In this episode of the Self-Love Recovery Podcast, host Ross Rosenberg — psychotherapist and author of The Human Magnet Syndrome — makes the case that leaving a pathological narcissist isn't just a breakup; it's an addiction recovery process, complete with cravings, bargaining, and relapse.

Drawing on both his clinical work and his own lived experience, he explains why the urge to return is driven by "pathological loneliness," a withdrawal symptom that reopens childhood core shame the relationship had been numbing, and why it typically lasts two to six months.

Borrowing the "one day at a time" philosophy from twelve-step recovery, Rosenberg walks listeners through practical tools — shrinking the goal down to hours or even minutes when needed, riding out cravings like waves, naming the mind's manipulative bargaining for what it is, and building a support network instead of trying to white-knuckle recovery alone — all pointing toward what he calls "Self-Love Abundance," the point at which the narcissist's pull finally loses its power.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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