In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside mutli-award winning media personalities Toolz and Toke Makinwa, for a candid and engaging conversation that turns the spotlight around, inviting women into the conversation about masculinity, relationships, and modern manhood.

If MENtality seeks to explore what it means to be a man today, then understanding the perspectives of women is an essential part of that journey. This episode examines how women perceive men, emotional maturity, leadership, vulnerability, communication, and the evolving expectations placed on men within relationships and society.

Together, the guests explore the emotional labour women often carry in relationships, the changing dynamics between men and women in modern Nigeria, and the realities of navigating love, partnership, ambition, and personal growth in a rapidly evolving cultural landscape. The discussion also challenges outdated gender stereotypes, questioning whether traditional expectations of masculinity still serve today's relationships and what healthier, more balanced partnerships can look like.

At the heart of the conversation is one compelling question: What do women actually want from men today? Rather than offering a single answer, the episode presents honest perspectives on trust, emotional availability, accountability, consistency, respect, shared responsibility, and the qualities that help build meaningful, lasting relationships.

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MENtality With Ebuka is a production of Knight & Sheriff and EME.

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside media personality, actor and influencer, Deji Osikoya, for a thoughtful and necessary conversation on consent, respect, and healthy relationships.

The discussion explores why consent remains one of the most misunderstood aspects of relationships, masculinity, and power, particularly within many African societies where conversations around sexual boundaries, mutual respect, and personal agency are often avoided or shaped by cultural expectations. The episode examines what consent truly means beyond simply hearing "yes" or "no," highlighting the importance of communication, emotional intelligence, empathy, and respect in building healthy relationships.

Together, the guests unpack how cultural conditioning, gender stereotypes, and entitlement can influence attitudes and behaviours, while challenging long-held assumptions about masculinity and interpersonal relationships. The conversation ultimately reframes consent not as a limitation, but as an expression of dignity, responsibility, trust, and mutual respect between individuals.

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In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside chess master, social impact leader and founder of Chess in Slums Africa, Tunde Onakoya, and media entrepreneur, storyteller and mental health advocate, Chude Jideonwo, for a candid and thought-provoking conversation on mental health, emotional wellbeing, and the realities many men face behind closed doors.

Mental health remains one of the most important yet least discussed issues affecting men today. Despite growing awareness, many men continue to struggle in silence due to societal expectations, fear of judgment, and limited access to support systems. The conversation explores the stigma surrounding therapy, the emotional isolation experienced by many men, and the practical steps men can take towards building healthier emotional and mental habits. Through personal experiences, cultural reflections, and honest dialogue, the episode challenges long-held perceptions of masculinity while encouraging men to prioritize their mental wellbeing and seek support when needed.

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• Ebuka – Instagram, X
• Banky W – Instagram
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MENtality With Ebuka is a production of Knight & Sheriff and EME.