“A lot of parental guilt comes from the expectations parents place on themselves. When they can’t meet them, they assume they have failed — even when they are doing their best.” - Mark

In this episode, June speaks with Mark Lim, Director and Trauma‑Informed Counsellor at The Social Factor, about the powerful weight of parental guilt. He reflects on how guilt grows from unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves, whether physical, financial, or emotional.

Fathers and mothers may experience guilt differently, but the core fear is the same: not being enough. Through honest anecdotes, Mark shows how guilt surfaces in everyday moments, choosing work over a child’s needs, losing patience, or blaming ourselves for our children’s mistakes. Left unaddressed, guilt can become heavy and even inherited across generations. Healing begins with connection before correction, self‑compassion, and relational repair.

When guilt shows up, pause, reconnect with your child, and extend the same grace to yourself that you hope to teach them.

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Busy parents can build values into everyday life through simple routines—reading bedtime stories, having conversations during mealtimes, praising small acts of kindness, and asking children gentle reflection questions. These consistent touchpoints help children naturally internalise important values.

June, our host, spoke with early childhood educators Ashley Yeoh and Joanna Lee—both mothers and certified parent coaches—who explain why values are the foundation of raising confident, grounded children. They describe how values act as anchors, helping children handle peer pressure, make sensible choices, and navigate emotional challenges. Through real examples, such as choosing honesty or practising forgiveness, they show that children learn best when parents model the behaviour they hope to teach.

Ashley and Joanna remind parents that they are their child’s strongest teachers. Everyday interactions provide meaningful opportunities to reinforce values. Their encouragement is to start small—notice the good, name the value, and live it out. Shared family values give children a steady compass to guide them with clarity and virtues.

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Many of us strive to be patient and purposeful parents. But when we fall short, we often become our harshest critic. We wonder, why am I reacting in the very way I promised not to? Parenting often reveals our impatience, our imperfections, and at times our unresolved wounds—but also our deepest hopes and joys.

In this episode, June speaks with our parenting trainer, Dr Wu Mi Yin. She invites parents to explore the role of self‑compassion in strengthening their parenting journey. She explains how our inner critic is often triggered because so much feels at stake—we want the best for our children, yet the process is slow, stretching, and deeply human. Mi Yin encourages parents to notice the signs of self‑criticism through thoughts, physical sensations, and emotional reactions, and to respond with pause, reflection, and gentleness.

Her practical tips—such as journalling, naming our feelings, creating space to rest, and practising emotional “gym time”—help parents build the inner strength needed to stay calm, connected, and present. When we extend understanding to ourselves, we naturally extend it to our family too.

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If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Spotify, Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/parentedpodcast to share with your friends.

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