What if the very thing you're trying to hide is the thing keeping you from walking in freedom?

In this powerful episode of I Am Her, Bekah sits down with Pastor Lisa for an honest

conversation about sin, shame, comparison, conviction, surrender, and what happens when we

finally stop hiding. Through the story of Ananias and Sapphira, personal experiences, and

questions from the audience, they explore what it means to expose what's been holding you

back, not for condemnation, but for freedom.

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What happens when the things you keep hidden are the

very things keeping you from walking in freedom?

In this episode of I Am Her, Bekah and Pastor Lisa dive into what it means to live a life of true

surrender, recognize the things that can pull us away from God's path, and stop allowing shame,

comparison, and our past to define who we are.

From the story of Ananias and Sapphira to honest conversations about friendship,

accountability, condemnation, vulnerability, and hearing God's voice, this episode challenges us

to examine what's happening beneath the surface, and what we're allowing to take root in our

hearts.

What are you agreeing with? What are you hiding? And what would happen if you finally

brought it into the light?

In This Episode

01:07 — Bekah opens the Young Adult Service and introduces Pastor Lisa's message.

01:27 — Exposure: Evil Packed Under — Pastor Lisa introduces the message and begins in the

book of Acts, discussing the first miracle and the growth of the early church.

05:00 — Ananias & Sapphira — generosity, deception, and what happens when we agree with

someone else's sin.

12:00 — Being exposed to environments and situations that challenge your convictions.

14:14 — Having different standards without judging others, maintaining friendships, and the

difference between attending church and allowing God to change your behavior.17:09 — What does it mean to be a "full Christian"? God's standard vs. the standards we create

through comparison.

21:10 — Bekah opens up about growing up in church, shame, comparison, and being afraid to

let people see who she really was.

31:19 — Giving people an opportunity to change, allowing people into church despite their past,

and how sharing your own struggles can help set someone else free.

35:36 — When your past makes you feel undeserving, and why parents need to create safe

spaces for their children to be honest about what they're going through.

43:06 — Walking through the door of freedom and choosing to step into the light.

50:55 — Breaking the cycle of condemnation and learning to stop condemning yourself.

56:40 —

"What is the best advice for walking this journey alone?"

season of being alone can become an opportunity to get closer to Jesus.

— Pastor Lisa explains why a

58:42 —

"How do you know when to give someone grace?"

knowing when confrontation is necessary.

— Grace, accountability, and

1:01:00 —

"How do I know if I'm surrendering something to God or just avoiding it?"

Understanding conviction, surrender, prayer, and discernment.

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1:05:00 — Learning to recognize when God is speaking, developing discernment, and being

willing to respond.

1:05:00+ — Pastor Lisa's reminder: "Don't delay God's blessings.

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1:12:00 — Bekah closes the episode.

Exposure isn't about shame. It's about bringing what has been hidden into the light so that

freedom can begin.

Your past doesn't disqualify you. Your mistakes don't have to define you. And you don't have to

stay bound by the things God is asking you to surrender.

Sometimes the first step toward freedom is simply being willing to be honest.

What if the most dangerous thing isn't losing God's presence, but losing His presence and not
even realizing it?

In this powerful message from Girls Night In, Young Adult Pastor, Bekah Lagafuaina challenges
us to look honestly at the places where compromise, comfort, fear, and temporary pleasure may
be costing us what God has entrusted to us.

What are you willing to trade for comfort?

In this powerful message from Girls Night In, Bekah Lagafuaina shares a deeply personal
testimony about learning to surrender fear, control, comfort, and compromise to say yes to God
fully.

Through the story of Samson, Bekah reminds us that compromise rarely happens all at once. It
can happen one decision at a time, until we become so comfortable with what we've
compromised that we no longer recognize what we've lost.

She challenges us to ask:
1. Are we letting what we want become louder than what God said?
2. Are we protecting what God has entrusted to us?
3. Have we confused God's grace with His approval?
4. Are we relying on someone else's prayers, faith, or anointing instead of cultivating our own
relationship with Jesus?

The story of the ten bridesmaids in Matthew 25 reminds us that having a lamp isn't the same as
having oil. We cannot live off someone else's anointing. We need our own oil. We need our own
relationship with Jesus. And above everything God has called us to carry, the greatest thing we can carry is His
presence.

Bekah also shares part of her personal journey with her husband Elijah, the prayers she prayed
when others didn't yet understand their relationship, and how God's faithfulness brought what
He had shown her full circle.

"Whatever it costs to keep His presence is worth it."

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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 — The Word God Put on Her Heart: Compromise
01:40 — When Comfort Makes Us Compromise Our Calling
03:20 — Fear, Control & Learning to Depend on God
05:43 — Your Yes Can't Be Conditional
08:58 — Don't Trade the Oil
09:55 — Samson: When Temporary Pleasure Costs You Something Eternal
19:50 — Four Warnings About Compromise
23:05 — The Danger of Losing God's Presence Without Realizing It
24:03 — The Ten Bridesmaids & The Oil
29:38 — "God, May Your Anointing Never Leave Me"
30:38 — Don't Get Caught Up in Your Delilahs
31:22 — There Is Still a Way Back
32:50 — Whatever It Costs to Keep His Presence Is Worth It
34:09 — Bekah & Elijah: Trusting God Through the Unknown
37:50 — When God's Promises Come Full Circle
39:34 — A Full-Circle Moment in Australia
41:27 — Psalm 51:10–12
42:55 — Prayer Over the Audience
46:00 — Prayer of Salvation & Closing

Scripture referenced: Judges 13–16 • Matthew 25:1–13 • Psalm 51:10–12

If this message speaks to you, share it with a woman who needs the reminder: don't trade what
God has given you for what only feels good for a moment.

Follow Lisa Kai and Bekah Lagafuaina on all digital platforms:
- Lisa Kai @lisakai
- Bekah Lagafuaina @bkaiii

Don't forget to learn more about our upcoming Arise Womens Conference coming in February 2024. Check out this link for more information: https://www.arise-movement.com

How many times have you looked in the mirror and quietly asked yourself, "Am I enough?"
What if everything you've believed about your worth has been built on a lie? Today, we're
uncovering the truth God has been speaking over you all along.

Have you ever wondered…
"Am I good enough?"
"Have I done enough?"
"Will I ever be enough?"
If you've wrestled with comparison, perfectionism, insecurity, or the pressure to prove yourself,
this conversation is for you.
In Episode 2 of our Conversations with Mom series, Pastor Lisa and her daughter Bekah have an
honest conversation about what it truly means to be sufficient in Christ.
Too many women measure their worth by performance, social media, achievements,
relationships, or other people's opinions. But God has never asked us to be perfect; He simply
asks us to trust Him.
Together they discuss:
● Why comparison steals confidence
● How perfectionism keeps us stuck
● Learning to recognize the gifts God already placed inside you
● Building God-confidence instead of self-confidence
● Healing from feelings of not being enough
● Elijah's powerful testimony of overcoming rejection and finding identity in Christ
● Practical ways to strengthen your relationship with Jesus and walk confidently in your
calling
If you've ever questioned your value, this episode will remind you that your identity isn't found
in what you do; it's found in who you are in Christ.
You are already enough because His fullness lives inside of you.
Timestamps
00:00 Welcome! Pastor Lisa introduces herself and her daughter, Bekah
01:39 "Have you ever felt like you weren't enough?"
03:14 Conversations with Mom (Episode 2): Your value comes from who God says you are
05:00 Bekah shares why she didn't feel qualified for ministry
06:30 The danger of comparison and trying to fit in
08:45 Pastor Lisa's first leadership calling and discovering your God-given gifts
10:45 Perfectionism vs. willingness: Why God doesn't need perfection
12:15 Social media and the constant pressure to measure up
14:58 Why comparison will destroy your confidence
18:00 Psalm 139: God knew you before you were born
20:00 God never asked you to be enough; His fullness is enough
23:07 Learning dependence on God instead of perfection
24:31 2 Corinthians 3:5; Our sufficiency comes from Christ
24:45 Too many voices are telling us who we're not
28:17 His fullness lives inside of you
29:28 Elijah's powerful testimony of overcoming rejection and finding healing
34:43 Practical ways to overcome insecurity: worship, gratitude, community & Jesus
37:44 Celebrate one another instead of competing
41:00 You are more than enough
41:25 Final encouragement and closing prayer

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