What happens when we die?

From where we came - To where we go?

What exists beyond our "reality"?

There is an interconnection among these questions. 

They will be the subject of several posts. 

In this post, we will concentrate on what happens when we die.

What happens when we die?

And what happens when someone dear to us dies?

These questions seem to have the same answer. But the motivation behind them is different.

In the first one, we try to console ourselves about surviving after death.

In the second one, we are trying to deal with the sorrow and missing of a dear one.

Before I answer those questions, we have to be on the same page about some points.

What part of a person do we get used to or attached to?

And what part of us are we afraid to lose when we die?

The answer to both questions is what you consider "I" and "you".

The probable answer is "individuality". This "unique thing" makes one person feel separated from the others.

We can relate this individuality to the Ego and the personality (click here to see a post about that).

And we are so attached to that individuality...

The first time I reached a state of non-separation, it was amazing and frightening at the same time. I had no individuality anymore.

Where am I? 

Am I still existing? 

Where is that guy (me) who liked so many things and had many plans?

So, although it is possible to feel the divine essence, you usually get attached to the Ego.

Our fear of death is the fear of losing it. 

And our sorrow and longing are for that Ego of someone we don't have access to anymore.

If you have read the text so far and thought about the words derived from "Ego": egoism, egotism, egoic, etc., you can be thinking about how to get rid of your Ego.

In some texts from eastern schools of thought, you can find mentions about how to dissolve the Ego. In a sense that, after this process, we would be "Ego-less".

In my humble opinion, this is a mix of ideas lost in translation and nuances lost over the centuries. Also, the diverse connotations of the word "Ego" contribute to that confusion.

To me, the Ego is a construct characteristic of our existence on this plane on Schoolroom Earth.

It is impossible to incarnate as human beings in this frequency without an Ego.

As you begin to react, you produce selves, which leads to Ego formation.

The Ego also exists in higher planes, in different flavours. And we also receive their influence. But this will be the object of other posts.

Anyway, even without being able to get rid of the Ego, it is possible to "heal" it. We can do that by healing the selves (which interplay forms the Ego).

In the following topics, let's understand what means to heal the Ego.

There is a huge identification of you with your Ego. This is surprising given that the interplay of the selves is so dynamic, and you still are able to identify this interplay with "You".

But you are not your Ego. At least not only your Ego. Inside you, there are more elements.

It doesn't take much to notice that.

Aren't you able to feel something more behind the chit-chat of the selves?

Don't you feel a crush in your heart because something is lacking beyond the chit-chat in your mind?

Who is the "you" hearing the chit-chat inside "you"?

One of the most important of these elements is your Inner-child. You can consider your Inner -child part of your essence, part of your Soul.

This essence or Soul is the key to your happiness and realization.

It is a pure part of you, non-contaminated by all the societal programming and hurt selves.

Usually, we represent or "see" it as a child (your Inner-child). But keep in mind that we are talking about an all-knowing child. 

In some sense, we can also consider this Inner-child as a Master-self.

If you let this Inner-child guide you, instead of the many hurt selves, you will be happier and realised.

So, the healing of the Ego happens by aligning it with your Inner-child.

To make this alignment possible, we must heal many of our hurt selves. Otherwise, their chit-chat will be too loud to allow the Inner-child guidance.

It is important to understand that the selves are energies. 

The interplay that forms the Ego, and the Ego itself, are also energies. And those energies are way more powerful than most people think.

In fact, these energies constitute a big part of the very fabric of our "reality" here in Schoolroom Earth.

So, you can keep it simple and only think about the Ego influencing our decision-making, feelings and emotions. But still, there is a whole extra layer represented by those energies and their effect in creating our practical reality.

You don't need to believe in that, but if you do, your life on Schooroom Earth will be easier and more fulfilling.

There are several techniques to heal the hurt selves and align your Ego with your Inner-child. 

Is your Ego your friend or foe ?

To answer this question, it is important first to have a common ground about the concept of the Ego.

"Ego", "personality", and "self" have different meanings in different schools of thought.

We did a whole post explaining the concept of the Ego from our point of view (check it by clicking here).

The short version, to put us all on the same page, is:

For us, the Ego is the interplay of the selves that live inside you.

This interplay of selves impacts all decisions, emotions and feelings we have. It also tends to hinder the expression of our essence (our Inner-child).

So, you can jump to the conclusion that the Ego is a "bad" thing. But it is not as simple as it appears at first sight.

The Ego is a part of our psyche that makes our identity as human beings. In some sense, it represents who we are and what we are.

However, there is more than the Ego inside you.

The Ego produces a sense of individuality and separation between the beings.

It is the "entity" within us that craves attention, love, recognition, belonging to a group, etc.

The Ego is also a mechanism of protection.
To understand this mechanism of protection, imagine:

• The Ego is the interplay of the selves;
• The hurt selves are usually loud;
• So, they tend to influence you to avoid situations that could hurt you.

This seems to be an excellent thing.

And in a few situations, it can even be helpful.

But in most cases, the Ego is "hearing" the reaction of selves to situations that don't make sense anymore:

• The Ego can be "hearing" an ancestral self that was trying to run away from a wild beast.
• The Ego can be reacting based on a traumatized self who didn't have access to chocolate when you were a child.
• The louder self is reacting because he was hurt by a simple phrase heard during childhood.
• The selves are responding based on past lives situations that don't make sense anymore.

I am oversimplifying this explanation because the keyword here is the interplay of the selves. In general, you react based on the net effect of the interplay of many selves.

And not based on only one or a few hurt selves.