Prepare your safe word because we're pokin' some triggers. Jordan and J.T. are digging into attachment theory, and things could get prickly. Attachment theory explores how early interactions with caregivers influence our ability to form secure attachments and how those patterns can manifest in our adult relationships.

Attachment Styles & Their Impact on Relationships:

1. Secure adults tend to have healthy, trusting, and supportive relationships.
2. Anxious adults often crave intimacy but may struggle with feelings of insecurity and fear of abandonment.
3. Avoidant adults are likely to avoid emotional closeness, may prioritize independence over intimate relationships, and long for connection with a fear of getting too close.

It can be helpful to notice patterns, but the goal isn’t to diagnose everyone. It’s to understand ourselves better—so we can relate with more compassion, not more control.

Fill In the Blank:

The best relationships are ___________.

a. Uncomplicated

b. Like a team

c. Safe

Moving Towards Secure Attachment:

• Self-Awareness: Understanding each partner's attachment style is crucial for recognizing the patterns and triggers in the relationship.
• Open Communication: Both partners need to communicate their needs and boundaries clearly and vulnerably.
• Therapy: Couples or individual therapy can provide support and guidance for addressing attachment patterns and developing healthier relationship dynamics.
• Self-Regulation: Both partners can work on regulating their emotions and developing a sense of security within themselves, rather than relying solely on the other.
• Building Trust: Creating a safe space for vulnerability and emotional connection can help build trust and foster a more secure attachment style.

For Any Anxious Love Ninjas:

• Delay the impulse to reach out—set a timer for 15 minutes and do something nourishing in the meantime.
• Movement: walk, shake, dance out the jeebies
• Breathe! Try a slower exhale.
• Journal the worst-case scenario - then write a compassionate response to it.
• Send yourself the text you want to send to your partner.
• Reframe the mindset: “I can survive discomfort without needing immediate resolution,” or “Just because they’re distant doesn’t mean they’re leaving.”

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In a culture of constant stimulation, stillness is a skill, an act of resistance. When was the last time you truly experienced bone-deep, cellular silence? What does the noise help us hide? Join Jordan and J.T. as they explore the idea that peace is not found in the absence of chaos, but in our refusal to be controlled by it. Listen to discover:

- Reliance on external validation can keep you small

- Dr. Brené Brown: Proving is a prison!

- Power of the pause: Is your response aligned with who you are or how you (momentarily) feel?

- Stillness as a radical act of inner protest (aka some folks won't care for your desire to change)

- The effect of our hyper-connected, 24/7 accessibility on our nervous system and anxiety

- It's ok not to be liked.

- Regulation Station: beep beep!

- The chaos isn't going anywhere. How much chaos are you willing to consent to?

- ENERGY! Your energy (your tank) is your POWER. Sacred expenditure on unimportant stimuli.

- Silence is not a sign of weakness. The quiet is not fear or indifference, but intentional consideration: clarity.

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Jordan and J.T. deconstruct the traditional life timeline and explore why we should reclaim our nonlinear stories. Listen to discover:

- The subtle tyranny of "by this age, I should have..."

- Who decides if we're "on track?" Is "being on track" setting us back?

- Goals vs. Milestones: who keeps score?

- Reframing 40 not as a crisis, but a quiet rebellion.

- Relationship milestones that aren’t "We’re Pregnant!"

- Is being chosen overrated? How can we choose ourselves more fully more often?

- Is there a petty timeline flex you're secretly proud of?

- The power of celebrating personal success

**Let us know! What is a nontraditional milestone you feel we should celebrate? (Ideas: Freedom and Rebellion Milestones, Emotional Milestones, Petty But Powerful Milestones, Slightly Feral But Totally Valid Milestones, etc.)

- Love Ninja Milestone: "Realized I wasn’t the problem... but also wasn’t the main character."

- JT's Next Milestone: took a nap instead of seeking validation.

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