Ever spent December quietly keeping score, wondering if he’ll invite you to his family’s Christmas, get you something thoughtful, or text you first thing Christmas morning?

In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble kicks off a four-part holiday series on the four attachment stances, starting with anxious attachment and the dance she calls the salsa of uncertainty. Jenn takes on the question she hears every December, “Should I tell him I’m hurt?”, and shows how wanting something without saying it turns holiday moments into a pass or fail test your partner never knew he was taking. She shares why your finely tuned radar for connection is one of your biggest strengths, why your wants deserve a voice early, and how to self-soothe before you send that three-times-drafted text. With a little help from Santa’s list, a restaurant order gone wrong, and a midnight toy assembly on Christmas Eve, Jenn offers simple scripts for asking for what you want, plus the one response from him that tells you everything. Her line for the whole season: you can’t get curious when you’re furious.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel hurt or left out during the holidays and wonder if you should tell your partner
• You have anxious attachment and keep score of gifts, invites, and texts
• You hope your partner will read your mind, then feel resentful when he doesn’t
• You overthink and draft long texts when you’re upset in your relationship
• You want to ask for what you need in a relationship without starting a fight

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