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Motherhood changes everything — including how we see ourselves. In this episode, we talk honestly about the quiet identity shift that happens after kids. The missing parts. The stretching. The grief no one names. And the truth that you haven’t disappeared — you’ve expanded.

This is a conversation for anyone who’s ever thought, I love my kids… but I miss me.

No fixing. No shaming. Just reflection, warmth, and a reminder that you’re still in there.

If you’re feeling curious about reconnecting with yourself, we’ve linked a values sort below to help you rediscover what matters most to you right now — not who you used to be, but who you are becoming.

https://www.thegoodproject.org/value-sort

And because next episode is all about mornings… we would LOVE to hear your morning madness stories. You can share by emailing hello@messymindedmama.com
or DMing us on Instagram @messy.minded.mama.

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There are moments in motherhood when the anger surprises you.
The snapping. The heat in your chest. The shame that follows.

In this episode, we talk openly about mom rage aka the momster—what it is, where it comes from, and why it’s so often misunderstood. This isn’t about losing control or harming your kids. It’s about overwhelm, overstimulation, unmet needs, and nervous systems that have been carrying too much for too long.

Together, we unpack the guilt spiral that so many moms experience after a hard moment, challenge the belief that “good moms don’t get angry,” and offer grounded, realistic ways to repair and recover—without shame, fixing, or toxic calm-down advice.

This conversation is honest, warm, and deeply normalizing. If you’ve ever thought “This isn’t who I thought I’d be”—you’re not alone.

Resources:

Pure Mind Wellness (for Colorado residents)

• Website: https://www.pure-mind-wellness.com/
• Email: jennduncan@pure-mind-wellness.com
• Phone: 720-295-8777

Postpartum Support International (PSI)

• Website: https://postpartum.net/
• Free helpline & text support – Text “HELP” to 800-944-4773

Remember, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or stuck, talking to your OB, midwife, primary care provider, or therapist is a really good place to start.

You can literally say: ‘I’m not okay, and I don’t feel like myself.’ That’s enough.

And if at any point you’re worried about your safety or feel like you might hurt yourself or someone else, please reach out for immediate help.

You can call or text 988—24/7, confidential, judgment-free.

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No one really warns you about how loud your brain gets after becoming a parent. In this episode, we name the invisible mental and emotional load of motherhood — the constant scanning, decision-making, worry, guilt, and pressure that doesn’t turn off, even on “easy” days.

Through an honest conversation, we talk about the gap between what we expected motherhood to feel like and the reality of carrying everyone’s needs while quietly losing pieces of ourselves. We explore how the mental load impacts rest, relationships, identity, and self-worth — and why feeling exhausted doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

This isn’t about fixing or blaming. It’s about telling the truth, feeling less alone, and offering a gentle reminder that nothing is broken about you.