You did the hard part. You became aware. You named the pattern, traced it back, connected the dots. And then your nervous system completely lost the plot.

So now what?

In this episode — the follow-up to last week's pandemic PTSD story — I get into what actually happens after awareness hits and why digging into old stories often triggers nervous system dysregulation before it brings relief. I’m sharing exactly what I do when I feel activated, and why getting regulated first isn't optional — it's literally life.

In this episode:

• How nervous system activation physically shows up (and what it feels like when you're basically a scared dog in a shelter kennel)
• Why you cannot make a trustworthy decision from a dysregulated state — and what to do instead
• The difference between surrendering and avoiding (they are not the same thing)
• How the first three steps of Al-Anon apply to literally everyone, not just people in recovery
• Possibility vs. probability — and why blind faith might be your most powerful tool
• The smile file practice I use with my Rewritten clients from week one

This episode is for the woman who is doing the work, feeling all the feelings, and desperately googling "why does healing feel worse before it feels better."

Topics: nervous system dysregulation, nervous system regulation, healing old stories, surrendering control, inner child healing, trauma awareness, limiting beliefs, codependency recovery, Al-Anon, faith and healing, women's personal growth, identity work, narrative therapy

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