goal is never zero movement, and how to protect people and property while giving the need a better job to do.
• Real swaps that work: a resistance band on the car seat, a wobble cushion, a car stimulation kit, and "yes here, no there" boundaries.
• Three decisions you make once and reuse forever: your non-negotiables, your family's okay stims, and a go-to script for high-stress moments.
• The one-week experiment: one situation, one behavior, one outlet, one sentence.

Timestamps

00:00 The after-school car ride every ADHD parent knows

02:55 The anchor reframe: regulation attempt, not moral failure

04:42 A no-degree-required look at the two systems driving the behavior

07:54 Three behaviors we're putting under the lens

10:04 Behavior 1: kicking the car seat

15:28 Behavior 2: rocking and kicking at the table

18:21 Behavior 3: the song on repeat and the sibling poking

21:06 Three quick questions to tell dopamine from sensory

22:24 Three decisions you make once and reuse forever

26:30 Your one-week experiment: one situation, one behavior, one outlet, one sentence

29:10 The reframe to carry into your week

Read the full transcript

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2531405/19316217-adhd-regulation-in-the-real-world/transcript

One thing to do next

Get a short Raising ADHD™ reframe in your inbox each week, one you can read in under two minutes and use the same day. Join the email list at raisingadhd.org.

Coming up next week

Mary Katherine from MK's Magical Adventures is joining me to tackle traveling with ADHD kiddos: how to survive flights, road trips, and routine-wrecking vacations without the meltdowns. Hit follow so it lands the moment it drops.

Resources and related episodes

Free Executive Function Check-In quiz: raisingadhd.org/quiz

Ep29: How to Manage ADHD Hyperactivity Without Fighting It

Ep31: ADHD Meltdowns vs Tantrums

Find Apryl on Instagram: @raisingadhd_org

Hosts

Apryl Bradford, former classroom teacher with a master's in education and mom to a child with ADHD, alongside Dr. Brian Bradford, child and adolescent psychiatrist.