Oli's original video - https://youtu.be/VS7BUoz0C5o?si=0wRa5kqRi5oPZdjm

Age of consent investigation - https://youtu.be/KuCg3UavKcg?si=3rx9540-ynB0B9-X

When Ollie was 13, he entered into a sexual "relationship" with an 18-year-old woman. Now in his 30s, he's still unsure whether what happened to him was sexual abuse.

Ollie describes a relationship in which they genuinely liked each other. He doesn't believe he was groomed or manipulated and he doesn't consider the woman an abuser.

But looking back, he recognises that he wasn't in a position to give informed consent.

In this episode, I watch and reflect on Ollie's story, exploring some difficult questions around childhood sexual abuse, consent, power dynamics and the way we understand our experiences as we grow older.

We also discuss how our reactions might change when the genders are reversed and how the woman's own experiences of childhood sexual abuse may have influenced her behaviour.

I'd really like to hear your thoughts.

Do you consider what happened to Ollie sexual abuse? And does knowing the circumstances change how you feel about it?

Please share your thoughts in the comments. I welcome different perspectives and respectful discussion.

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Children keep secrets brilliantly. As a survivor of child sexual abuse, I know this better than anyone. I was abused between the ages of 8 and 10 and nobody ever found out. I showed no signs at school, I had great friends and I wasn’t scared of the man who did it.

In this talk to a room of safeguarding professionals, I explain why so many children and teenagers never come forward. We look at how easy it is to groom a child, why abuse can feel confusing or even exciting to a teenager and how the internet has given perpetrators direct access to young people.

Most importantly, I share a practical approach to changing this. When staff are trained, parents are confident and young people feel inspired to speak up, we can create an environment where children actually tell us what’s happening to them.

If you’re a DSL, teacher, social worker, police officer or anyone who works with children, this talk is for you.

If anything in this episode has affected you, support is available. Contact NAPAC on 0808 801 0331, the NSPCC helpline on 0808 800 5000 or Childline on 0800 1111.

To book me for training, keynotes or school visits, visit www.jeremyindika.com

#Safeguarding #ChildProtection #DSL #ChildSexualAbuse #grooming

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Could AI generated children be used to catch offenders online? I explore a concept sparked by the film The Artifice Girl and a post I put out that led to a huge response.

In this episode I cover:

- How AI children could run thousands of conversations with those who try to exploit them

- Whether this counts as catching a crime or creating one

- The entrapment argument and how it compares to undercover police work

- Whether the police would be able to cope with how many offenders this would expose

- Whether this could pull police attention away from real children who need it

- Hunting groups and how they already do a version of this without any rules

This is a difficult and sensitive topic and I want to hear what you think too.

Want me to adjust the length, add timestamps, or match it more closely to a description style you've used before?

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