Stop "fixing" people when they are upset. Here is the 3-part fatherhood framework to build trust, respect, and emotional safety in any relationship—without losing your authority.

In this episode, Michael DeSanti breaks down the "Connect Before You Correct" protocol. Most men fail in relationships because they try to solve emotional problems with logic and correction. We specifically cover the "Needs vs. Wants" distinction, why you should never interrupt a happy child (or partner) with your own worldview, and how to distinguish between acceptable emotions vs. unacceptable behaviors. This is a guide to moving from a "Fixer" to a "Leader" in your home.

0:00 - The Problem with "Fixing" Everything 4:46 - Rule #1: Connect Before You Correct (The Tantrum Protocol) 9:25 - Why Adult Men Throw "Sophisticated" Tantrums 12:59 - Rule #2: Meet Needs, Manage Wants 15:18 - All Emotions Are Acceptable (Behaviors Are Not) 19:27 - Rule #3: Don't Make a Happy Kid Happier 25:41 - The "Secure Base" Framework for Life

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Why do you keep repeating the same limiting patterns? Why do you self-sabotage even when you know better?

On this episode of the #lessonsforluca podcast, Michael DeSanti reveals the #1 reason: you are living from a disregulated nervous system.

He explains the deep-seated biological and psychological reasons why we stay stuck in survival mode. You'll learn that your brain is hardwired for survival and cannot tell the difference between a real threat (like a grizzly bear) and a perceived threat (like a late paycheck or your partner being upset).

This "perceived threat" activates 4 unconscious survival strategies that run your entire life:

1. The Need to Look Good / Fit In 2. The Need for Comfort / Familiarity 3. The Need to Be in Control 4. The Need to Be Right

Michael breaks down how these strategies create a "survival context" that makes your desired results (like prosperity or a thriving marriage) impossible—like trying to plant a cactus in the North Pole.

The solution isn't to "try harder." The solution is to build a bridge from your sympathetic (threat) to your parasympathetic (rest) nervous system. Michael calls this bridge the "spiritual domain"—a practical, non-religious approach to slowing down, rewiring your brain, and finally gaining possession of yourself.

This is a masterclass on the root cause of #selfsabotage and the true path to #innerfreedom. #michaeldesanti #personalgrowth #nervoussystem

What's the point of all this "inner work"? What is the real objective of personal development? In this episode of the Lessons for Luca podcast, I explore the single most important journey a man can take—the 14-inch journey from his head to his heart.

So many of us operate on autopilot, letting our past wounds, old beliefs, and unconscious defaults run our lives. We react to the present moment through the distorted lens of our history, which taints our relationships, careers, and our ability to see new opportunities. This robs us of our sovereignty and personal agency.

The goal of this work isn't to live a life free of pain or adversity. It's to become a man "in full possession of himself." Inspired by a powerful story of Native American Chief Joseph, I break down what it truly means to be unobstructed, to move from being reactive to creative, and to show up to life's challenges with principle, value, and an open heart.

Join me as we discuss how to align your thinking, your language, and your physical state to create a new blueprint for your life—one of deliberate design, not unconscious default. This is the path to connecting the wisdom of your heart with the organization of your mind.

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