• She's Not The Problem
    Jan 13 2026

    Summary

    In this episode of The Marriage is Tougher Than Woodpecker Lips podcast, hosts Bryan Hooks and Paul Sargent discuss the complexities of communication in marriage. They emphasize the importance of shifting blame to problem-solving, understanding feelings, and adapting communication styles. The conversation explores the idea of reviewing past interactions, akin to 'game film' in sports, to improve future communication. The hosts encourage open dialogue, recognizing the impact of tone, and the need for couples to work together to tackle issues rather than viewing each other as the problem. Ultimately, they advocate for growth and adaptability in communication to foster healthier relationships.

    Takeaways:

    • It's important to shift from blaming each other to addressing the problem together.
    • Using 'I' statements can help improve communication in marriage.
    • Feelings are valid, but how we react to them matters more.
    • Teamwork in marriage is crucial for overcoming challenges.
    • Understanding how your partner receives communication can enhance connection.
    • Tone can significantly affect how messages are received in conversations.
    • Sarcasm may not be appropriate for serious discussions.
    • Recognizing and adapting communication patterns is essential for growth.
    • Open communication allows for better understanding and resolution of issues.
    • It's important to be willing to change communication styles as relationships evolve.


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    36 min
  • Why Stay Married?
    Jan 6 2026

    Summary

    In this episode of The Marriage is Tougher Than Woodpecker Lips podcast, hosts Bryan Hooks and Paul Sargent explore the reasons behind staying married. They discuss the importance of commitment, the weight of responsibility, and the challenges that come with marriage. The conversation emphasizes love as a choice, the significance of self-love, and the impact of marriage on children. The hosts reflect on their personal experiences and insights, encouraging listeners to consider their own reasons for staying married and the work involved in maintaining a healthy relationship.


    Takeaways

    • Marriage requires constant effort and commitment.
    • Choosing to stay married is a daily decision.
    • Self-reflection is crucial in understanding marriage.
    • Love is an action, not just a feeling.
    • The weight of responsibility can be heavy for husbands.
    • Facing challenges together strengthens the relationship.
    • Setting a good example for children is important.
    • Communication is key during tough times.
    • Self-love is essential for loving others.
    • Belief in the marriage foundation is vital for longevity.



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    36 min
  • Surprise Gift Tips
    Dec 23 2025

    In this episode of The Marriage is Tougher Than Woodpecker Lips podcast, hosts Bryan Hooks and Paul Sargent discuss the intricacies of planning surprise gifts for their spouses, particularly focusing on the importance of communication, involvement, and creating memorable experiences. They share personal anecdotes about their own experiences with surprise trips and the dynamics of family involvement, emphasizing the need for balance between surprise and collaboration in gift-giving. The conversation also touches on budgeting for gifts and the significance of capturing family moments during these experiences.

    Takeaways

    • The importance of planning surprise gifts for your spouse.
    • Involving your partner in decision-making enhances the experience.
    • Family dynamics play a crucial role in gift-giving.
    • Creating memorable experiences is more valuable than material gifts.
    • Communication about expectations is key in relationships.
    • Budgeting for gifts can alleviate financial stress.
    • Surprises can strengthen the bond in a marriage.
    • Capturing moments during family trips adds to the experience.
    • Understanding your partner's preferences is essential for gift-giving.
    • Regular weekend experiences can enhance marital satisfaction.



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    25 min
  • Husbandly Insecurities
    Dec 16 2025

    n this episode of 'The Marriage is Tougher Than Woodpecker Lips' podcast, hosts Bryan Hooks and Paul Sargent delve into the topic of husbandly insecurities. They discuss personal experiences and perspectives on how insecurities manifest in marriage, particularly focusing on financial provision and relational dynamics. The conversation highlights the importance of communication, understanding, and support in overcoming these insecurities and building a stronger marital bond.


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    31 min
  • Seeking Discipleship, Seeking Relationship, Seeking Community
    Dec 9 2025

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    27 min
  • TABLE THE CONVERSATION
    Nov 18 2025

    Join Bryan and Paul in this episode of "The Marriage is Tougher Than Woodpecker Lips" as they delve into the art of tabling conversations in marriage. Discover strategies for stepping away from heated discussions and effectively returning to the table with respect and an open mind. Whether you're a seasoned listener or new to the community, this episode offers valuable insights into maintaining healthy communication and resolving conflicts in relationships. Tune in to learn how to navigate the complexities of marriage with grace and understanding.

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    30 min
  • The Path Of A Prayer Answered
    Oct 28 2025

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    24 min
  • Lessons Were Learned w/ Paul Montalvo
    Sep 30 2025

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    54 min