What if the greatest influence on your marriage isn’t your circumstances, your history, or even your differences—but your mindset?

In this relaunch episode of The Art of Spousing, James and Lisa return with a powerful conversation about growth mindset vs. fixed mindset in marriage. Using the vivid illustration of hummingbirds and vultures, they explore how two people can walk through the same season yet experience it completely differently—based solely on what they’re looking for.

You’ll hear honest stories, biblical wisdom, and practical tools that help couples move from “this is just how we are” to “God is still at work here.” This episode also marks the launch of The Art of Spousing Collective, a new online community designed to help couples grow consistently all year long.

If you want this year to be marked by greater connection, emotional maturity, and shared growth, this conversation sets the foundation.

What You’ll Learn / Key Takeaways

• Why how you think determines how you relate in marriage
• The difference between growth mindset and fixed mindset—and how each quietly shapes your relationship
• How the hummingbird vs. vulture illustration reveals what you’re training yourself to see
• Why many couples stop growing even when growth is still possible
• How “not yet” language creates momentum instead of discouragement
• Why small, consistent decisions matter more than big emotional moments
• How curiosity fuels intimacy—and assumptions create distance
• The biblical foundation for mindset renewal (Romans 12:2)
• Why marriage requires growing with multiple versions of your spouse over time
• How a growth mindset honors God, the covenant, and the person you promised your life to

Links & Resources:

• Join The Art of Spousing Collective (Founding Members Open):
  👉 https://aos-collective.com
• Email Us:
  👉 hello@artofspousing.com

Connect With Us:

• Instagram: @artofspousing
• Website: www.artofspousing.com

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