In this episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, we dive into what we lovingly call La La Land — the emotional place you slip into when real life feels too heavy, grief is suffocating, or adulthood is simply too much.

If you’re a widow, a divorcée, a woman in midlife, a burned-out mom, or someone quietly holding it together while your heart is falling apart, this conversation is for you.

We talk honestly about:

• Escapism during grief — why travel, distractions, spending, and staying “busy” become survival tools
• The emotional crash of re-entry — when you walk back into your house and reality hits hard
• Grief fog and decision fatigue — when even choosing dinner feels impossible
• Widowhood and identity loss — rebuilding yourself after losing the person who knew you best
• Living alone for the first time and navigating quiet, loneliness, and routines
• The universal midlife meltdown — even without loss, many of us still find ourselves here
• Guilt around joy — loving travel, sunshine, freedom, and laughter while grieving
• Widow’s Fire (yes… we go there 🔥)
• Why community matters and who keeps you from disappearing into the couch
• Redefining adulthood, purpose, hobbies, and who you are now
• Self-compassion in transition — including cheese and wine for dinner and lowering the bar

This episode is raw, reflective, and deeply human. We talk about grief, loss, trauma, escapism, resilience, and the confusing, beautiful transformation that often happens in midlife.

Whether you’re navigating widowhood, divorce, burnout, empty nesting, mental health struggles, or a massive identity shift — this episode will make you feel seen, supported, and less alone.

Grab a cocktail, mocktail, Stanley cup, or your favorite emotionally supportive snack — La La Land is a wild ride, and we’re remembering how to come back.

Thank you for being here with us on WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy.

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If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard.

We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛

⚠️ Disclaimer

This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.