If you’re healing from trauma, you’ve probably asked yourself some version of this:How do I actually be?How do I exist without constant fixing, striving, or self-monitoring?This is Part One of a two-part series where I share the practical exercises, daily practices, and mindset shifts that most changed my ability to feel safe in my body, present in my life, and connected to myself again. These are not formulas or step-by-step guarantees—because trauma healing doesn’t work that way. They’re real, lived practices that helped me move out of survival mode and into a life that feels more grounded, content, and human.We talk about nervous system safety, emotional regulation, self-compassion, and what “being” actually looks like after childhood trauma, complex PTSD, and relational wounds. If you feel alone in your healing, tired of advice that skips over reality, and unsure how to live while healing—this episode is for you.You don’t need to become someone else.You’re learning how to be yourself again.

If you’re healing from trauma and feel alone in how hard it is, this episode is for you.So many trauma survivors are taught—directly or indirectly—that healing should look impressive, linear, or productive. That if you’re still struggling, you’re failing. But healing isn’t a formula, and it isn’t proven by big breakthroughs. It’s built through small adjustments, quiet resilience, and the willingness to care for yourself where you actually are.In this episode, we talk about shifting perspective in trauma recovery:moving from self-criticism to self-compassion, from focusing on what you haven’t done to noticing how far you’ve already come. We explore why celebrating “mediocre wins” matters for nervous system regulation, emotional healing, and long-term growth—and how acceptance and self-love are not complacency, but powerful acts of change.This is an honest and practical conversation about healing from childhood trauma, emotional trauma, and relationship trauma without shame, perfectionism, or comparison. Together, we practice looking back at past versions of ourselves with kindness, and ending each day by naming one small win that proves we are growing—even when it doesn’t feel dramatic.You are not behind.You are not broken.And you don’t have to do healing “right” to be healing.This episode is an invitation to feel seen, to build inner safety, and to reclaim growth by loving yourself exactly where you are.

“New year, new you” sounds motivating...but for people healing from trauma, it often feels like another way we’re told we’re not enough yet.In this episode, we slow that narrative way down.Healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with your true self—the version of you that existed before coping strategies, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and survival modes took over. The thriving life you want doesn’t come from forcing change; it comes from allowing what’s already there to surface safely.I walk you through a simple but powerful reflective exercise used in trauma healing and nervous system regulation: clearly envisioning the life you desire: not just the outcome, but your average day, how you want to feel, move, and exist. From there, we gently ask “why”: and then ask it again: until we reach the root drivers underneath the dream. For most of us, those roots are safety and worth.We talk about:Why “new year, new you” can be harmful for trauma survivorsLetting go of coping mechanisms without shaming yourself for needing themHow attachment wounds shape our goals and motivationsSitting with discomfort instead of bypassing itReclaiming worth and safety as internal experiences, not external achievementsWhy healing is a journey, not a destination—and why that’s actually freeingThis isn’t a one-time exercise or a quick fix. It’s a practice you can return to as you grow, helping you notice your wounds with compassion, tend to them in real time, and prove to yourself- over and over- that you are already worthy, lovable, and enough.If you’re healing from childhood trauma, emotional neglect, or relationship trauma and feel alone in the process, this episode is here to remind you: you’re not broken, you’re becoming yourself again.