Intimacy isn't just sex—and for a lot of autistic and ADHD adults, dating can feel like a confusing set of unspoken rules that nobody will explain.

In this episode of Adulting With Autism, host April sits down with Mandy Hart, a Certified Sexologist and founder of Hart's Desire—Intimacy and Relationship Coaching, for a candid, compassionate conversation about shame, consent, boundaries, and connection.

Mandy blends behavioral science, public health, and trauma-empowered somatic coaching to help people reconnect with their bodies, build confidence, and create authentic intimacy on their own terms—whether that's with a partner, multiple partners, or solo. We talk about what it means to feel safe in your body, how to communicate needs and boundaries, how to discuss STIs without panic or shame, and how consent can be sexy, clear, and ongoing (not a checklist).

• Intimacy vs. sex: expanding what "connection" can mean
• Shame and self-worth: how it shows up in dating and relationships
• "Safety in your body" and nervous system regulation
• Consent skills: how to ask, how to check in, and how to make it hot (not awkward)
• Neurodivergent dating: navigating cues, boundaries, and communication
• Asexuality, sensory needs, and relationships without partner sex
• STI disclosure and sexual health conversations with compassion

• Website: https://harts-desire.com/
• Email: mandy@hearts-desire.com
• Book a free discovery call via the site
• Blog: Embodying Hart's Desire