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The deepest intimacy in a marriage is not physical. It is spiritual, and it grows through prayer! Welcome our special guests, Colin & Nancy Millar!

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In this episode of Love Letters with Jason and Ros, we had an inspiring conversation about "P" for prayer as a priority in marriage! We had an amazing time sitting down on location in San Marcos with our longtime friends and prayer ministry co-laborers, Colin and Nancy Millar of Igniting Prayer Action. They happily shared with us what 41 years of marriage and a life of prayer have taught them.

WE COVER:

• The Millars' love story, from a delayed flight in Dallas to a teddy bear named Zach, and why we say God's delays are for a greater way!
• Why prayer matters in marriage, both individually and collectively, and the Holy Spirit’s role in it all.
• Why spiritual intimacy is the deepest connection a husband and wife can share.
• Candid and faith-filled Millar stories like:
  • “When a delayed flight in Dallas, a teddy bear, and two months of dancing date nights turn into an “I Do.”
  • “The heavy foot, the prayer, and the speeding ticket.”
  • How "We've become two units."
  • Why listening to our spouse matters, and what waiting on God does for our prayer life.

⏱️ CHAPTERS:

• 00:00 - Welcome to Love Letters
• 02:48 - Meet Colin & Nancy Millar
• 09:50 - From No Prayer Life to Igniting Prayer Action
• 11:00 - Why Does Prayer Matter in Marriage? Its Benefits?
• 20:37 - Why Is It a Challenge to Pray Together?
• 24:17 - Simple Ways to Start Praying Together
• 32:12 - Encouragement for Couples Who Are Hurting
• 34:10 – Colin’s Prayer for Marriages
• 34:39 - Your Love Letter Challenge & Closing

REFERENCES/RESOURCES

• Couples That Pray Together— Higher marital satisfaction and lower divorce rates. https://homeword.com/jims-blog/the-couple-that-prays-together-2/
• Igniting Prayer Action: https://www.ignitingprayeraction.org/; https://www.ignitingprayeraction.org/waiting-on-god-in-prayer/
• Waiting on God Book Orders: https://www.ignitingprayeraction.org/prayer-resources/

EPISODE SCRIPTURES/PASSAGES— [NKJV], [NIV]

• All Scripture references were taken from Bible Gateway: https://www.biblegateway.com/
• Matthew 18 and 19-20
• Matthew 11 and 28-29
• Psalm 27 and 14
• James 5 and 16

THIS WEEK’S “LIVE OUT YOUR LOVE LETTER" CHALLENGE:
If you and your spouse haven’t been praying together, start small.

• Try a short morning prayer, even just 10 to 15 seconds with a kiss and a simple hug prayer such as, "Lord, bless my spouse to have an amazing day."
• Then pick up the book Waiting on God by Andrew Murray, a great resource to help you grow your prayer life (link below).
  
  
  

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• What’s one simple way you and your spouse can start (or restart) praying together this week?

"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." John 13:34

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“Don’t trust him...Trust Me.” That’s what I heard the Lord say when forgiving was hard, and I was afraid of getting hurt again.

In this Candid Conversation, we’re talking about when it’s hard to forgive, and we go deep on this one! Jason and Ros pick up where our last forgiveness episode left off, sharing straight talk about forgiving a spouse, a loved one, or anyone who has hurt us, even when they never say sorry.

WE COVER:

• Various reasons why it’s so hard to forgive someone, but they don’t move the needle or cut no ice!
• Discover the four hard scenarios of forgiveness, and why we still gain when we forgive and repent
• Why trust and forgiveness are not the same thing
• The horrible consequences of harboring unforgiveness
• What we do when someone keeps saying sorry but keeps repeating the same offense

CHAPTERS:

• 00:00 Intro & Welcome to Today's Candid Conversation
• 03:13 Why It’s So Hard to Forgive—Hard Scenarios
• 10:48 Letting Go of Unforgiveness
• 12:59 Jason's Story—Remembering Being Forgiven
• 16:36 Trust & Forgiveness—Not the Same Thing
• 24:44 The Consequences of Unforgiveness
• 30:11 Ros's Story—3 Reasons Why I Forgive
• 34:03 They Keep Repenting AND Keep Hurting
• 37:46 Final Thoughts & Closing Prayer

EPISODE SCRIPTURES/PASSAGES— [NIV, NKJV]

• All scripture references were taken from Bible Gateway: https://www.biblegateway.com/
  • Psalm 118:8
  • Matthew 18:32-35
  • Mark 11:25-26

RESOURCES:

• “Trust is earned in drops and lost in buckets…” Author Kevin Kelly
• Book | Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I’d Known Earlier (2023)

POWER TAKEAWAY:

Although it can be very difficult to forgive certain scenarios or situations, we MUST forgive because God commands it, it ultimately benefits our overall well-being, and He’s given us the grace to do it!

We want to hear from you. Which is harder for you right now: letting go of the offense, or knowing when to trust again? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!

If you are in an abusive situation, your safety comes first. In the U.S., call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org. If you are in immediate danger, call your local emergency number.

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Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a decisive action you take, and it might be the most necessary force and source of healing for your marriage and love relationships!

In this episode of Love Letters with Jason and Ros, we take a deep dive into the concept of forgiveness. We keep this conversation real and relevant to what it looks like today for the offended and the offender!

So tune in to this episode to better understand and gain clarity on the WHAT, the WHY, and the HOW of forgiveness. It isn’t always fair, but it’s fundamental to obtaining inner healing, peace, and restoration for yourself and your marriage! ❤️‍🔥

WE COVER:

• What forgiveness truly is, and why it feels unfair
• The first mention of forgiveness in the Bible and what it teaches us about the big picture
• The repentance process: God's kindness, godly sorrow, and personal confession
• Why worldly sorrow says, "I'm sorry I got caught," and godly sorrow advances relationships, holding a deeper sentiment
• FOR. GIVE. NESS. How to do it God’s way
• Forgiving versus forgetting
• The covenant of forgiveness in marriage and why the standard is what God did, not what your spouse deserves

EPISODE SCRIPTURES/PASSAGES— [NKJV], [NIV]

All Scripture references were taken from Bible Gateway

• Genesis 50:17-20
• Colossians 3:13
• Romans 2:4
• Ephesians 4:32
• James 5:16
• 3 John 1:2
• 1 Cor. 13:5

POWER TAKEAWAY:

“Forgiveness is a divine extension of God’s grace towards an imperfect and sinful world. Not only must we forgive others as we’ve been forgiven, but He’s also given us the grace TO forgive!”

THIS WEEK’S “LIVE OUT YOUR LOVE LETTER" CHALLENGE:

• STEP 1 | Think of one thing you're still holding against your spouse or loved one and write it down.
• STEP 2 | Bring it to God in prayer first, and ask Him to connect you back to a moment He completely forgave you of something you didn't deserve, but extended grace anyway.
• STEP 3 | Then make the decision, not the feeling, to release it. In a safe space, tell your spouse or loved one what it is and that you've released it. "I'm not carrying it anymore."

We want to hear from you, let us know your thoughts!

• What did you learn?
• What surprised or inspired you the most?
• What addition topics would you like to see discussed on Love Letters?

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“I’ve broken the marriage covenant before, and it was a train wreck!' When the covenant breaks does the marriage fall? Find out what goes down and how to bring it back up!

During this Candid Conversations episode of Love Letters with Jason & Ros, we share painful truths and answer pressing questions about what happens when the covenant is broken. So, watch E15 as we keep it real with more candid discussions just for you!

WE COVER:

• Why Adam and Eve's story is the pattern for every broken covenant, keeping passivity and blame prominent in marriages even today
• The top ways couples break covenant without even realizing it
• Why many husbands struggle to love and lead, while wives end up leading instead of submitting and supporting
• What God's response to broken covenant looks like compared to ours
• How to rebuild a covenant mindset through repentance and forgiveness

CHAPTERS:

• 00:00 – Intro & Welcome to Candid Conversations
• 02:17 – What Happens When the Covenant Is Broken?
• 04:39 – Adam & Eve: The First Broken Covenant
• 09:00 – The Blame Game That Breaks Us
• 10:00 – Ways We Break Covenant Today
• 12:33 – Why Husbands Struggle to Love & Lead
• 16:34 – Why Wives Struggle to Submit & Support
• 22:18 – Ros Gets Candid: When I Broke Covenant
• 26:05 – Building a Covenant Mindset
• 27:31 – From "I Do" to "I Still Do"
• 29:13 – Our Takeaway & Closing Prayer

REFERENCES/RESOURCES

• One Extraordinary Marriage: “Average Sex Life in Marriage: What the Research Shows (And What Actually Matters)
  https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/average-sex-life-marriage/
• Good Therapy: “Premarital Counseling: Building a Strong Foundation for Marriage”
  https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/modes/premarital-counseling

EPISODE SCRIPTURES/PASSAGES— [NKJV]

• Genesis Chapter 3 reference was taken from Bible Gateway:
  https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis%203&version=NKJV

POWER TAKEAWAY:

"When we sin against our spouse, we ultimately sin against God and break covenant on both ends. There is HOPE; Jesus is our Mediator who provided a way for us to get back into both covenants.”

THIS WEEK’S “LIVE OUT YOUR LOVE LETTER" CHALLENGE:

1. Sit with your spouse for an honest covenant check-in.
2. Ask each other, "is there anything unspoken between us that's created distance?"
3. Then pray together and ask God to help you both return fully to your covenant, whatever surfaces.

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“I didn't realize I was trying to become a wife; then God said, 'Wait a minute, you're My daughter first!'” Discover the significance of one marriage, two covenants, and what it means to be “all in!”

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In E14 of Love Letters with Jason and Ros, we’re talking about “Covenant,” and we’re keeping it real! With fewer than 40% of couples receiving premarital counseling, many enter marriage unaware of their first covenant—let alone the second!

We’ve officially kicked off Season 2 of Love Letters with our new series, “Building Healthy Marriages,” starting with the key element by which every strong marriage must start and stand: Covenant!

Discover why covenant is the foundation for everything else in your marriage, and why understanding it can change the way you love, communicate, and build together.

We Cover:

• What a covenant actually is, and how our covenant with God through Jesus becomes the foundation for how we love our spouse
• The 5-part marriage covenant found in Genesis 2, and what each part means
• Husband and Wife covenant roles and responsibilities
• Three truths that changed how we view marriage
• Why we must recognize, receive, and remain “all in” with both covenants

Chapters:

• 00:00 – Welcome to Season 2 of Love Letters
• 01:53 – Our three main points for today
• 02:29 – What is a covenant?
• 03:18 – POINT 1—We have a covenant with God through Jesus.
• 09:28 – POINT 2—We have a covenant with each other
• 09:58 – The first wedding in Genesis 2
• 16:34 – Three fundamental beliefs about godly marriage
• 27:06 – POINT 3— Committing to maintain both covenants
• 30:49 – How to maintain the marriage covenant (Ephesians 5)
• 34:49 – Five elements of staying "all in"
• 41:05 – What the research says about connection and intimacy
• 42:33 – Your Power Takeaway: Recognize, Receive, Remain
• 43:37 – Your Love Letter Challenge
• 44:20 – Closing prayer

References and Resources:

• One Extraordinary Marriage: “Average Sex Life in Marriage: What the Research Shows (And What Actually Matters)”
  https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/average-sex-life-marriage/
• Good Therapy: “Premarital Counseling: Building a Strong Foundation for Marriage”
  https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/modes/premarital-counseling

Episode Scriptures/Passages— [NKJV], [NIV]

• All Scripture References taken from Bible Gateway: https://www.biblegateway.com/

Our Covenant with God, the Father, Through Christ Jesus:

• 1 Corinthians 11, verse 25
• John 1, verse 12
• John 14, verse 15
• 1 John 5, verse 3

Our Covenant with One Another, as Husband & Wife:

• Genesis 2, verses 18-25
• Genesis 1, verses 27-28
• 1 John 3, verses 16-18

3. Our Commitment to Both Covenants- Be All In:

• John 13, verse 34
• Ephesians 5, verse 21
• Ephesians 5, verses 22-28

Power Takeaway:

"If you want to experience a healthy, fulfilling marriage: Recognize, Receive, and Remain in both covenants, under God’s divine protection. This is God's WAY and WILL for all of your love relationships.”

This Week's "Live Out Your Love Letter" Challenge:

1. Identify one or two areas in your relationship with God and in your marriage where you haven't fully recognized, received, or remained in covenant.
2. Write it down, pray about it, and talk about it with your spouse.
3. Then commit to being intentional about doing something different this week.

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• What did you learn?
• What surprised or inspired you the most?
• What topics would you like to see discussed on Love Letters?

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This one came straight from you. 💌

A clip from our Body Changes episode blew up, and the comments section had questions we couldn't answer in a reply. So we sat down and dug into them, unscripted.

In this Candid Conversations episode, we respond to your comments and
questions on:

• What to do if it's been years since you and your spouse have been intimate
• How perimenopause, menopause, and "manopause" affect intimacy for both spouses
• Who you should (and should not) talk to when you need outside support
• The difference between dating and courting for the unmarried
• Why sexual struggles are sometimes the fruit of a deeper root issue, not the root itself

If something we said got you thinking, or you've got a question of your own, send it our way. This is where we come back and actually talk about it.

"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." - John 13:34

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Can love and money really work together? In Episode 12 of Love Letters with Jason & Ros, we dive into “F” Finances and share how to create “Romance with Finance” in your marriage!

Money mismanagement can be one of the greatest sources of stress, discontentment, and division in marriages and love relationships. Challenges like debt, misappropriation, unrealistic expectations, lack of vision, and poor or no planning can quickly turn marital bliss into chaos! Yet, when finances are handled with wisdom, unity, and Godly principles, couples can build stability, strengthen trust, and move toward lasting success.

In this episode, Jason & Ros share interesting facts, fun conversation, and powerful insights on:

• Financial fundamentals for relationships
• How financial ignorance is not bliss
• The real results people experience when they honor God with their finances
• The common challenges couples face when the “money is funny”
• Practical strategies for overcoming financial difficulties... together

Chapters:

• 0:00 Welcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros- Topic Introduction
• 2:06 Navigating the Fundamentals of Finances
• 11:30 Our Story: Financial Ignorance is NOT Bliss
• 21:20 The Real Results of Honoring God w/Your Finances
• 25:18 When the Money is Funny- Financial Challenges!
• 31:48 Biblical Truths— Deuteronomy 8, Verse 18 and Matthew 25, Verse 21
• 33:35 Overcoming Financial Difficulties
• 47:38 Love Letter Finance Challenge
• 48:13 BONUS: Gold Nuggets of Giving & Investing
• 52:34 Closing Prayer

Resources:

Connect with Jason and Ros at: https://linktr.ee/jasonandros

5 Financial Fundamentals:

1. Living— Setting a realistic budget
2. Giving— Honoring the Lord with your finances
3. Saving— Establishing funds for emergencies and incidentals
4. Investing— Sowing into your future, retirement, and eventual passing
5. Just for You— Enjoying the fruits of your labor (modestly)

Scripture References:

• Deuteronomy 8, Verse 18 - "And you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day.”
• Matthew 25, Verse 21 - "His lord said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.”

Live Out Your Love Letter Challenge:

• Pray for a Vision for Your Finances
• If you are struggling with managing your money, and it's negatively impacting your relationship with your spouse, get help right away.

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Do you really know what Purpose is? The truth may surprise you, especially when it comes to purpose in your love relationships!

In Episode 11, we explore the true meaning of “P” for Purpose in a dynamic conversation with our special guest, Pastor Erik Luchetta, a longtime Bible teacher of theological studies and a trusted friend! Together, we challenge some of the most common misconceptions people carry about purpose, and why having the right perspective can potentially impact how we love, live, and relate to one another with positive results.

Top Three Things Purpose is Not:

1. It’s not your job or position
2. It’s not a “calling” or “anointing” over your life
3. And… it’s not your gifts, talents, or abilities

The truth?
Every person has one purpose, but it’s lived out in many unique ways. And yes… even your love relationships have purpose!

Pastor Erik helps us unpack how understanding God’s design for purpose brings clarity to relationships, the appropriate love alignment, ultimate forgiveness, and divine peace in how we should live out our faith, individually and collectively!

Chapters:

• 0:00 Welcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros
• 3:10 Introducing Pastor Erik Luchetta
• 3:42 Defining PURPOSE & God’s Plan for Humanity VS. Individual Calling
• 8:44 God’s Will On Earth As It Is In Heaven- Matthew 6, Verse 10
• 11:12 The Cost of Fulfilling Godly Purpose
• 13:44 What It Means to Be Human
• 24:02 Living Out Purpose in the “Little” Things
• 33:03 The Importance of Forgiveness in Fulfilling Purpose
• 42:30 Interesting Statistics on Purpose
• 47:24 How Purpose & Love Contribute to the Greater Good
• 1:02:57 Biblical Truth- Colossians 3, Verse 23
• 1:06:20 Love Letter Challenge on Purpose!

Episode Resources:

• Lakewood Bible Study “Living In Your Purpose.” Erik Luchetta and Jeremy Marrone, September 2024. https://www.lakewoodchurch.com/watch-online/06E587AE45D62f542B9F7930DE16

Scripture References:

• Matthew 6, Verse 10 - “Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”
• Colossians 3, Verse 23 - “And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,”

Live Out Your Love Letter Challenge:
Discover your purpose by answering these 3 questions.

1. What do you love to do and would do without getting paid or if no one was watching?
2. What is your why and motivation behind fulfilling purpose?
3. Are you willing to start "small" and possibly stay "small?"

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