Ernest Ellender, a trauma-informed life coach, discusses the transition from psychology to life coaching, the impact of insurance on practice, the importance of childhood skills, parenting and trauma-informed coaching, top questions in life coaching, the behavioral and emotional triangle, a rule-based approach to healing, natural consequences in parenting, defining success in parenting, and book availability and contact information.

Takeaways

• Trauma-informed life coaching
• Natural consequences in parenting

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction to Ernest Ellender
• 06:06 The Impact of Insurance on Practice
• 11:55 Parenting and Trauma-Informed Coaching
• 17:57 Behavioral and Emotional Triangle
• 24:05 Natural Consequences in Parenting
• 29:58 Book Availability and Contact Information

A story of abandonment, abuse, identity, and the radical decision to break generational cycles

What if the people who were supposed to love and protect you… simply disappeared? What if the adults in your life failed you in ways that shaped every relationship afterward? And what if—despite all of that—you still chose to become the parent, the protector, and the healer no one ever was for you?

In this gripping conversation, author and trial attorney Steven Eichenblatt opens up about a childhood marked by abandonment, emotional neglect, violence, and a stepfather whose temper ruled the house. When Steven was just eight, his biological father emotionally checked out—and ultimately physically left—after a psychiatrist chillingly advised him to “pretend they are dead.”

Decades later, a freak accident would force their worlds to collide again… and Steven was the only witness.

For more than 30 years, he kept the truth of that day buried.

In this episode, Steven shares:

✨ The emotional reality of growing up with a distant father and an abusive stepfather

✨ The shocking truth he uncovered about that accident

✨ How generational trauma affected his marriages, parenting, and identity

✨ The inner work required to finally break his cycle of emotional disconnection

✨ What he learned from searching for answers, forgiveness, and himself

✨ How he became the father he never had—and the advocate he needed as a child

Steven’s story is raw, honest, and deeply human.

This is an episode for anyone who:

💔 Has experienced parental estrangement

💔 Grew up feeling unseen or unprotected

💔 Still carries wounds from childhood they can’t quite name💔 Wants to understand why they repeat patterns in relationships

💔 Is on a healing journey to break generational trauma

His message is clear: trauma shapes us, but it does not define who we get to become.

If you’ve ever wondered why you struggle with connection…If your childhood still echoes in your relationships…If you long to understand your story so you can rewrite it…

Steven’s journey will help you see your own wounds—and your own strength—with new clarity.

This episode will shake you, soften you, and remind you: You can choose a different ending than the one you inherited.

Don’t miss this one. If you skip it, you’ll miss a rare conversation that shows what healing actually looks like—messy, brave, and impossibly hopeful.

http://www.stevenscotteichenblatt.com

If you’ve been running on empty, giving everyone the best of you while getting the leftovers yourself… this episode is your turning point.

Today’s guest, Dr. Melanie Gray, brings more than twenty years of experience in healthcare leadership and trauma‑informed healing—and she is here with a message burnt‑out moms need right now:

👉 You are not meant to survive motherhood exhausted. You are meant to live whole.

Dr. Gray has helped thousands of women move from constant reaction mode to deep nervous‑system regulation, using her signature STOP‑IT™ Method. Her work blends neuroscience, compassion, and real‑world tools to help you stop carrying burnout like a badge of honor—and start valuing yourself as much as you value everyone you care for.

For moms who are tired of being tired, tired of feeling guilty for needing rest, tired of holding everything together while falling apart inside…this episode is both a wake‑up call and a soft landing.

You will learn:

✨ Why so many moms feel guilty when they slow down—and how to break that cycle

✨ How trauma‑informed practices can help you recover from chronic stress

✨ Why your exhaustion isn’t a personal failure—it’s a nervous system overwhelmed

✨ The subtle early signs of emotional depletion most women ignore

✨ How to set boundaries without guilt (especially when everyone needs you)

✨ How to create calm in your body even when life is chaotic

✨ Why healing yourself creates a healthier home for your family

Dr. Gray’s message is simple but revolutionary:

👉 When moms heal, families heal. When families heal, communities heal.

If you’re a mom who’s been pushing beyond your limits, silently struggling, or wishing for just one moment to breathe—this conversation will help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your energy, and remember that you matter, too.

In this episode, I sit down with Alison Bladh, an award‑winning Nutritional Therapist and esthetician with over 30 years of experience supporting women through perimenopause, menopause, and midlife transformation. Growing up on a farm in Southern England with a professional chef as her mother sparked her deep love of food, and her global travels shaped her culturally rich, evidence‑based approach to wellness. Now living in Sweden, Alison blends science, nutrition, and mindset to help women feel strong, energized, and truly at home in their bodies during one of the most misunderstood stages of life.

During our conversation, Alison opens up about the early experiences that ignited her passion, the defining moment she chose to specialize in midlife women’s health, and the biggest misconceptions that leave women feeling confused and defeated. She shares how she approaches midlife weight gain (especially stubborn belly fat), why mindset and stress physiology matter more than most women realize, and the simple daily shifts that help women work with their body instead of against it. Whether you're navigating perimenopause now or preparing for it, this episode is packed with clarity, compassion, and practical steps you can start using today.

After you listen, send me a message and tell me your biggest “aha” moment from this episode. And if you’re ready to feel like the best version of yourself—body, mind, and emotions—this conversation is the perfect place to start.

Connect with Alison Bladh at: https://www.alisonbladh.com/

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https://www.alisonbladh.com/book

If you’ve ever wondered how to build authentic relationships that go beyond wealth, fame, or status, this episode is for you. David Homan, CEO and Founder of Orchestrated Connecting, shares the secrets behind creating purposeful communities and events that foster trust and impact. You’ll hear the inspiring story behind his global network, learn why true connection matters more than money, and discover how community can help heal our world.

Tune in to learn:

• How to change the way people connect

• Why intentionality is the key to trust

• The power of community in creating global change

Website: orchestratedconnecting.com

Want to be a guest on Healing For The Soul?

Send Robin Stoltman a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1749851840291547b51ebfec5

Connect with Supermom, Robin Stoltman at: https://popl.co/profile/robinstoltman

What does it really take to grow a thriving business while raising kids—and do it without losing yourself? In this powerful conversation, we sit down with The Intuitive CEO, a multi-award-winning tech founder and one of the world’s first Accredited Master Intuitive Psychology Coaches. She shares raw, honest lessons from building companies and raising a family, all while using intuition as her anchor.

You’ll hear how she navigated burnout, made soul-aligned decisions, and redefined success beyond the hustle culture. If you’ve ever wondered how to balance ambition with presence—or how to trust your inner compass when the stakes are high—this episode is for you.

Website: www.purposepanda.co.uk

Listen now and discover how intuition can transform the way you lead, parent, and live.

Connect with Supermom, Robin Stoltman at: https://popl.co/profile/robinstoltman

In this powerful conversation with Dani Sheriff, we dive into a topic most women—and even many doctors—overlook: hypothalamic amenorrhea (HA), the condition behind missing periods in women who think they’re living “healthy.” Dani shares her personal turning point when her own body shut down despite clean eating and intense training, and how that experience led her to create The HA Society, a science-based program that’s helped hundreds of women restore their cycles naturally.

We unpack why HA isn’t just an athlete’s issue, but something affecting high-achieving women everywhere—especially those juggling careers, families, and perfectionist tendencies. Dani explains the hidden fears driving resistance to recovery, the identity crisis around exercise, and why “just eat more” is not the solution. She also reveals the surprising dark side of recovery and what happens after your period returns.

For parent entrepreneurs, this episode is a wake-up call: the same drive that fuels your success can silently sabotage your health. If you’ve ever pushed yourself to the limit or feared slowing down, you need to hear this. Dani’s insights will challenge your beliefs about discipline, health, and self-worth—and might just change the way you care for yourself.

Why listen?

Because your health is the foundation of your business, your family, and your future. This episode will help you recognize the warning signs, understand the science, and take the first steps toward true balance.

Website: https://thehasociety.com

This episode isn’t about dating tips. It’s about the real reason love feels so hard—especially in mid-life.

After losing his 19-year-old son, Jonathon Aslay’s understanding of love was forever changed. Grief didn’t just break his heart—it stripped everything down to what actually matters. What emerged was a deeper truth most people never confront: we don’t struggle to find love because we’re unlovable… we struggle because we don’t fully love ourselves.

In this raw, honest conversation, Jonathon exposes the quiet self-worth wounds that keep women stuck in unhealthy relationships, choosing the wrong partners, or walking away from love altogether out of exhaustion and self-protection.

We talk about:

• What grief teaches us about love that success and happiness never can

• How to recognize when “bad luck in love” is really a self-worth issue

• Why mid-life heartbreak hits differently—and how to rebuild after it

• The most damaging lie about self-love that keeps people lonely

• The first practical step to loving yourself differently—starting today
  

If you’ve ever felt unseen, unchosen, too much, or not enough… If you’re tired of repeating the same relationship patterns… If you know you want love but don’t trust yourself anymore…

This episode is for you.

https://www.youtube.com/@JonathonAslay

🎧 Listen now and discover why self-love isn’t selfish—it’s the foundation of everything.