I was dating a Japanese woman who surprised me with something I'd rarely encountered during my years in Japan: she wanted to wait until marriage before having sex.

We'd been going on dates, spending time together, and growing closer. Then one evening at an internet café, she told me about her decision. I respected it, but I also knew that physical intimacy was an important part of the relationship I was looking for.

What happened next was something I didn't expect.

In today's episode, I share the story of Saori (not her real name), and explore how attitudes toward premarital sex, dating, and sexual compatibility can differ between Japan and Western countries.

This is a personal story based on my own experiences and observations, not an attempt to speak for everyone in Japan.

What do you think? Is sexual compatibility something couples should establish early, or is it worth waiting until a relationship is more established?

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