Have you ever said yes when you meant no? Swallowed a feeling to keep the peace? Worked yourself to exhaustion making sure everyone around you was okay while quietly falling apart on the inside?

In this episode Marilyn goes deeper than saying no and gets into the identity behind people pleasing. She talks about where it comes from, what it quietly costs us in our relationships, our energy, and our sense of self, and why being kind and being a people pleaser are not the same thing.

This episode is not about shaming anyone for being caring. It is about learning to give from a place of choice instead of fear, and remembering that we are allowed to matter in our own lives too.

In this episode:

• Why people pleasing is often an identity and not just a habit
• Where it comes from, including early environments, praise for being agreeable, and conflict avoidance
• The five real costs of people pleasing, from losing touch with what we want to feeling invisible
• What it looks like in personal relationships and at work
• The difference between being kind and people pleasing
• How to use the bubble method for the fear of being disliked
• Six practical ways to start shifting the pattern

This week’s takeaway:

The next time you feel the pull to go along or keep the peace, pause and ask one honest question. Am I doing this because I want to or because I am afraid of what happens if I do not? That one question is the beginning of everything.

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