A "body-positive" mansion in Las Vegas. A house full of women. Cameras everywhere. On today's True Crime Monday, I break down the Investigation Discovery series Big Girls Wanted: Escaping Pearadise and the red flags (and DEF CONs) every woman should know before she walks through a man's front door. Everything discussed is from the docuseries, public court records, or my own opinion. Stefan Wilhelmy denies all allegations.If you or someone you love feels unsafe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788.📖 Don't have time to listen? Buy the Red Flags book: lessonslearnedseries.com🎧 All episodes: lessonslearned-podcast.com📺 Watch on YouTube: youtube.com/@ChelseaCarmel✉️ Share your story: hello@chelseacarmel.com

Happy Election Day! Grab your LOVE shirt and your snacks, because today I'm counting down five things NOT to do while you wait in line to vote: don't treat it like speed dating, don't ask who they're voting for, don't show up hangry, don't narrate your life on speakerphone, and don't forget to check your polling place. All in fun, no sides, just love. Whoever you vote for, be kind in line. Repost love, not fear. 💕

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Last week God asked, "Ayeka? Where are you?" This week a listener answered. A gentleman wrote in after the Ayeka episode, moved that we spoke to everyone, no labels, all one in humanity. Then he heard Isaiah 6:8, a verse he had never read: "Here I am. Send me." In Hebrew, Hineni.Abraham said it. Moses said it at the burning bush. Samuel said it as a boy in the night. Adam hid. These people answered. With unrest all around the world, who will be the one? Whether you reach one person or a million, what will your message be?Have a dream, a verse, a red flag story, or a green flag win? Email hello@chelseacarmel.com and you could be on the show.Don't have time to listen? Buy the book: lessonslearnedseries.comLet me help you help yourself. - Chelsea Carmel

A listener in his 50s asked me: how do I stop women from expecting a $300 dinner every time we go out? We went back and forth all week, from coffee dates that felt like job interviews to a dating profile with a Bentley in the very first picture. The answer? If you have it, you don't have to flaunt it. Show up with the bread, and find the one who brings the jelly. 🥜🍞🍓

🍷 This episode is also a drinking game: take a sip every time you hear me say "substance." Coffee counts! Have fun, because that's what life is all about.

Relationship expert for life, podcaster for three weeks. Forgive the bloopers! 😄

Shabbat Shalom to those who celebrate, and have a great Friday!

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Three yellow flags equal one red. Did you know that?

Not every flag is a deal-breaker. Some flags are yellow: the "hmm... side-eye" moments you can laugh off, write down, and keep an eye on. Today I'm counting down my top eight yellow flags from my book, from the trash talker and the rude-to-the-waiter date to the ChatGPT texter, the bar-instead-of-coffee first date, and the one who shows up with a steamer trunk full of baggage. One yellow flag is a note. Three is a pattern.

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Two chairs. Two completely different people. One relationship that was never going to work.Chemistry gets you to the table. Compatibility keeps you in the chair. On this Green Flag Friday, Chelsea goes back thousands of years, to the Torah (Deuteronomy 22:10) and the Bible (2 Corinthians 6:14), to explain what being unevenly yoked really means. Hint: it's not pizza vs. steak or golf vs. pickleball. It's shared values, commitments, and life goals.Plus a real client story from the COVID lockdown, a faith-and-family example, and your Green Flag Friday homework: the five big conversations to have before your heart is all the way in.Have you ever been unevenly yoked? Email hello@chelseacarmel.com to share your story. You might end up on the show. And every Thursday is Ask Chelsea Thursday, so send your questions too.Don't have time to listen? Buy the book: Lessons Learned from All the Red Flags We Ignored at lessonslearnedseries.com