For a really long time, I thought who I was and what I could do for people were basically the same thing.

I could make you laugh. I could build something. I could make things easier. I could show up, perform, produce, give, fix, provide. And somewhere along the way, I learned to attach my value to all of it.

Then I built Pebby.

And for years, Elizabeth and Pebby became so intertwined that I’m not sure I knew where one ended and the other began.

In this episode, I’m talking about what happened when I finally started asking a question that sounds simple but absolutely was not:

Who am I when you take all of that away?

Not the business owner. Not the mom. Not the friend, spouse, partner, helper, achiever or person making everyone else feel good.

Just me.

I get into realizing how much of my life had been built around earning love, the little girl who decided very early that being valuable meant being useful, and why achievement never really fixed the disconnected feeling underneath it all.

And weirdly enough, I’m grateful for so much of it now.

The relationships that didn’t work. The hard seasons. Building a business while carrying things I didn’t even realize I was carrying. Because all of it eventually forced me to figure out who I actually am underneath the performance.

At almost 40, this is brand-new work for me.

And if you’ve ever wondered who you are without what you produce, provide, accomplish or do for everyone else…this one is for you.

Come hang out with me.