What if the love you couldn’t let go of… wasn’t love at all?

In this episode of Paris in NYC, we’re diving deep into limerence — the intense, obsessive emotional state that feels like love but is often rooted in fantasy, anxiety, and emotional dependency. From late-night overthinking to craving texts like a dopamine hit, limerence can keep you stuck in cycles of confusion, heartbreak, and emotional highs and lows.

Backed by psychological research and real emotional insight, this episode breaks down why we become attached to emotionally unavailable people, how limerence impacts the brain like addiction, and how to finally break free from the illusion.

If you’ve ever felt addicted to someone who couldn’t love you back the way you needed… this episode is for you.

SOURCES

* Tennov, D. (1979). Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love

* Fisher, H., Aron, A., & Brown, L. (2005). “Romantic love: An fMRI study of a neural mechanism for mate choice.” Journal of Comparative Neurology

* Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). “Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

* Wakin, A., & Vo, D. (2008). “Limerence: A review of theory and research.”

* Eisenberger, N. I., Lieberman, M. D., & Williams, K. D. (2003). “Does rejection hurt? An fMRI study of social exclusion.” Science

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Why does modern dating feel so confusing… and so unfulfilling?

In this episode I break down breadcrumbing — the pattern of giving just enough attention to keep someone interested without ever building something real — and how it connects to the bare minimum in relationships.

Because the truth is, it’s not always about what someone is doing to you. Sometimes it’s about what you’re accepting.

We explore:

• ​The psychology behind breadcrumbing and intermittent attention
• ​Why inconsistent effort can feel more addictive than consistency
• ​How modern dating culture encourages low emotional investment
• ​The emotional cost of accepting the bare minimum
• ​The difference between real effort and temporary attention

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt stuck between hope and confusion… wondering why something that feels like “almost” never turns into something real.

Because in Paris in NYC, we don’t romanticize crumbs. We recognize them — and we choose better.

Sources

Simply Psychology – “Breadcrumbing in Relationships.”

Navarro et al., Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, studies on breadcrumbing and loneliness.

Stafford & Canary, research on relationship maintenance behaviors in healthy partnerships.

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Hola! So this episode is mostly for the men. You ever been dating a woman and everything seems to be going great and all of a sudden she starts to shift and pull back her energy?

In this episode, we go deeper than surface-level dating advice and unpack what’s really happening when a woman becomes distant. From nervous system protection and loss of emotional safety to feeling overexposed, under-chosen, or emotionally alone, this conversation explores the psychology behind feminine withdrawal.

We talk about:

• ​ Why women feel shifts before men do

• ​ How inconsistency impacts emotional safety

• ​ The connection between respect and attraction

• ​ Why pulling back is often self-protection, not punishment

• ​ The difference between distance and indifference

• ​ What to do if you feel her energy changing

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