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  • Denial, Drift, and Collapse: How God Restores What We Thought Was Lost

    Denial, Drift, and Collapse: How God Restores What We Thought Was Lost
    Jan 25 2026
    In this episode of Marriage, Mayhem & Mercy, Tanja Rouintree sits down with author and speaker Tiffany Colvin to explore the theme of denial through two powerful biblical stories: the prodigal son in Luke 15 and Peter’s denial of Jesus in John 18. Together, they examine how denial can show up as a slow, almost unnoticed drift or as a sudden, catastrophic collapse.Through vivid metaphors, personal testimony, and Scripture, this conversation reveals the heart of God as a loving Father who does far more than tolerate our return. He runs toward us, restores our identity, cleanses our wounds, and recommissions us with purpose. Whether you recognize yourself in the pigpen or beside the charcoal fire, this episode offers hope that no failure is final in the hands of a faithful God.Episode Summary In this episode of Marriage, Mayhem & Mercy, Tanja Rouintree sits down with author and speaker Tiffany Colvin to explore the theme of denial through two powerful biblical stories: the prodigal son in Luke 15 and Peter’s denial of Jesus in John 18. Together, they examine how denial can show up as a slow, almost unnoticed drift or as a sudden, catastrophic collapse. Through vivid metaphors, personal testimony, and Scripture, this conversation reveals the heart of God as a loving Father who does far more than tolerate our return. He runs toward us, restores our identity, cleanses our wounds, and recommissions us with purpose. Whether you recognize yourself in the pigpen or beside the charcoal fire, this episode offers hope that no failure is final in the hands of a faithful God. In This Episode, You’ll Hear: The difference between spiritual drift and spiritual collapse Why denial often feels “normal” until a wake-up moment arrives The prodigal son and Peter as two mirrors of the human heart God as Master Architect, Protector, and Restorer How suffering can awaken us to God’s voice Why God’s success shines brightest through our failure Learning to relate to God as a loving Father, even when earthly fathers failed us Scripture Referenced: Luke 15:11–32 John 18 Psalm 119:71 Psalm 27:10 About the Guest Tiffany Colvin is the author of Your Daily Ticket: God’s 31-Day Passport to Living Effectively. She is an advocate, an autism mom, and a passionate teacher of God’s Word. Tiffany brings deep biblical insight paired with lived experience, offering hope-filled perspectives on suffering, restoration, and the unwavering love of God. Preview of the Next Episode In Part 2 of this conversation, Tanja and Tiffany turn their attention to restoration. They unpack the meaning behind the robe, ring, and sandals in the prodigal son story, and the charcoal fire breakfast Jesus prepares for Peter. You’ll hear how God redeems pain, reclaims broken stories, and uses what once wounded us for His holy purpose.
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  • God in the “Eternal Now”: Healing the Past, Anchoring the Future

    God in the “Eternal Now”: Healing the Past, Anchoring the Future
    Jan 18 2026
    Where was God when the hardest things happened? In Part 2 of this conversation, Cathy Colver Garland and Tanja Rouintree explore the profound truth that God exists outside of time and is present in our past, present, and future all at once.This episode dives into healing from trauma, restoring scattered parts of the self, and why God’s presence—not striving—is the foundation of true freedom. If you’ve ever struggled with anxiety about the past or fear of the future, this conversation offers deep reassurance and practical wisdom.God in the “Eternal Now”: Healing the Past, Anchoring the Future (Part 2) Marriage, Mayhem & Mercy Podcast Join my Facebook group, Faithful Families Free Community, for more great content! Episode Summary Where was God when the hardest things happened? In Part 2 of this conversation, Cathy Colver Garland and Tanja Rouintree explore the profound truth that God exists outside of time and is present in our past, present, and future all at once. This episode dives into healing from trauma, restoring scattered parts of the self, and why God’s presence—not striving—is the foundation of true freedom. If you’ve ever struggled with anxiety about the past or fear of the future, this conversation offers deep reassurance and practical wisdom. In This Episode What it means that God lives in the “eternal now” Why God’s promises are always true, not time-limited Healing the inner child through God’s presence How trauma freezes parts of us and affects decision-making Why wholeness must come before major life choices Restoration as a process rooted in surrender, not force Practical Takeaways God was present in your past, even when you couldn’t see Him Healing often includes reclaiming and reintegrating wounded parts Decisions made from unhealed places tend to create chaos Forgiveness is supernatural and cannot be rushed or forced Freedom is not the absence of struggle but the presence of Christ Scripture Mentioned Joel 2:25 2 Corinthians 10:5 2 Timothy 1:7 Judges 6:12 Hebrews 13:8 About the Guest Cathy Colver Garland teaches on God’s character, identity in Christ, and healing through His presence. She trains ministry leaders, counsels women, and writes devotionals designed to make theology accessible and deeply practical. Find resources, devotionals, and teachings at revelationship.net Next Episode In the next episode, Tanja is join...
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  • Faith Passed Down: Breaking Cycles, Receiving Blessing

    Faith Passed Down: Breaking Cycles, Receiving Blessing
    Jan 11 2026
    What if your family legacy includes both deep faith and deep wounds? In Part 1 of this powerful conversation, Tanja Rouintree sits down with Cathy Colver Garland to explore how faith is passed down across generations and how cycles of addiction, distortion, and pain can be interrupted by God’s presence.Together, they talk about spiritual mothers and grandmothers, breaking generational patterns, and why discipleship matters more than self-help. This episode offers hope for anyone who didn’t grow up with a godly example but longs to build a new legacy rooted in Christ.Faith Passed Down: Breaking Cycles, Receiving Blessing (Part 1) Marriage, Mayhem & Mercy Podcast Here's your link to join Faithful Families Free Community on Facebook. Episode Summary What if your family legacy includes both deep faith and deep wounds? In Part 1 of this powerful conversation, Tanja Rouintree sits down with Cathy Colver Garland to explore how faith is passed down across generations and how cycles of addiction, distortion, and pain can be interrupted by God’s presence. Together, they talk about spiritual mothers and grandmothers, breaking generational patterns, and why discipleship matters more than self-help. This episode offers hope for anyone who didn’t grow up with a godly example but longs to build a new legacy rooted in Christ. In This Episode What it means to inherit both blessings and burdens Cathy’s grandmother’s faith and its lasting spiritual impact How generational patterns form and why they’re so hard to see The biblical framework for breaking cycles and receiving blessing Why discipleship and spiritual family are essential for healing How lies become “normal” when they’re passed down unchecked Practical Takeaways You are not disqualified from blessing because of your family history Generational patterns can be named, interrupted, and surrendered to God Spiritual mothers and mentors help reveal lies we cannot see alone Faith is not about perfection but about long obedience and intimacy New legacies often begin with humility and honest help-seeking Scripture Mentioned 2 Timothy 1:5 Exodus 20:5–6 Joshua 24:15 2 Corinthians 10:5 About the Guest Cathy Colver Garland works with women seeking healing, discipleship, and freedom through God’s presence. With decades of ministry experience, she teaches on identity in Christ, breaking strongholds, and hearing God’s voice. Cathy is the author of Revelationship and leads training for pastors and ministry ...
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  • Incarnate Hope: When It Feels Like You’ve Failed as a Husband or Father

    Incarnate Hope: When It Feels Like You’ve Failed as a Husband or Father
    Jan 4 2026
    In this part of the conversation, Dr. Justin Tilghman describes incarnational leadership as modeling the way Jesus related to people, especially within the home. He explains that Christlike leadership is grounded in love expressed through patience, kindness, listening, and respect. Practically, this means truly hearing a wife without preparing a defense, responding with curiosity instead of reactivity, and honoring her as a fellow image-bearer and spiritual partner.A central theme is emotional presence. You and Justin discuss how many wives feel deeply alone even when their husbands are physically present. Justin shares the sobering insight that a physically present but emotionally absent father can sometimes be more damaging than an absent one, because ongoing hope for connection leads to repeated disappointment.The conversation then turns toward hope and change. Justin encourages men who feel they’ve failed, reminding them that God is not asking for perfection but humility and willingness. Change begins with confession, repentance, and small, consistent steps toward greater presence. You connect this to the Christmas season, framing it as a natural opportunity to slow down, re-engage with family, and give the lasting gift of presence. The segment concludes with Justin offering prayer for husbands, wives, and children, asking God to bring renewal, healing, and grace to families.Episode Summary In Part 2 of this conversation, Tanja Rouintree and Dr. Justin Tilghman explore what incarnational, Christlike leadership looks like for men within the home. Rather than focusing on authority or control, this episode centers on emotional presence, humility, and love modeled after Jesus Himself. The discussion offers both challenge and deep encouragement for husbands, wives, and parents who long for stronger connection and healing in their families. In This Episode What incarnational leadership really means for husbands and fathers How Jesus modeled leadership through love, patience, and relationship The difference between physical presence and emotional presence Why being “there but unavailable” can be deeply damaging to families How listening, attunement, and respect shape a thriving marriage Encouragement for men who feel they’ve failed or missed the mark Why small, consistent changes matter more than perfection How the Christmas season offers a natural opportunity for reset and renewal Simple, practical ways to re-engage with your family starting today A prayer for husbands, wives, and children seeking healing and growth Practical Takeaways Christlike leadership begins with valuing relationship over control True listening means seeking understanding, not preparing a response Emotional presence matters more than physical proximity Change does not require perfection, but humility and willingness
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  • Incarnate Love: How Christ’s Coming Shapes a Man’s Calling at Home

    Incarnate Love: How Christ’s Coming Shapes a Man’s Calling at Home
    Dec 28 2025
    In this first part of my conversation with Dr. Justin Tilghman, we explore the doctrine of the incarnation—God becoming human in the person of Jesus—and why it matters deeply for marriage and family life. Justin unpacks John 1:14 and helps us see how the full humanity and full divinity of Christ form the foundation of our salvation, our hope, and our understanding of love.From there, we turn to a husband’s calling to model Christ-like love in the home. Justin speaks candidly about the weight of that responsibility, the common barriers men face—especially when they lacked good examples growing up—and the ways children form early impressions of God from the fathers in their lives. We also talk about the tension women feel around leadership in marriage: when to step back, when to step in, and how trust in the Lord frames both postures.This episode lays the theological groundwork for Part 2, where we get very practical about incarnational leadership, emotional presence, and how husbands and wives become partners in modeling Christ to their families.Title: Incarnate Love: How Christ’s Coming Shapes a Man’s Calling at HomeGuest: Dr. Justin Tilghman, pastor and life coach What We Talk About in This Episode Why the incarnation is central to the gospel and essential to Christian life How John 1:14 reveals the heart of God entering human experience What it means for Jesus to be fully God and fully man—and why that matters for our salvation How fathers uniquely “image” God to their children The spiritual weight men feel in marriage, and why it often feels overwhelming The two major barriers men face in spiritual leadership: lack of modeling and selfishness How childhood experiences shape expectations around leadership in marriage The tension women feel between stepping back and stepping in Why trust in the Lord—not in a spouse—is the anchor in both scenarios A husband’s calling to love his wife as Christ loved the church Marriage as a partnership, not a hierarchy of control ✨ Key Takeaways The incarnation isn’t just theology—it’s the blueprint for how we love in ordinary family life. Jesus fully entered human experience, which means He understands every weakness, temptation, and emotion we face. Husbands are called to mirror Christ’s sacrificial love, not domination or control. Wives navigating leadership dynamics must examine motives, communicate openly, and place their deepest trust in God. Partnership, humility, and Spirit-empowered leadership are at the heart of biblical marriage. 📖 Scr...
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  • Mary’s Surrender (pt 2) and the Soul’s Two-Step with guest Jeanne Bill

    Mary’s Surrender (pt 2) and the Soul’s Two-Step with guest Jeanne Bill
    Dec 21 2025
    This episode of Marriage, Mayhem, and Mercy features a rich conversation with Jeanne Bill about Mary’s surrender in Luke 1 and what it looks like to live a surrendered life today. Jeanne traces Mary’s quiet “yes” through pregnancy, Jesus’ ministry, the cross, and beyond, showing us that surrender isn’t a one-time decision but a daily process of trusting God in uncertainty and suffering.Jeanne also shares her own journey of healing, describing how daily surrender has meant allowing herself to feel pain, releasing it to Jesus, and practicing radical forgiveness—toward others and toward herself. We talk about bitterness and the body, the example of Jesus and Stephen in forgiving their enemies, the story of Joseph, and what Jeanne calls the soul’s “two-step”: surrender and submission. The episode closes with practical encouragement for living with a kingdom mindset, seeing our work and relationships as part of God’s family business, and believing that our “yes” to God is significant long before we see the fruit.Summary In this episode, Tanja sits down with Jeanne Bill to explore Mary’s surrender in Luke 1 and how her “let it be to me according to your word” continued through Jesus’ lifetime of ministry and suffering. Jeanne shares how God invited her into a daily practice of surrender in her own story of pain, regret, and healing. They discuss the difference between stuffing emotions and feeling to heal, the spiritual and physical cost of unforgiveness, the example of Jesus and Stephen forgiving their enemies, and what it means to live with a kingdom mindset in ordinary work and family life. Jeanne introduces the image of the soul’s two-step—surrender and submission—and reminds listeners that they are not behind in who they are becoming. In This Episode, We Talk About: How Mary’s surrender in Luke 1 flowed into a lifetime of trusting God through suffering Why “If you don’t feel, you won’t heal” matters for emotional and spiritual health The connection between unforgiveness, bitterness, and the body (“bitterness rots the bones”) The examples of Jesus on the cross and Stephen’s stoning as models of radical forgiveness Joseph’s response to his brothers and the truth that vengeance belongs to God What is really behind the un-Biblical concept of “self-forgiveness” Jeanne’s image of the two-step dance with God: surrender and submission Seeing your work as part of God’s family business and trusting Him for provision Why you are not behind in your calling—your delay may be development, not denial Practical Takeaways Let yourself feel so you can heal. Bringing your pain, regret, anger, and fear into the light is part of daily surrender; numbing only delays healing. Name and release unforgiveness. If you still feel that knot in your stomach when you see someone, ask the Lord to show you where forgiveness is unfinished.
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  • Mary’s Surrender, Part 1: Saying “Yes, Lord” When Life Doesn’t Match the Call

    Mary’s Surrender, Part 1: Saying “Yes, Lord” When Life Doesn’t Match the Call
    Dec 14 2025
    In this episode of Marriage, Mayhem & Mercy, Tanja talks with nurse coach Jeanne Bill about Mary’s surrender in Luke 1 and what it means when God interrupts our carefully laid plans. Jeanne shares her journey from being a teenage mom on welfare to becoming a registered nurse and holistic nurse coach, and how God’s call on her life persisted through fear, limitation, and discouraging voices.Together, they explore how trauma is stored in the body, why healing must address spirit, soul, and body, and how Mary’s “yes” to God shows us a posture of trust when reality doesn’t match the promise. They also contrast Mary’s faith-filled question with Zechariah’s doubt, and imagine how Mary’s time in Elizabeth and Zechariah’s home quietly trained her in the power of words, surrender, and daily obedience.Mary’s Surrender, Part 1: Saying “Yes, Lord” When Life Doesn’t Match the Call Episode Summary In this episode, Tanja is joined by nurse coach Jeanne Bill to explore Mary’s surrender in Luke chapter 1. Jeanne shares her powerful testimony of being a teenage mom, facing academic insecurity and lack of support, and yet following God’s long-term invitation into nursing and holistic coaching. They talk about trauma stored in the body, how God often calls us in direct contradiction to our circumstances, and what it means to position our hearts to serve God’s purposes when our plans—and our reputations—are on the line. In This Episode, We Talk About: How Jeanne went from teenage mom on welfare to registered nurse and nurse coach. The way unhealed trauma can manifest as unexplained physical symptoms like migraines, chest pain, or stomach issues. Mary’s story in Luke 1 as a picture of God interrupting our plans with His purpose. The difference between Mary’s question (“How will this be?”) and Zechariah’s question—and why one was honored and the other was disciplined. How Mary’s stay in the home of Elizabeth and Zechariah may have shaped her understanding of the power of words, surrender, and daily trust. Practical Takeaways God’s invitations often contradict your circumstances. Feeling unqualified or under-resourced doesn’t mean you misheard God; it may mean He plans to show His strength in your weakness. Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget. If you’re experiencing chronic, unexplained symptoms, it may be wise to consider the impact of past trauma on your body and soul. Positioning your heart to serve God’s purpose starts with trust. Mary shows us what it looks like to say, “I am the Lord’s servant,” even when the path ahead is unclear. Your words matter. Zechariah’s silence and Mary’s quiet pondering remind us to be “quick to listen, slow to speak,” especially when doubt and fear are loud. Timing is part of calling. Jeanne’s 20-year journey to nursing school highlights that God’s call may be immediate, but His timing for fulfillment often unfolds slowly. Scripture Mentioned
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  • Rebuilding Trust After Porn: A Faithful Path for Wounded Marriages

    Rebuilding Trust After Porn: A Faithful Path for Wounded Marriages
    Dec 7 2025
    In this second half of the conversation, Tanja and certified sex addiction recovery coach Chris Grimbilas go deeper into the practical work of recovery from pornography and sexual betrayal. Chris explains why men often “trade addictions,” how healthy coping habits are formed, and why emotional awareness is essential for long-term healing. They discuss the role of confession in community, the difference between honesty and transparency, tools for identifying emotions, and the spiritual importance of asking God to reveal what’s happening inside the heart. Chris also addresses common myths and excuses surrounding pornography, explains why gaslighting and blame-shifting harm the marriage, and offers concrete next steps for anyone ready to begin recovery. The episode closes with encouragement, hope, and a prayer for couples walking this difficult road.Episode Summary In Part 2 of Tanja’s conversation with certified sex addiction recovery coach Chris Grimbilas, the focus turns to the practical steps men must take to move from secrecy into true recovery. Chris explains why men often replace one coping behavior with another, outlines the nine-step framework used in his 90-day recovery program, and emphasizes the spiritual and emotional work required to build new habits. He also offers tools for naming emotions, debunking myths about pornography, overcoming defensiveness, and taking responsibility for rebuilding trust. In This Episode Why men often “trade” one addiction or distraction for another Why new habits must replace unhealthy ones—and how to build them The three essential levels of communication: with yourself, with God, and with others Why confession must happen in safe community (James 5:16) The role of Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA), Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), and faith-based recovery programs How emotional recognition tools like a feelings wheel help men grow in empathy The spiritual importance of asking God to reveal what’s happening inside Common myths about pornography and the truths that dismantle them Gaslighting, excuses, and blame-shifting—and how they destroy trust Next steps for men and couples beginning the recovery journey Scriptures Mentioned James 5:16 – Confess your faults one to another Psalm 139:23–24 – “Search me, O God… know my heart” Proverbs 5 – Rejoice in the wife of your youth Song of Solomon – Joy, desire, and intimacy in marriage Job 31:1 (implied) – “I made a covenant with my eyes” Resources Chris Mentioned The Recovery Mindset – Free download Proclaim Liberty ...
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