Impulse shopping has never been easier, and in the empty nest it can sneak up on you fast. In this true confessions episode, Clancy asks: am I addicted to shopping, or is it just a phase? A new season, a closet she's rebuilding from scratch, a TikTok feed full of cute finds, and one-tap Apple Pay all lined up to fill our porch with boxes. Nothing on its own was expensive. Together, it was a lot.

Rick owns his part too. As the one who handles our finances, he saw the spike and went with passive aggressive comments about the packages instead of a real conversation, even 26 years into our marriage. We talk about why shopping addiction gets a wink and a smile when other habits don't, what happens when you try to scroll your way out of the algorithm, and the three things we’re trying now: friction, transparency, and balance. Dining and travel are on the table too. If your empty nest spending has quietly crept up, this one's for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

-The impulse shopping triggers that stack up in the empty nest, like a new season, a changing wardrobe, and shopping with friends, and how fast they add up.

-Why TikTok and one-tap Apple Pay make shopping almost frictionless, and how that missing pause turns "that's cute" into another box on the porch.

-The early signs your shopping has gone past need, like buying a near duplicate of something you own or borrowing a shoe shelf from your kid's old room.

-Why shopping addiction gets laughed off in a way other habits don't, and how the rush of a new outfit and a compliment keeps the cycle going.

-How conflict avoidance shows up in marriage, even after 26 years, and why a snarky comment about packages is not the same as an honest money conversation.

-Three ways to curb impulse shopping and empty nest spending: add friction, be transparent about where the money goes, and aim for balance instead of going ditch to ditch.

Prior Episode mentioned:

Empty Nesters Talk Medical Procedures...some necessary, some elective E145 https://youtu.be/W70db0uhd5k

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Am I addicted to shopping or is it a phase?

01:21 Fall clothes and starting a closet over

03:56 Shopping from the back seat on vacation

05:00 How TikTok fuels impulse shopping

07:19 Apple Pay and frictionless spending

08:16 A cucumber and a cardigan at Walmart

10:52 When did the shopping become too much?

14:08 Why shopping addiction gets a wink and a smile

17:30 Will the algorithm let you walk away?

20:06 Rick's passive aggressive package comments

25:26 Friction, transparency and balance

31:37 Our book as a holiday gift

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