In this episode, Liam and Tom dive into what it feels like to live in a country where you speak the language, know the people, even raise a family — but still never quite feel like you belong.

They reflect on:

• That moment you realise “I’ll never be French/Spanish/etc.” even if you stay forever.
• Language fluency not being enough cultural references from childhood matter more.
• Living somewhere that’s not your home country doesn’t automatically mean it becomes home.
• Liam accepts he'll never truly be Spanish and finds peace in that.
• Tom shares how his friend (who is fluent in French and married to a French woman) still doesn’t feel French.
• The concept of gratitude toward your adopted country especially compared to entitled expat attitudes.
• The bureaucracy in France and Spain: it can feel unwelcoming, but is often designed to protect locals, not exclude foreigners.
• How British culture isolates people through hyper-independence, while Mediterranean cultures foster community, family, and support networks.
• Their parents’ and grandparents’ immigrant stories, and how that shapes their own views on belonging.
• Navigating identity when you're neither here nor there just living in-between.

There are also fun, offbeat tangents on:

• Productivity pressure (The Rock, 4am workouts, motivational guilt)
• Nicolas Cage’s wild appearance on Terry Wogan
• Ray-Ban smart glasses (aka “sin bins”)
• Late-night snack regret and underwhelming snacks abroad