Keywords

leadership, mattering, anti-mattering, gratitude, recognition, emotional intelligence, education, community, strengths, unseen work

Summary

In this episode of Lassoing Leadership, Jason Rogers and Garth Nichols dive into one of the most human—and often overlooked—dimensions of leadership: mattering. Together, they unpack how people come to feel valued, seen, and significant at work—and how easily the opposite, anti-mattering, can show up in subtle, unintended ways.

The conversation explores the role of authentic gratitude, the power of recognizing individual strengths, and the impact of unseen contributions in schools and organizations. Jason and Garth challenge leaders to reflect on their daily interactions, reminding us that leadership isn’t just about strategy or vision—it’s about how people feel in our presence. At its core, this episode is a call to notice more, assume less, and lead with intention.

Take Aways

• Mattering is foundational to trust, engagement, and leadership effectiveness.

• Anti-mattering often happens quietly—in small moments, omissions, or habits.

• Gratitude loses its power when it becomes performative rather than personal.

• People feel they matter when leaders genuinely know them.

• Recognizing strengths fuels confidence, contribution, and belonging.

• Hope must precede strategy for change to stick.

• No one succeeds alone—community matters.

• The most important contributions are often the least visible.

• Leaders shape self-worth whether they intend to or not.

• Growth accelerates when unique talents are noticed and named.

  
  

  Sound Bites

• “You need to be valued to add value.”

• “Gratitude can become performative if we’re not careful.”

• “Great leaders look for the unseen.”

  
  

Keywords
leadership, empathy, mattering, significance, education, workplace culture, gratitude, belonging, engagement, coaching

Summary
In this episode of Lassoing Leadership, hosts Jason Rogers and Garth Nichols sit down with Dr. Zach Mercurio to explore the essential human need to matter. Together, they unpack why significance is a primal driver for people, the difference between belonging and mattering, and how leaders can create cultures where individuals feel valued and essential. Dr. Mercurio shares practical strategies for addressing the “mattering deficit” in schools and organizations, illustrating how small, intentional acts of gratitude and recognition can transform engagement, performance, and well-being. Through stories and insights, the conversation highlights how leaders can build environments where people not only belong, but truly matter.

Takeaways

• Mattering is a primal survival instinct—being important to someone else.

• People must feel valued in order to add value.

• Mattering and belonging are distinct: belonging is inclusion, mattering is significance.

• The mattering deficit is a pressing challenge in organizations today.

• Simple, specific interactions can foster mattering.

• Gratitude is most powerful when concrete and personal.

• Care must be felt before people can care about their work.

• Leaders can intentionally cultivate mattering through daily interpersonal skills.

• Helping people see their unique contributions boosts engagement.

• Cultures of mattering drive stronger performance and healthier workplaces.

Titles

• The Heart of Empathy in Leadership

• Unlocking the Power of Mattering

Sound Bites

• “Gratitude is a skill and an art.”

• “You can’t unsee the mattering deficit.”

• “Keep leading the Lasso way.”

Chapters
00:00 – Introduction to Mattering in Leadership
05:43 – The Importance of Feeling Valued
08:12 – Mattering vs. Belonging: A Deeper Dive
11:03 – Mattering as an Actionable Concept
15:25 – Strategies to Combat the Mattering Deficit
19:58 – The Power of Gratitude in Leadership
24:19 – Seeing the Unseen: The Impact of Mattering
29:01 – Real-Life Applications: The Hockey Team Story

Keywords

leadership, mattering, significance, organizational culture, positive leadership, emotional intelligence, gratitude, community, engagement, personal development

Episode Summary

In this episode of Beards Book Club, Garth Nichols and Jason Rogers dig into a simple but powerful idea: mattering. Drawing from Zach Mercurio’s work, they explore what it really means for people to feel seen, valued, and significant—especially inside organizations and schools.

The conversation challenges the notion that mattering is abstract or fluffy. Instead, Jason and Garth unpack how mattering is something leaders do, not something they hope people feel. Through small, intentional actions—micro moments of attention, gratitude, and care—leaders can shape cultures where people know they belong and that their presence makes a difference.

This episode is a reminder that leadership isn’t about volume or authority, but about noticing, naming, and valuing the people right in front of us.

Take Aways

• Leadership in society feels fragile right now

• Many leadership truths are simple—and we learned them early

• Mattering is not theoretical; it’s actionable

• We can’t assume our voice automatically carries significance

• Mattering isn’t a feeling—it’s an experience we create for others

• Leaders must demonstrate mattering, not just talk about it

• Micro moments shape culture more than we realize

• Spaces are changed because of who is present

• Articulated attention is at the heart of mattering

• This may be the most valuable $20 investment in leadership learning

Sound Bites

“Leadership in society is in peril right now.”
“Mattering is actionable.”
“Articulated attention is key to mattering.”

Time Stamps

00:00 – Welcome to Season Three
06:34 – What does it mean to matter?
08:19 – Leadership, voice, and significance
10:55 – Micro moments, gratitude, and attention
13:40 – Practicing significance as a leader
17:02 – Final reflections and call to action
18:03 – Beards Book Club outro

Keywords

Leadership, resolutions, transparency, authenticity, education, trust, curiosity, joy, generosity, student experience, future of learning

Episode Summary

In this episode, Jason Rogers and Garth Nichols take time to pause, reflect, and look ahead—sharing their leadership resolutions for the year to come. The conversation centers on transparency, authenticity, and the kind of connection that builds real trust. Each host offers personal resolutions rooted in curiosity, love, generosity, and joy, while also wrestling with the realities of leadership in schools today. They reflect on the importance of staying close to the student experience and end with thoughtful predictions about the future of education, including the growing influence of AI and the rising importance of student agency.

Take Aways

• Strong leadership starts with reflection—looking back before moving forward.

• Transparency and authenticity are foundational to trust.

• Curiosity reframes leadership from control to mentorship.

• Being visible and present matters more than being perfect.

• Love and connection belong at the center of leadership, not the margins.

• Doing fewer things exceptionally well creates greater impact.

• Protecting joy is not a luxury—it’s a leadership responsibility.

• Small acts of generosity can ripple through an entire school culture.

• AI will meaningfully reshape education, whether we’re ready or not.

• Student agency will play an increasingly central role in learning.

Soundbites:

• “Lead at the speed of trust.”

• “Curiosity is kindness.”

• “Do fewer things exceptionally well.”

Time Stamps

00:00 – Reflecting on Leadership Resolutions
07:04 – Garth’s Leadership Resolutions
10:01 – Jason’s Leadership Resolutions
12:57 – Growing Leadership Through Trust
16:01 – Staying Connected to the Student Experience
18:55 – Protecting Joy in Leadership
21:57 – Predictions for Education in 2026
40:38 – Beard’s Book Club Outro

Keywords

Leadership · Book Recommendations · Kindness · Compassion · Organizational Culture · Education · Creativity · Personal Development · Podcast · Holiday Spirit

Summary

In this special holiday episode of Lassoing Leadership, Jason Rogers and Garth Nichols slow things down, lean into the season, and turn the podcast into a kind of leadership book club.

Rather than chasing trends or quick fixes, Jason and Garth share the books that have actually shaped how they think about leadership — books about kindness, compassion, culture, courage, and the creative work of leading people well. Each brings their top five recommendations to the table, highlighting authors whose ideas continue to influence their thinking and, frankly, whose voices they’d love to sit down with on the podcast in the year ahead.

The conversation moves easily between education, organizational culture, and personal growth, with a reminder that leadership isn’t just about strategy — it’s about how we treat people, how we tell stories, and how we keep learning. It’s a reflective, generous episode meant to leave listeners with a short reading list and a longer pause for thought.

Take Aways

• Leadership is at its best when it’s rooted in kindness and compassion.

• The right books don’t just inform us — they shape how we show up.

• Culture is not an add-on; it’s the work.

• Creativity isn’t optional in leadership — it’s how growth happens.

• Learning deepens when we hear directly from authors and thinkers.

• Radical Candor reminds us that clarity and care can coexist.

• Technology is changing leadership — whether we’re ready or not.

• Learning doesn’t stop at graduation or live only in classrooms.

• Strong leadership is built on strong relationships.

• The holiday season is an ideal time to reflect, read, and reconnect with what matters.

  
  

Timestamps

00:00 – Welcome to Beard’s Book Club
06:32 – Jason’s Top Book Picks
09:36 – Garth’s Top Book Picks
12:47 – Narrowing It Down: The Top Two
15:41 – Final Reflections and Holiday Wrap-Up
24:07 – Recording Wrap / Session End

Summary

Mentorship · Youth Development · Leadership · Education · High Expectations · Psychological Safety · Identity Formation · Communication · Respect · Agency

In this episode of Lassoing Leadership, Jason Rogers and Garth Nichols reflect on their recent conversation with psychologist and author David Yeager, and what it means for anyone leading, teaching, parenting, or mentoring young people today.

At the centre of the conversation is what Yeager calls the mentor mindset — the idea that young people don’t need less structure or fewer expectations, but better leadership. Leadership that combines high standards with deep respect, clarity with care, and authority with credibility.

Jason and Garth explore why mattering is such a powerful driver of motivation, how adolescence now stretches well beyond age 18, and why many of our leadership instincts — especially in schools — haven’t kept pace with that reality. The episode also tackles the often-tricky work of communicating change with parents and invites leaders to ask an uncomfortable but essential question: What if the work starts with us?

This episode is about raising the quality of leadership, not lowering the bar — and about creating environments where young people can grow into who they’re becoming, not just perform for today.

Key Take Aways

• This may be the closest thing we’ve seen to an instruction manual for raising and leading teenagers.

• Mentorship isn’t a title or a long-term relationship — it’s a mindset.

• Young people thrive when high expectations are paired with high support.

• Status, stability, and respect matter more than we often realize.

• Mattering and purpose are deeply intertwined — one fuels the other.

• Adolescence doesn’t end at 18, and our leadership models need to catch up.

• The next generation doesn’t need softer leadership — it needs better leadership.

• Change in schools lives or dies on how well we communicate with parents.

• Students can be powerful advocates for growth — even at home.

• If we want different outcomes, we have to raise the quality of our leadership and teaching.

• The Mentor Mindset: Leading Young People Well

• • High Expectations, High Support: Rethinking Leadership for Youth

  
  

  Soundbites:

  • “What if we’re the problem?”

• • “This isn’t about lowering the bar — it’s about raising the quality of leadership.”

  • “Coaching over commanding.”

  • “Mattering changes everything.”

  • “This is a virtuous cycle — when respect goes up, effort follows.”

  
  

  Time Stamps

  00:00 – Introduction & Recent Experiences
  05:31 – The Mentor Mindset: What Yeager Gets Right
  08:26 – Why High Expectations and High Support Matter
  12:14 – Mattering, Respect, and Motivation
  15:28 – Adolescence, Identity, and Who Young People Are Becoming
  18:21 – Why Leadership Hasn’t Kept Up
  21:08 – Communicating Change with Parents
  23:47 – Final Reflections & Next Episode Teaser

  
  

Harnessing Adolescence: The Key to Effective Leadership

What does it really take to guide young people through the most formative years of their lives? In this episode, Jason Rogers and Garth Nichols sit down with psychologist David Yeager to explore leadership, psychology, and education through the lens of adolescence.

Together, they unpack why the years between ages 10 and 25 matter so much for identity, motivation, and resilience. From the pitfalls of outdated “incompetence” models of youth development to the transformative power of mentorship, Yeager shows how leaders in schools and beyond can empower rather than discourage.

The conversation also takes on timely issues like the role of AI in education, and closes with a familiar touchstone: Ted Lasso’s evolving leadership style—from protector to mentor—and what it teaches us about leading with care, curiosity, and high expectations.

Key Take Aways

• Identity is formed most powerfully between ages 10–25.

• Effective mentorship is about long-term growth, not short-term fixes.

• High expectations + strong support = lasting success.

• Shame and blame don’t motivate; care and standards do.

• Crying in education can reflect deep care and commitment.

• Rejecting the “incompetence model” empowers youth.

• AI in education should be embraced cautiously and critically.

• The best educators and leaders model a mentor mindset.

• Ted Lasso reminds us: leadership evolves when we let go of control and focus on growth.

  
  

Chapters

00:00 – Introduction: Leadership and Empathy
04:59 – Understanding Adolescence: The Critical Years
07:43 – The Mentor Approach in Education
13:19 – Motivating Adolescents: High Expectations and Support
18:37 – Challenging the “Incompetence” Model
22:52 – Rehabilitating Adolescence: A New Perspective
24:38 – Exemplary Models in Education and Coaching
28:28 – The Promise & Peril of AI in Education
35:35 – Leadership Lessons from Ted Lasso
38:22 – Beard’s Book Club Outro

Soundbites

• “It’s not about being a protector or enforcer.”

• “AI in schools needs careful evaluation.”

• “We should stop moralizing teenagers as lazy.”

Keywords

leadership, mentorship, adolescence, education, growth mindset, communication, David Yeager, Beards Book Club, youth development, parenting

Summary

In this episode of Beards Book Club, Garth Nichols and Jason Rogers explore the book '10 to 25' by Dr. David Yeager, which challenges traditional views on adolescence.

They discuss the importance of understanding the ages 10 to 25 as a period rich with opportunities for growth rather than a time to merely survive.

The conversation delves into three mindsets—enforcer, protector, and mentor—highlighting the significance of adopting a mentor mindset to foster better communication and development in young people.

The hosts emphasize the role of tone and communication in leadership, the utility of puberty, and the need for a supportive environment that encourages growth. They invite listeners to reflect on their own approaches to mentoring and leadership, encouraging a shift towards partnership and understanding in guiding adolescents.

Takeaways

• The ages 10 to 25 are opportunity-rich for growth.
• Mindsets in education can significantly impact youth development.
• The mentor mindset fosters partnership and faith in adolescents.
• Effective communication is key in leadership roles.
• Metaphors can make complex ideas more relatable and memorable.
• Puberty should be viewed as a time of potential, not just a challenge.
• Feedback should be seen as a collaborative process, not punitive.
• Creating a supportive environment is crucial for adolescent growth.
• Understanding the emotional changes during puberty can enhance mentorship.

Soundbites:

• "Let's reframe the years, ages 10 to 25."
• "Puberty is the hardware upgrade."
• "How might you find that third path?"

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction to Beards Book Club and Adolescence

03:35 - Understanding the 10 to 25 Age Range

06:22 - Mindsets in Education: Enforcer, Protector, and Mentor

09:10 - The Importance of Tone and Communication

12:04 - Metaphors and Analogies in Learning

14:26 - Reframing Puberty: A New Perspective

16:59 - The Utility of Puberty and Growth Mindset

17:42 - Challenges and Invitations for Growth