In this podcast episode, Raif and Rahul sit down with Blaine Anderson to talk honestly about what actually works in modern dating and why so many people feel frustrated, burned out, or stuck even when they are getting matches. Blaine shares how she built Dating By Blaine from simple profile feedback into a full coaching and matchmaking platform, and why more people are looking for guidance as dating apps leave them confused about what they are doing wrong.
The conversation dives into Blaine’s focus on coaching men, how she decides who she works with, and why clarity, confidence, and intent matter more than trying to say the perfect thing or play a role. Together, they unpack why dating often feels harder than it needs to be and how small mindset shifts can make a real difference.
Things get practical as Blaine breaks down the mistakes that quietly ruin dates before they even start. From profile red flags and awkward first messages to texting habits that kill momentum, she walks through patterns she sees every day. Raif and Rahul also guide the discussion toward dating after divorce and long relationships, especially for men over 35, and how to be honest about your life without oversharing or turning early dates into therapy sessions.
The episode wraps with first date strategy and real life stories, including where to go on a first date, coffee versus drinks, and the small details that actually make someone feel comfortable. Along the way, Blaine shares unforgettable client requests and matchmaking moments that reveal what people say they want versus what actually leads to real connection. Raif and Rahul close the episode by tying dating, intention, and common sense together in a way that feels refreshingly real.
Timestamps:
02:23 Getting to know Blaine Anderson
08:05 Matchmaking Criteria and Courses
10:01 Dating as a Marketing Problem
11:11 Confidence and Intent
12:06 Reprogramming and Intentionality
12:59 First Date Do's and Don'ts
14:41 Red Flags on Dating Apps
17:38 Messaging and first impressions
18:11 Texting etiquette
20:23 Choosing the right first date
22:23 Creating the Perfect Setting
23:38 Considerate Gestures
23:41 Leftovers on First Date
25:29 Client's Oddball Demands
28:07 Criteria for Choosing a Partner
30:11 Opposites Attract
35:31 Prenup and nerdy hobbies
36:38 Last-minute prenup and undo duress
37:30 Values Conversation and Prenup Timing
38:29 Postnuptial Agreements
40:21 Unusual Matchmaking Story
42:58 Niche Interests and Online Dating
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Blaine Anderson is a well-known dating coach and matchmaker who specializes in helping men improve their dating lives and build long‑term relationships. She runs Dating By Blaine, a brand that includes coaching, online courses, matchmaking, and free online content aimed at guys. A couple months ago, Blaine launched a fun and helpful new podcast, “Help Me, I’m Single,” where she helps singles figure out how to improve their dating lives - featuring Blaine and a comedian in every episode. https://www.youtube.com/@DatingByBlaine
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