In this episode, we unpack one of the most practical distinctions we teach: the difference between a need and a strategy. A need is a relational longing: connection, safety, being seen, being prioritized. A strategy is your idea of how that need should get met: date night, quicker texts, no phones at night, doing the dishes before sitting down.

The problem is, most of us accidentally disguise strategies as needs… and that’s where control sneaks in. We talk about why that feels so painful (for both people), how “requests” turn into “demands” when there’s punishment attached, and why collaboration creates way more buy-in than prescriptions ever will.

We'll talk about how to peel back the strategy to name the real need underneath, so you can fight less about the method and connect more around the longing.

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Sometimes self-awareness helps us grow… and sometimes it quietly gives us permission to stay exactly where we are.

In this episode, we talk about the subtle ways insight can turn into self-justification—whether it’s personality types, triggers, habits, or even love languages—and how awareness is meant to become a starting point for transformation, not a comfortable resting place. We share stories from our own marriage about conflict avoidance, travel differences, stress habits, and learning how to let understanding lead to maturity rather than excuses.

If you’ve ever heard the phrase, “That’s just how I am,” this conversation will help reframe awareness as an invitation to grow—one small, intentional step at a time.

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A story only God could write. 💔➡️❤️
Divorce, divine encounters, heart-level repentance, and a miraculous reconciliation.
Listen to hear Amy's testimony of when God interrupts a story that felt finished.
It will remind you all things are possible with Him.

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In this episode, Jenna is joined by her nine-year-old daughter, Rosie, for a sweet and surprisingly insightful conversation about what comfort looks like in their family.

Together, they talk about the different “flavors of comfort” each family member needs when big emotions show up—whether that’s physical touch, someone staying close, space to process alone, or quiet presence.

Rosie shares how she prefers space before reconnecting, while Jenna reflects on how having someone in the room can actually make it harder for her to notice what she’s feeling.

The conversation is tender, honest, and full of Rosie’s natural charm.

Toward the end, Jenna also shares a recent meaningful moment they experienced together with the Lord—offering a gentle invitation for parents to cultivate similar moments of connection, emotional safety, and spiritual openness with their own kids.

This episode is both practical and heart-level, and a reminder that learning how we give and receive comfort can deepen our relationships in powerful ways.

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Dopamine isn’t just about pleasure.
It’s about seeking.

Your brain lights up most when the reward isn’t guaranteed—
when you’re searching, anticipating, scanning.

This is why elementary kids around the country are stoked out of their minds when they encounter or hear 6,7.

What can we learn here that could help us adults harness & grow our joy as we train our attention intentionally??

Optimism isn’t just a personality trait.
It’s a trained habit of attention.

In this episode, we talk about:
• the dopamine “hunt”
• why unpredictability fuels motivation
• how learned optimism actually works
• and what faith has to do with training your brain to look for goodness

Joy doesn’t come from forcing positivity.
It grows where attention is practiced.

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Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in marriage—even when the topic keeps changing?

In this episode, we talk about the power of naming your patterns: the emotional and relational loops that quietly drive conflict, disconnection, and reactivity. We share real examples from our marriage, parenting, and coaching work to show how awareness creates space between a trigger and your response.

When you can name what’s happening inside you—passivity, shutdown, avoidance, mind-reading, or self-rejection—you gain more self-control, clarity, and freedom to choose a different response. This isn’t about suppressing emotions or fixing your spouse; it’s about growing self-awareness so you don’t keep making the same mess.

If you want practical tools for breaking unhealthy patterns, regulating emotions, and creating healthier communication in your marriage, this episode will help you slow down, get curious, and choose differently.

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Family visits are supposed to bring connection… but sometimes they bring exhaustion, awkward expectations, and a drained bank account.

In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when the way you’re visiting family isn’t working anymore — and how to get creative about connection without spending a fortune.

We’ll share our own story (including a few hard lessons from our in-laws 😅) and offer practical alternatives for families who live far apart: meeting in the middle, combining trips, camping, even serving together.

If you’ve ever felt torn between your budget and your relationships, this episode will help you rethink what “showing up” can look like in this season.

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Ever notice how easy it is to slip into a courtroom conversation?
You start building a case in your head, stacking evidence, rehearsing your defense... all before you’ve actually asked a question.

This week’s episode is about the habit that can stop that spiral before it starts: curiosity.

When something feels off—at work, with your kids, or in your marriage—it’s tempting to assume motives or fill in missing details. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It slows you down long enough to seek understanding before judgment.

Because the goal isn’t to win an argument; it’s to keep connection.

In this episode, we'll unpack:
• why your brain fills in gaps (and gets the story wrong most of the time)
• how to replace courtroom conversations with curious ones
• a pre-confrontation filter that helps you pause before reacting

Listen to “But First, Curiosity: How to Avoid Courtroom Conversations” wherever you get your podcasts.

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