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 How To Deal is the podcast for parents who want to raise emotionally healthy kids in a world full of messy moments. Therapist and bestselling author Eli Harwood (aka The Attachment Nerd) brings you real stories, expert advice, and practical tools to build stronger relationships with your children—and yourself. Attachmentnerd.comCopyright 2026 Attachment Nerd
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  • How to Teach Kids Emotion Regulation | With Jon Fogel

    How to Teach Kids Emotion Regulation | With Jon Fogel
    Apr 23 2026
    Episode SummaryIn this warm and moving episode, Eli sits down with Jon Fogel — parenting educator, pastor, and author of Punishment-Free Parenting — to talk about his brand-new children's picture book, Set My Feelings Free, co-authored and illustrated by his wife Jess Fogel. Jon unpacks the surprising science behind Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood, why music is the key to teaching kids emotional regulation, and how a 30-page book can do what 300 pages can't. You'll probably cry. Eli definitely did.Key TakeawaysSecure attachment and emotional regulation are not the same thing. You can grow up securely attached and still have significant gaps in how you model and regulate emotions — and that's okay to acknowledge.Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood was peer-reviewed science. Every episode was reviewed by developmental psychologist Margaret McFarland at the University of Pittsburgh. The show was deliberately designed to teach emotional regulation through music, repetition, and child autonomy.Music is a limbic tool — it directly activates the same part of the brain driving a child's dysregulation, making it uniquely effective for teaching regulation strategies in the moment.Teaching a 3-year-old emotional regulation is not as hard as teaching yourself — the obstacles are almost always the parent's own unprocessed emotions getting in the way, not the child's capacity.The 5 tools in the book (diaphragmatic breathing, movement, grounding/color game, visualization, and naming feelings) were carefully selected to cover every kid, including ADHD kids who don't respond well to breathing alone.Repetition before bed is the key delivery mechanism. Reading the book nightly before sleep leverages the brain's heightened receptivity to learning during memory consolidation — backed by behavioral neuroscience.Naming feelings alone isn't enough. Jon drew on the work of Marc Brackett at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence — naming must be followed by moving through a regulation strategy.Cycle-breaking parenting is like learning algebra while still learning to add and subtract. The children's book handles the foundational math so parents can focus on the harder, deeper work.About the GuestJon Fogel is a parenting educator, pastor, author, and creator of the @wholeparent social media platform with over 1 million followers. He is the author of Punishment-Free Parenting: A Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice and the newly released children's picture book Set My Feelings Free, co-created with his wife and illustrator Jess Fogel. Jon is currently pursuing his PhD in developmental psychology and serves as senior pastor at Hope Covenant Church in Orland Park, Illinois.🌐 Website: wholeparentacademy.com📸 Instagram: @wholeparent💼 LinkedIn: Jon FogelResources MentionedBooks📖 Set My Feelings Free by Jon & Jess Fogel — Amazon (Available April 28, 2026)📖 Set My Feelings Free — Bookshop.org (supports local bookstores)📖 Set My Feelings Free — Publisher (Beaming Books)📖 Punishment-Free Parenting by Jon Fogel — Amazon📖 Punishment-Free Parenting — Penguin Random HouseOrganizations & Research🏛️ Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence (Marc Brackett) — Research on naming feelings as a foundational emotional regulation tool🏛️ Circle of Security International — The attachment-based parenting program referenced; origin of the "shark music" conceptPeople ReferencedMarc Brackett, PhD — Founding Director, Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence; his research underpins the importance of naming and labeling feelingsDr. Dan Siegel — Mindsight Institute; referenced throughout in connection with emotional brain scienceDr. Tina Payne Bryson — Co-author of The Whole-Brain Child; referenced for visualization/nightmare workMargaret McFarland — Developmental psychologist, University of Pittsburgh; the behind-the-scenes architect of Mr. Rogers' NeighborhoodFred Rogers — Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood; his show was intentionally designed around emotional regulation scienceDr. Benjamin Spock — Author of what Jon calls essentially the first gentle parenting book in the 1940sErik Erikson — Developmental psychologist whose early attachment work is foundational to the fieldHarry Harlow — Researcher whose Rhesus Monkey experiments helped establish attachment theoryJaak Panksepp — Behavioral neuroscientist; his work on memory consolidation informs the bedtime reading recommendationWant to become a more secure, confident parent? 👉 Join the Secure Parenting ProgramLearn more about secure parenting: https://www.attachmentnerd.com/secure-parenting-programConnect with Eli:Website: https://www.attachmentnerd.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerdMusic by Gold Child: https://www.goldchildmusic.com/
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    29 min
  • How To Deal With Your Child’s Sensory Needs | With Tia Gamelin

    How To Deal With Your Child’s Sensory Needs | With Tia Gamelin
    Apr 17 2026
    Episode SummaryIn this deeply insightful episode, Eli sits down with Tia Gamelin — neurodiversity-affirming pediatric occupational therapist, ADHD coach, and mother of four — to explore the hidden sensory world underneath your child's "difficult" behavior. Together they unpack why behavior is always communication, why there are actually eight senses (not five), and how understanding your child's sensory profile can radically transform your relationship with them — and with yourself as a parent.Key TakeawaysBehavior is communication that comes out sideways. When children act out, they are not being defiant — they are telling us their sensory system is overwhelmed and needs support.There are 8 senses, not 5. In addition to sight, smell, taste, touch, and hearing, children also rely on the vestibular system (inner gyroscope/movement), proprioception (body position in space), and interoception (internal body signals linked to emotional regulation).The sensory traffic jam: In children with sensory processing differences, sensory signals don't travel smoothly — they get "jammed," making the world feel confusing, frightening, and overwhelming.Environment is everything. Tia's EAR Triangle (Environment → Activity → Response) teaches us to look at the physical, temporal, and social environment first before trying to change a child's behavior.Neurodivergence is not a disorder — it's a difference. Dr. Nancy Doyle's research argues that if neurodivergence only created disability, it would not persist in the gene pool. These are specialist thinkers the world needs.Disability vs. impairment: People have impairments; environments create disability. Our job is to modify the environment, not fix the child.Co-regulation is not a crutch. Children — and even adults — borrow regulated states from trusted others. Helping a dysregulated child feel safe IS the intervention.Visual schedules work. When a child is dysregulated, meaningful speech is the first thing they lose. Pictures and visual tools bypass the verbal brain and help organize their world.Guardrails aren't restrictive — they're freeing. Structure and predictability lower the cognitive load for neurodivergent kids so they can actually show up and learn.You are also on this journey. Parenting a neurodivergent child often surfaces your own unidentified sensory needs and processing differences. Grace for yourself is part of the work.About the GuestTia Gamelin, OTR/L, ADHD-CCSP is a mother of four with over 22 years of experience as a neurodiversity-affirming pediatric occupational therapist specializing in sensory integration and supporting twice-exceptional learners. She is passionate about the Montessori approach and brings a holistic, joyful lens to helping kids and families thrive.🌐 Website: Black Bird Therapy Group💼 LinkedIn: Tia Gamelin📸 Instagram: @tiagamelin📧 Email: tia@blackbirdtherapygroup.comResources Mentioned📗 Jean Ayres — Sensory Integration and the Child (25th Anniversary Edition) The foundational text by the mother of sensory integration theory. Essential reading for parents of kids with sensory processing differences. Amazon link🔬 Dr. Nancy Doyle — Neurodiversity at Work: A Biopsychosocial Model and the Impact on Working Adults (British Medical Bulletin, 2020) The peer-reviewed paper Tia references about why neurodivergence persists in the gene pool — and why that matters. Oxford Academic / British Medical Bulletin | PubMed📊 CHADD — ADHD Prevalence Data (1 in 9 children) The source behind the statistic that approximately 1 in 9 U.S. children have been diagnosed with ADHD. CHADD General Prevalence Page📊 CDC — Autism Spectrum Disorder Data (1 in 31 children) CDC's ADDM Network data showing approximately 1 in 31 children aged 8 years have been identified with ASD. CDC ASD Data & Statistics🧠 Interoception & the Insula — Research Overview Research on interoception, the "eighth sense" located in the insula, and its role in emotional regulation. Stanford / Menon Lab (2024) | NIH PMC — Anterior Insular Cortex & Emotional Awareness📉 Negative Comments Research — ADHD & Neurodivergent Children Research (attributed to psychiatrist William W. Dodson) indicating that children with ADHD receive significantly more negative messages by early school age than their neurotypical peers. Free to Be Counselling OverviewLearn more about secure parenting: https://www.attachmentnerd.com/secure-parenting-programConnect with Eli:Website: https://www.attachmentnerd.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerdMusic by Gold Child: https://www.goldchildmusic.com/
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    41 min
  • How To Make a Parenting U-Turn | With Wendy Synder

    How To Make a Parenting U-Turn | With Wendy Synder
    Apr 10 2026
    Episode SummaryIf you've ever whispered to yourself, "Is it too late? Have I already done too much damage?" — this episode is for you. Eli sits down with Wendy Snyder, founder of Fresh Start Family and author of the brand-new book Fresh Start Your Family, to talk about the most hopeful truth in parenting: it is never too late to start over. Wendy shares her own raw journey from a reactive, overwhelmed mom to a parenting educator who has helped thousands of families worldwide break the cycle of fear-based discipline — and she brings the receipts, the real stories, and the practical tools to prove it.Key TakeawaysYou are not failing — your nervous system is repeating what it knows. When you snap, yell, or fall back into old patterns, it's not a character flaw. It's a conditioned response. Self-compassion is the first step to change, not a luxury.Failure is just unfinished success. Mistakes — yours and your kids' — are opportunities to learn, not evidence that you're a bad parent. 99% of mistakes are repairable.Your nervous system chooses the comfortable hell over the uncomfortable heaven — until it gets enough data that something new is safe. Change is possible, but it takes consistent small steps and community support.Repair is greater than perfection. A true repair includes: owning your part, affirming your child's dignity ("You don't deserve to be spoken to that way"), sharing what you're learning, and doing a make-up — an act of service to restore the relationship.Strong-willed kids are cycle breakers. They are the ones who force the change. Their resistance to fear-based tactics is a feature, not a bug.A fresh start is available at every age — with toddlers, tweens, teens, and yes, even as an adult child with aging parents. Humility + willingness = the beginning of change.True leadership isn't certainty and control — it's maintaining connection while holding dignity for the whole family.About the GuestWendy Snyder is the founder & CEO of Fresh Start Family, an online worldwide educational positive parenting platform, and host of The Fresh Start Family Show podcast. Through her transformational programs, coaching, and courses, Wendy has helped thousands of families break generational cycles of fear, punishment, and disconnection. Her new book, Fresh Start Your Family: Powerful Parenting to Restore Peace in Your Home, is available now.Connect with Wendy:🌐 Website: freshstartfamilyonline.com📸 Instagram: @freshstartwendy👍 Facebook: Fresh Start Family💼 LinkedIn: Wendy Snyder🐦 Twitter/X: @freshstartwendyResources Mentioned📘 Fresh Start Your Family by Wendy Snyder — Wendy's new book on powerful parenting to restore peace in your home🌐 Fresh Start Family Online — Wendy's parenting platform with courses, coaching, and community💪 Strong-Willed Kids Free Resource — Free guide & workshop for parents of strong-willed children🧠 Freedom to Be Retreat – Fresh Start Family — Wendy's immersive life coaching weekend retreat for healing limiting beliefs and nervous system patterns📖 The Garden Within by Dr. Anita Phillips — Referenced for her work on nervous system, emotions, and healing (NYT & WSJ Bestseller, featured on Oprah's Super Soul Podcast)🌿 Dr. Anita Phillips – Website — Trauma therapist, minister, and thought leader at the intersection of mental health, faith, and cultureConnect🔒 Secure Parenting Program: attachmentnerd.com/secure-parenting-program🌐 Eli's Website: attachmentnerd.com📸 Instagram: @attachmentnerd🎵 TikTok: @attachmentnerd🎶 Music by Gold Child: goldchildmusic.com
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    31 min
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