I recently read something that stopped me in my tracks: being fat robbed me of my femininity.

And I haven’t been able to shake it.

In this episode, I pose a question that came out of a Reddit thread but really speaks to a shared experience so many of us quietly lived: growing up, did femininity ever feel like it wasn’t meant for you?

I’m sharing my own experiences of being invisible next to friends, being talked about like I wasn’t even a person, not being able to shop where other girls shopped, missing out on certain “girlhood” moments, and learning very early on which bodies were allowed to be soft, desired, and feminine and which weren’t.

We’ll talk about how those moments shape us long after childhood, how confidence can coexist with old wounds, and what it actually looks like to take your femininity back without performing it or earning permission.

If you’ve ever felt like girlhood passed you by, or like femininity came with conditions you didn’t meet, this episode is for you. You’re not alone—and you didn’t imagine it.

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After a full Christmas break, a busy work season, and a lot of life happening behind the scenes, this episode is a gentle check-in. No big announcements. No dramatic comeback. Just me catching you up on the holidays, the start of a new year, and where my head and heart actually are right now.

I’m sharing a few personal updates, my honest feelings about New Year pressure, and what a “glow up” looks like for me in this season (hint: it has nothing to do with becoming a brand-new person overnight).

If you’re feeling a little quiet, a little tired, or like you’re easing back into life instead of charging into it, this episode is for you. Consider this a soft reset… and an open seat on the couch.

The cozy, magical season is here! Leggings, sweaters, cookies, hibernation mode. But this can also become the season where we disconnect from our bodies without even realizing it.

In this episode, I’m sharing a truth we don’t talk about enough:

✨ The longer you hide in leggings and oversized sweatshirts, the longer you stay in denial about where you really are physically and emotionally.
✨ Getting dressed, putting on makeup, and wearing a real outfit isn’t about vanity… it’s about awareness, identity, and showing up for yourself.
✨ And what I don’t want is for you to “wake up” in spring only to realize nothing fits and you don’t recognize yourself.

Let’s talk about how you can stay connected, confident, and present with yourself even during cozy season so you don’t lose yourself in the process.