In the Season One finale of Purpose, Not Pity, Erika closes the year with a letter, not to who she was, but to who she’s becoming.

It’s a love letter to the future self, the woman still in the making, the version shaped by healing, motherhood, grief, resilience, creativity, and purpose.
It’s about identity after loss, rebuilding after life breaks open, and becoming someone you don’t recognize yet, but hope to meet.

This episode isn’t about grief as tragedy, it’s about grief as transformation.
It asks: Who do we become after the worst thing happens? Who do we become when the world forces us to grow? Who do we become when survival stops being enough?

If you’re in a season of becoming, after divorce, after loss, after heartbreak, after disappointment, or simply after a year that changed you, this episode is for you.

Season Two begins March 3rd.
Until then, Erika will be sharing a new series on TikTok called The Intentional Interruption, for the moments life reroutes you, pauses you, or hands you a choice.

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🎧 New episodes drop the 1st & 3rd Tuesday of every month

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💛 Thanks for listening. Keep choosing purpose, not pity.

In this deeply reflective episode of Purpose, Not Pity, Erika explores the quiet, often unspoken emotional space that many people find themselves in during the holidays after loss, heartbreak, or major life change.

Not the kind of grief that demands attention.
Not the kind of healing that looks inspirational.
But the kind that shows up as restraint, reflection, and not knowing how to explain what you feel.

Erika opens up about how the holidays have shifted for her over the years, from childhood magic, to single motherhood, to grief, to this in-between season where nothing feels wrong, but nothing feels the same. She speaks honestly about loneliness, peace, uncertainty, and the pressure to perform joy when your inner world has changed.

This episode is for anyone who:

• Feels disconnected from the holidays but can’t explain why
• Is healing but still grieving parts of the life they didn’t get
• Feels pressure to show up joyful when quiet feels more honest
• Is learning to let the season be what it is, without forcing meaning

You don’t need to fix the holidays.
You don’t need to explain yourself.
And you don’t need to feel alone in this.

A gentle, grounding conversation for anyone navigating the holidays while becoming someone new.

🧡 Stay connected:
TikTok: @by.erikahernandez
Instagram: @byerikahernandez

🎧 New episodes drop the 1st & 3rd Tuesday of every month

📬 Want to share your story or connect?
Email: byerikahernandez@gmail.com

💛 Thanks for listening. Keep choosing purpose, not pity.

In this episode of Purpose, Not Pity, Erika reflects on a recent real-life moment that revealed how much she’s changed, not through what she did, but through what she no longer felt the need to carry. Through honest storytelling and reflection, she explores the difference between accountability and emotional labor, and how healing teaches us to stop absorbing blame, guilt, and anxiety that don’t belong to us.

If you’ve ever felt responsible for keeping the peace, carrying emotional weight that wasn’t yours, or turning difficult moments into proof that something was wrong with you, this conversation is an invitation to pause, and let something fall.

Healing isn’t about becoming cold or detached. It’s about learning when to hold, and when to let go.

🧡 Stay connected:
TikTok: @by.erikahernandez
Instagram: @byerikahernandez

🎧 New episodes drop the 1st & 3rd Tuesday of every month

📬 Want to share your story or connect?
Email: byerikahernandez@gmail.com

💛 Thanks for listening. Keep choosing purpose, not pity.