Modern life didn’t make you lose yourself — it trained your nervous system to disconnect.

Your sense of identity is built through the Relational Self Network (RSN), the brain system that forms “self” through emotional attunement and co-regulation.

Modern culture floods the brain with stimulation but offers very little relational safety, so the RSN stays active without completing.

That’s when you feel present but not really here. Connection feels draining. Motivation fades. Intimacy shuts down. Not because you’re broken — but because your nervous system adapted.

The opposite of disconnection isn’t insight. It’s regulation. When safety returns, presence returns — and identity stabilizes naturally.
If this feels familiar, nothing is wrong with you. Your nervous system just needs safety again.

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Hi. I am Dr. Trish Leigh, a Cognitive Neuroscientist, and Sex Addiction Recovery Coach. I am on a mission to help people heal their brains from porn use.
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Attraction doesn’t disappear because something is wrong with you.
It collapses when your nervous system feels evaluated.

Pressure, performance, and self-monitoring activate the Arousal Inhibition Response (AIR). Attraction can still exist, but spontaneity shuts down because the brain no longer feels safe to open.

Modern dating and social media train the nervous system to stay in surveillance mode. Under surveillance, attraction doesn’t open — it inhibits.

The opposite of performance isn’t passivity.
It’s availability.

When the nervous system stands down, space returns.
And attraction follows naturally.

If this feels familiar, nothing is broken.
Your nervous system just needs safety again.

Why Attraction Collapses Under Pressure💞 💥 Learn how to turn AIR off and restore attraction at https://drtrishleigh.com/ — You deserve connection without pressure.

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Hi. I am Dr. Trish Leigh, a Cognitive Neuroscientist, and Sex Addiction Recovery Coach. I am on a mission to help people heal their brains from porn use.
My podcasts are designed to help you learn that:
🎯Porn Damages Your Brain,
🎯Porn Impairs Your Mental and Physical Health, and
🎯Porn Destroys Your Relationships.

Subscribe to this channel for 🧠 tips to:
✅Quit Porn for Good
✅Heal Your Brain from Porn
✅Get Motivated in Your Life
✅Repair Your Mental & Physical Health
✅Heal Erectile Dysfunction

If you need more help, I can work directly with you.
Check out the programs below.
https://drtrishleigh.com/

Donate to Porn Brain Prevention, the nonprofit to help teens avoid porn addiction below:
https://pornbrainprevention.org/

Let's Connect! Check out my Linktree:
https://linktr.ee/Drtrishleigh

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Your brain isn’t broken. You’re living inside a neurological environment built by chronic overstimulation.

What feels “normal” today is engineered. Algorithms train your nervous system to expect reward without effort — and over time, your brain’s effort system goes offline.

When stimulation replaces engagement, motivation drops, focus fractures, emotional regulation weakens, and desire shuts down.

That’s not a discipline problem.
It’s a nervous system state.

In this Supernormal conversation, you’ll understand:
• Why overstimulation rewires effort, desire, and regulation
• Why habit change fails when the nervous system is dysregulated
• Why porn use and dopamine loops flatten real-world reward
• How miswiring shows up as low motivation, anxiety, ED, or shutdown

Real change doesn’t start with willpower.
It starts with seeing how your brain adapts.

Why Fantasizing Feels Normal 🤔👉 If you want clarity instead of guessing, brain mapping shows what’s actually happening — and how regulation restores capacity, start with a brain map at https://drtrishleigh.com/

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Support the show

Hi. I am Dr. Trish Leigh, a Cognitive Neuroscientist, and Sex Addiction Recovery Coach. I am on a mission to help people heal their brains from porn use.
My podcasts are designed to help you learn that:
🎯Porn Damages Your Brain,
🎯Porn Impairs Your Mental and Physical Health, and
🎯Porn Destroys Your Relationships.

Subscribe to this channel for 🧠 tips to:
✅Quit Porn for Good
✅Heal Your Brain from Porn
✅Get Motivated in Your Life
✅Repair Your Mental & Physical Health
✅Heal Erectile Dysfunction

If you need more help, I can work directly with you.
Check out the programs below.
https://drtrishleigh.com/

Donate to Porn Brain Prevention, the nonprofit to help teens avoid porn addiction below:
https://pornbrainprevention.org/

Let's Connect! Check out my Linktree:
https://linktr.ee/Drtrishleigh

#quitporn #pornaddiction #drtrishleigh #pornaddictionrecovery #pornbrainrewire #controlyourbrain #braintraining #trishleigh #nofap #pornkillslove #mindoverporn #monkmode #drleigh #pornaddict #pornaddictionsideeffects #addictedtoporn #cantstopmasturbating #recovery #recoveryjourney #addictionrecovery #recoverycoach #drtrishleigh #monkmode #addiction #pornbrainprevention #pornbrainprograms #releasetoquitporn #howtoquitporn